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Sara’s got a question in from a girl who wants to do the smart thing when it comes to sex and be safe, but she’s afraid to ask her mom for birth control. She thinks her mom might flip. Sara’s got some words of wisdom for this super awkward, but super necessary conversation. From practicing to remembering that moms have sex too (we know!), Sara will coach you through talking to your mom about getting on the pill.
Have you ever had to ask your mom for birth control pills? Do you think your mom would flip if you followed Sara’s advice? Tell us everything in the comments!
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My mom is very strict….and im really scared to ask her to let me be on birth control…what should i do?
Just recently I worked up the courage to talk to my mom about getting birth control. I’ve been sexually active for about a year now, and always used condoms. With my most recent boyfriend, however, I’ve been slacking. I don’t think parents realize how difficult it is to stop and put one on when there is such intense chemistry, or when he doesn’t like to wear one. People can have fits about forcing him to, but something tells me that they’ve never been in that situation before. Anyway, I had a pregnancy scare and now we are using condoms again, but naturally, we want to stop. So, I decided it would be good for me to investigate birth control. I don’t like the idea of putting fake hormones in my body, and I want to have kids when I get married so I don’t want anything permanent. I found the ParaGuard IUD, and it’s just what I’m looking for. I don’t have to remember to take a pill or worry about a patch or ring, and I can be spontaneous.
So, the discussion with my mom. I explained that I had slept with a past boyfriend that she loved (I did not mention my other past sexual encounters). And then I said I have no recent plans, but I wanted to be careful in the future. Naturally, she was shocked, and disappointed, but understood where I was coming from. I then explained that I was not going to be using this as an excuse to sleep around and I would continue using condoms, but I just wanted to be prepared. I think she liked how mature and responsible I came off, but it was still the most awkward and uncomfortable experience of my life since my mother is extremely conservative.
My advice is to not say that you’ve slept with more than one person, to tell her that you don’t have any plans to, but just want to be prepared.
My mom was not happy but said sure any way?
the first time me and my mom talked about that she just flat out said ‘i think you should get birth control i dont want to be a grandma right now’ she knows i have sex A LOT and shes just protecting me i thought it was nice(x
my conversation about starting the pill with my mom:
me: i think i’m going to go on the pill.
mom: but you use condoms, right?
me: yeah but i think my boyfriend and i are ready for…more.
mom: …..
me: don’t worry we’ve both tested for stds and are negative and everything *shows papers*
mom: …i can’t believe you and {boyfriend} are going to do…the RAW PUPPY…
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OMG!my mom would kill me!and i think ir is really normal for her bc/ in our country people are not allowed to have sex out of a marriage!!(i think its stupid!),
But in a normal country its ok,and i think if i would ask her she would help me
Personally I don’t think my mom would let me get on the pill and to be honest, I would agree with her. My sister went on the pill for a while and it caused her nothing but problems!! She put on a lot of weight, she was getting migrains and headaches every single day!! The pill has sooo many side affects that in my opinion it’s not worth getting on it.
then if anything, just let her know you’re sexually active (if that’s the issue, if it’s hormonal, the convo shouldn’t be a problem)