Gurl.com » masturbating http://www.gurl.com A teen site and community for teenage girls Tue, 11 Jun 2013 22:10:17 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 Is It Okay To Masturbate When You’re On Your Period?http://www.gurl.com/2013/06/08/is-it-okay-to-masturbate-when-on-your-period/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=is-it-okay-to-masturbate-when-on-your-period http://www.gurl.com/2013/06/08/is-it-okay-to-masturbate-when-on-your-period/#comments Sat, 08 Jun 2013 21:00:22 +0000 Heather http://www.gurl.com/?p=113810 Read More]]> girl in underwear

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Hi Heather,

I have sort of a weird question that I’m scared to ask anyone else. Is it okay to masturbate when you’re on your period? Am I gross if I do it? And since there’s all that blood down there, is it unhealthy? Plus, how do you even do it?

Good news: it’s totally, totally fine to masturbate while you’re on your period. If you’re comfortable with it, it’s not gross and as long as you’re clean about things, it’s not unhealthy.

In fact, masturbating during your period is probably a big benefit to you. When you have your period, all of these crazy hormonal things are happening to your body and these hormones can make you even more in the mood, if you catch my drift. So, you probably feel extra, um, cravings to masturbate during this time anyway. Masturbation can also help relieve painful cramps from your period. And if you have mood swings, pleasuring yourself has been proven to make you feel happy and to help get rid of stress (read more about what masturbation does here). I see nothing but good things here!

I mean, yes, a masturbation session during your period may end up being more messy than masturbating when you’re not on your period. There’s blood down there so that makes sense, right? I would suggest laying down a few old towels before you get busy and, of course, washing your hands when you’re done. If you don’t feel like cleaning anything up, you can also try sitting on the toilet so things are more manageable.

As for how to do it, try stimulating your clitoris rather than doing anything vaginally. If you masturbate by stimulating your clitoris, you can keep a tampon in, which will help with the mess. If you don’t want to stick your fingers in there, you can try using sex toys, but make sure you don’t already have a tampon in your vagina – in fact, if you plan on putting anything inside of your vagina, make sure there is no tampon in there at all.

So, yes, masturbating while on your period is perfectly fine and totally normal. Don’t let anyone make you feel weird about doing it (you don’t even have to tell anyone!). This is your body and there’s nothing wrong with exploring it, even if things get a little messy. After all, this is just your blood we’re talking about here. No big deal!

take care,
Heather

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]]> http://www.gurl.com/2013/06/08/is-it-okay-to-masturbate-when-on-your-period/feed/ 2 GIF My Life: Talking About Masturbationhttp://www.gurl.com/2013/03/21/masturbation-talk/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=masturbation-talk http://www.gurl.com/2013/03/21/masturbation-talk/#comments Thu, 21 Mar 2013 21:00:54 +0000 Meg Malone http://www.gurl.com/?p=103306 Read More]]> While a lot of you have opened up on Gurl to talk about masturbation, we also get that it’s not always something people feel comfortable talking about in-person. Take GIF Girl, for example.

She’s totally cool with self-exploration, but doesn’t really talk about her experiences as much as some of her peers. Well, she wanted a chance to defend her side of the story and show that thought she may not be someone who talks a lot about it, that definitely doesn’t mean she thinks there’s anything wrong with it. In fact, it’s quite the opposite! Take a look:

My friends are all super open when it comes to talking about their bodies, including masturbation.

I am a little bit more on the quieter side.

I guess I’m just not as forward when it comes to talking about… you know, private stuff you do.

But even still, I know that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it!

It’s nothing to be ashamed of and there are a whole bunch of reasons to masturbate!

Okay if I’m being totally honest, at first, maybe thinking about doing it made me a little nervous.

But then I got past that and realized it’s totally a way to give yourself some well-deserved attention.

If you’re taking care of business all by yourself, that means you don’t have to worry about some stressful things

And there’s not really a wrong way to do it, so nothing really to worry about there!

It’s okay to do if you’re single or in a relationship. Everyone deserves to focus on themselves sometimes!

Oh, but one thing: you probably want to make sure you have privacy when you do it.

I mean, it’s never happened to me, but I feel like getting caught would be mortifying.

So to sum it all up, while at first I felt like I was weird for not being as open as my friends about masturbation…

…I realized it’s my body, my business.

As long as I know it’s okay and what works for me, that’s really all that matters!

Do you talk about masturbation with your friends? Tell us in the comments.

 

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We’re always talking about the benefits of masturbation on Gurl, because… hey, masturbation is awesome! I don’t think it’s too hard to agree with that. But is there such a thing as overdoing it when it comes to masturbation? In fact – can masturbating too much actually ruin your relationship? A new study says, yeah, it’s possible.

Relax, relax. I’m not taking this study seriously and you probably shouldn’t either. Well actually, if you’re legitimately addicted to masturbation, you should take it seriously because then, yeah, your addiction is probably ruining your relationship. But if you’re just a girl who enjoys having a little fun on her own every once in a while (or everyday, whatever), you probably don’t have anything to worry about.

Why? Well, this study that says too much masturbating can possibly ruin your relationship is a study that was done on people who are legit addicted to masturbation. You can see how that may cause a problem.

Apparently, the survey was done to increase tolerance of excessive masturbation, because although it’s a serious issue, I guess not many people take it very seriously. I can see how it may come off as just plain creepy or as a lame excuse to some people, but guys, this is a real thing and really can cause some big problems in a relationship.

Do you have to worry about it? Probably not. If you’re masturbating multiple times a day every day, if you’d constantly rather play with yourself than hook up with someone else, if you feel like you can’t go a few hours without pleasuring yourself… then yeah, maybe you have an issue.

But if you’re just taking some time to masturbate every day? No worries! As we’ve said before, masturbating is fun and harmless. It’s a great way to get in touch with your sexuality, to figure out what you really like, to get in a better mood or to feel relaxed after a stressful day. Did I mention that it’s fun?

In conclusion, masturbating is not going to ruin your relationship. Like all great things, too much of it will cause problems (life is unfair). But as long as you’re not obsessed with masturbation, you should be fine. In fact, I’m encouraging you to masturbate, whether you’re in a relationship or not. I’m not trying to be creepy – it’s good for you!

Has masturbation ever ruined any of your relationships? Do you know anyone who is addicted to masturbation? Do you think you do it too much? Tell me in the comments!

 

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]]> http://www.gurl.com/2013/03/06/masturbating-too-much/feed/ 0 The Best Things You’ve Ever Said About Masturbationhttp://www.gurl.com/2013/03/01/talk-about-masturbation/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=talk-about-masturbation http://www.gurl.com/2013/03/01/talk-about-masturbation/#comments Fri, 01 Mar 2013 21:00:08 +0000 Meg Malone http://www.gurl.com/?p=100628 Read More]]> This week, we’re doing something a little bit different to mix up the comments of the week. Instead of limiting ourselves to the past seven days, we’re opening it up to all those personal thoughts that you all have offered up in the comments in the past weeks, months, even years!

We write about a whole lot of stuff here, but one topic that never fails to get a conversation going is masturbation. So naturally, when we went mining through the things you have said in the past, we found some wise and honest words from you on that very topic that we wanted to share. These are some of the best things that you have said about masturbation. Take a look!

From “Why Masturbate? Five Reasons To Use Your Five Fingers!”

 

From “The Complete Guide To Masturbation”

 

From “Why Masturbate? Five Reasons To Use Your Five Fingers!”

 

From “The Complete Guide To Masturbation”

 

From “Survey Says: Are You Down With Self-Exploration?”

 

From “Survey: All About Masturbation”

 

From “50 Cent Teachers Us About Masturbation”

 

From “Top Ten Reasons To Masturbate”

 

From “Survey Says: Are You Down With Self-Exploration?”

 

Do you have your own thoughts on masturbation to share? Tell us in the comments. 

 

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Masturbation may not be something that you chat about with all of your friends, but let’s face it: it’s a normal thing that most people participate in on a regular basis. Masturbating is nothing to be ashamed of and there’s nothing wrong with wanting to pleasure yourself… but still, we all seem a little afraid to open up about it.

Whether or not you’re one of those people who can talk about masturbating like it’s no big deal or someone who keeps that bit of personal stuff private, take this survey. No one has to know which answers are yours! Just copy and paste the questions into the comments and start getting personal.

 

1. First things first: do you masturbate?

2. How often do you masturbate?

3. When did you first start masturbating?

4. If you have never done it, why not?

5. Did you ever feel afraid to pleasure yourself?

6. What is your preferred method of masturbation?

7. Do you talk about masturbating with your friends?

8. Has anyone ever caught you in the act?

9. Have you ever caught anyone else in the act?

10. Would you ever masturbate in front of a boyfriend or girlfriend?

11. Does talking about masturbation make you uncomfortable?

12. In your opinion, how much is too much when it comes to masturbation?

13. Where are you usually when you masturbate?

14. Would you ever consider masturbation a form of cheating?

15. Have you ever seen porn movies?

16. Would you get offended if a friend talked to you about masturbating?

17. How would you feel if you found out your crush thought about you when masturbating?

18. Has anyone ever told you that masturbation is wrong?

19. What would you do if someone caught you masturbating?

20. Would you ever do it in front of a pet?

 

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]]> http://www.gurl.com/2013/01/06/masturbation-survey/feed/ 150 50 Cent Teaches Us About Masturbationhttp://www.gurl.com/2012/09/27/50-cent-masturbation-sin/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=50-cent-masturbation-sin http://www.gurl.com/2012/09/27/50-cent-masturbation-sin/#comments Thu, 27 Sep 2012 20:18:23 +0000 Emerald Pellot http://www.gurl.com/?p=80887 Read More]]> Remember 50 Cent? Remember how he instructed us to, “Go, Shorty!” because it was our birthday and to, “Party like it’s our birthday,” and perhaps, if we were of legal age and felt it tickled our fancy, we should, “Sip Bacardi,” because it was, in fact, our birthdays? I remember vividly. In his later years, Sir 50 Cent pondered the merits of whether he should, “Get rich” or “Die trying.” A difficult ultimatum for anyone, I’d imagine. Today 50 Cent has moved onto, a less grand but equally as important dilemma, masturbation. 50 has declared clicking the mouse is a sin. *Clutches pearls*

Don’t worry, guys! In case you were wondering how to shake this habit, he has provided 4 simple steps on how to quit touching yourself.

He is watching me masturbate? I didn’t know He felt that way about me, I’m totally blushing!

I didn’t really agree to stop, but if you insist . . .

I’m already failing miserably.

How else am I going to look at their butts? Some people have such good butts!

What if you work at a strip club?

What if your turn ons include sandwiches? Should I stop reading Bon Appetite?

Masturbation is normal and healthy. (No matter what any rapper tries to tell you!) If you have religious inclinations it’s actually a great alternative to sex when you want to save yourself. It releases endorphins that make you feel good. There are just no cons to masturbation. It’s the safest way to explore one’s sexuality and people of any age can practice it without consequence.

Do you think masturbation is a sin? Let us know in the comments!

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Ellen!

Masturbation is something people do at any and every point in their lives — whether they’re single or in a relationship, old or young, male or female. What’s great about masturbation is that there is no right or wrong way to do it, you don’t need any supplies, and it is perfectly healthy and safe. This guide was written by Ellen Friedrichs, a sex education teacher, to help clear up some confusion surrounding masturbation, answer the most common questions people have and offer tips and advice on a subject that can be tough to talk about. Read on to learn more about masturbation, and hopefully, get some of your questions answered.

]]> http://www.gurl.com/2011/06/16/complete-guide-to-teen-girl-female-masturbation/feed/ 403 Wet Dreamshttp://www.gurl.com/2011/05/02/wet-dreams-masturbation-orgasm-erotic-dreams-involuntary-ejaculation/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=wet-dreams-masturbation-orgasm-erotic-dreams-involuntary-ejaculation http://www.gurl.com/2011/05/02/wet-dreams-masturbation-orgasm-erotic-dreams-involuntary-ejaculation/#comments Mon, 02 May 2011 20:22:58 +0000 Gurl http://www.gurl.com/?p=28898 Read More]]> What is it? Wet dreams are generally defined as erotic dreams that culminate with an orgasm. They are very commonly associated with nocturnal emissions–an involuntary ejaculation that occurs while one is asleep (hence the “wet” in the phrase “wet dreams”).

Who experiences them? Wet dreams typically occur in males during their prepubescent and teenage years. Though they usually taper off as guys mature, some men may experience wet dreams well into adulthood. Girls experience wet dreams also; however they aren’t as common (or aren’t as easily recognized by women, as by men).When a female experiences a wet dream, the vagina becomes lubricated as she becomes sexually aroused in her dream. However, less liquid is produced by females, leaving little evidence of a wet dream when she wakes up.

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Dear Heather,

Happy Valentine’s Day! I’m wondering though, how can you masturbate on your period?

Happy Valentine’s Day to you, too! What an excellent question on a day that can bring lots of lonely girls, especially those who are exacerbatedly hormonal from a period, a whole bunch of pleasure. It might be a bummer to be on your period for a lot of reasons, not getting to masturbate isn’t one of them. There are so many ways to pleasure yourself, on your period or not, that don’t involve actually touching yourself when your flow is. Fingering yourself isn’t the only way to have an orgasm!

|Touching yourself there not only feels good, but also releases sexual tension and helps you learn a lot about your sexual preferences. So go ahead gURLs, bravely (and anonymously) help us break down the masturbation taboo and share your stories with this fun survey!|

In fact, many gURLs can’t come from any penetration, but instead, rub the outside, over, on, near and around the clitoris, vulva and labia. Pinching, pressing, stroking, tickling, kneading and rubbing that sensitive area in a sensual rhythm should lead to orgasm. It’s important to make sure you have privacy (unless you’re this gURL) and to not worry about how long it might take. Just enjoy the feeling. Touching your nipples and around the anus can also turn a gURL on!

Explore all the parts of your body! Touching yourself on your sides, hips, across your neck and chest, behind your ears — these are all sensitive areas that, especially with the power of fantasy and imagination, can get you off. If you have to be naked when you masturbate, just put a towel down so you don’t stain anything that might be hard to clean.

Do any gURLs out there have masturbation tips of their own? I’d love to hear what you think.

take care,
heather

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I have known my close friend since I was a little kid. I recently walked into his room and he was masturbating to porn. Now it’s really awkward to be around him. What should I do?

I can see how that could really make things awkward. The good news is that this awkwardness is likely to fade over time.If you haven’t talked with him about this, you might try that. Addressing what happened, instead of avoiding the subject, may actually make the awkwardness go away more quickly. No need to linger on what he was doing, just apologize and tell him you’ll be more careful next time–that you’ll knock first.

Since you two have been hanging out since you were kids, walking into your friend’s room without announcing yourself or asking permission may have, in the past, felt like a perfectly natural thing to do. However, you’re both getting older and you’re bound to need more privacy.

In order to avoid this kind of awkwardness, it might help for both of you to acknowledge that you will have to be more careful in the future.

take care,
heather

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