We thought it would be fun for us to tell you our most embarrassing hookup stories! Trust me, they are pretty bad. Click on our pictures below to read our hookup confessions.

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A lot of people hook up with friends and strangers. But not all hookups are created equal! Some are terrible but great for gossip fodder, others are fun but leave a lot of confused feelings in their wake. It’s easy to determine how good or bad our hook up partners are, but how often do we evaluate ourselves?

Are you inconsiderate? Do you worry more about your hookup’s feelings than your own? Have you been a consistently awesome hook up? Find out by taking our quiz below!

Do you hook up a lot? Have your hookups been mostly good or mostly awful? Tell us in the comments!

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A new study on regret just came out and some of the findings were pretty interesting. Researchers found that the majority of the women studied were more likely to regret having casual sex that never led to a relationship while the majority of men were more likely to regret not having casual sex. Basically, women are more likely to regret a hookup than men are. And, as I said before, that icky feeling of regret is kind of the worst. So how do you deal with it? For starters, read these 8 tips on how to deal with regret after a bad hookup – even if you don’t need it now, it may come in handy one day.

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Take A Shower

This but sound ridiculous, but seriously - take a shower! If you hook up with someone and immediately feel like you need to get out of your own skin, hop into the shower. You're literally cleaning yourself and it may feel like you're cleaning yourself of the hookup also. Basically, you'll feel clean and new after your shower. Also, a nice, hot shower is relaxing and can help you forget about what just happened.

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Cut Off All Ties

If you're totally freaking out about a hookup, you shouldn't feel like you need to keep talking to this person just because you guys did stuff. At the same time, I wouldn't just drop him/her without saying anything. If they're still contacting you, let this person know that you're not interested. You don't have to be like, "I regret that SO much," but you can just say that you don't think things are going to work out.

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Let Yourself Cry A Little

It's okay to cry! If you're feeling totally bummed out about what you just did, let it out. Ignoring your emotions and just trying to push it to the back of your mind so that you don't think about it isn't going to help you move on. Cry in the privacy of your own room, scream into your pillow, whatever. Just let it out, girl.

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Don't Beat Yourself Up

Okay, so you had a bad hookup. Maybe you got with someone you weren't supposed to or maybe the whole thing was just awkward and embarrassing. Don't make yourself feel horrible about it. This stuff happens and once it's over, there's nothing you can do to take it back, so you just need to learn to forgive yourself. Don't make yourself feel awful just because you had one bad experience.

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Don't Feel Like You Have To Tell Anyone

Totally embarrassed by what happened? Don't feel like you need to blab about it to your friends. It's okay to keep some things to yourself and if you're not comfortable talking about it, you don't have to. Yes, it may help you to open up to your best friend, but if you don't want to, don't force yourself. This can be your little secret to forget about.

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Learn From Your Mistakes

Mistakes happen. The good thing about them? They can teach you stuff. Take this bad hookup as a lesson for what not to do in the future. Also, don't repeat it. Some girls feel like they have to hook up with a guy a second time - maybe because they feel guilty rejecting the person or maybe because they're just hoping things will be better the second time around. But if thinking about doing it makes you squirm, then don't do it!

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Focus On The Future

Like I said before, don't beat yourself up about this. Learn from your mistakes and focus on doing things that you're more comfortable with in the future. Living in the past and feeling regret is never going to make you happen, so don't focus on what already happened. Remember, you can't change the past, but you can make the future better.

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Forget About It And Move Forward

Finally, it's time to move on. Stop thinking about it, stop talking about it and stop crying about it. Forget it ever happened and get on with your life. One bad hookup is not the end of the world.

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Have you ever regretted a hookup? How did you deal? Have you ever had a terrible hookup? Tell us in the comments.

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My friend was telling me a particularly detailed story about having sex in her parents’ kitchen. Ew, right? I’m super open about sex, but I was not high-fiving her on this one. I just think there are some places that shouldn’t involve people getting their freak on.

I started thinking about inappropriate places people have sex in and thought it’d be a good guideline just in case you’re getting a little too adventurous with your partner. Check out these places where you shouldn’t be getting busy!

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Kitchens

Your parents' kitchen, your friend's kitchen, his parent's kitchen. Just no. Unless it's your own kitchen (still gross) just avoid it. I mean you cook and eat there! There doesn't need to be any special sauce added to your meal, okay?

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At Your Place Of Work

Whether you're hooking up with someone you work with or your boo comes to visit you, do not get it on in the office or supply closet! This is a serious no-no.

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A Populated Beach

Unless you're on a private beach, don't do it. Even on a private beach, don't do it. Sex on the beach is NOT as romantic as you think it is. I've done it. There's a lot of sand involved. It gets places.

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Public Bathroom, Public Anywhere

First of all, bathroom sex is disgusting. Second, public bathroom sex is just rude. Public sex in general is rude. Sure, there's the "thrill factor" but really you're exposing other people to your sex life. Plus, is it really worth the risk of getting arrested for public indecency? No.

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Movie Theaters

I have unfortunately witnessed a couple having sex in a movie theater. It was during Napoleon Dynamite. I didn't appreciate it. You can wait 2 hours to find somewhere to bone. And why would you pay for a ticket to watch a movie when you're not even going to pay attention?

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Parks

I don't mean that secluded part of the park where no one will see you. But don't start hooking up on top of a picnic table or in an open area where there are probably a lot of families and children playing like five feet away.

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Someone's Bedroom At A Party

You know in Mean Girls when those people are hooking up in Cady's room at her party? Don't be that couple. It is not your house. You do not have free reign to go hook up wherever you want.

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Your Parents' Bedroom

YOUR PARENTS HAVE SEX HERE. No. Ew. Gross. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. Don't do it.

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Have you had sex or hooked up in any of these places? Did you get caught? Are there any places you’d add to the list? Tell us in the comments!
 

We debunk some sex myths

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Hey Shallon,

I’ve been with my BF for awhile and we have great sex but I never quite know what I should be doing! If I’m on top, yeah duh, I’m supposed to move, but if I’m not…?? I always wonder if I’m making too much noise or not enough or moving around enough?! Ahh I’m so confused! Am I secretly bad in bed and I just don’t know it? Help!

Carly

Confused Carly Darling,

I TOTALLY know what you mean, I felt like this for years! Part of the problem is that once you see porn or a sex scene in a movie you’re like “OMFG is that what I’m supposed to be doing?!” Um no. That’s an extreme example, not a real representation of how people actually hookup, and dudes know that (we hope). But the one thing porn girls are doing is participating.

So what does it look like if you aren’t participating? Paris Hilton’s sex tape.

Seriously. It’s widely considered to be the worst sex ever captured in human history. Why? Paris just…lays there. She makes zero noise, hardly ever looks at the dude (he was a total douche so I can’t really blame her on that one) and just generally looks bored. No guy (or girl for that matter) wants to feel like their partner would rather be somewhere else.  

So, are some things to do during sex that will  let your fella know that you’re really feelin’ it:

• When he’s on top, wrap your legs around his torso and squeeze him with your thighs the same time you squeeze with the little lady. 
• Grab his hair, look into his eyes and bite your lip–very Angelina Jolie.
• Whisper hot things in his ear–check out my post on dirty talk to find out what!
• Grab his bum and pull him into you.
• If he’s bending you over the bed, suck on your finger and make eye contact.
• Run your fingers through your own hair–there’s a reason why “bed head” is considered sexy!

Do those things and I can guarantee you’ll stop worrying that you’re bad in bed – and I think both you and your boyfriend will be happy, too!

XOXO,

Shallon

Want me to give you advice? Feel free to leave your love Qs in the comments or drop me an email to AskShallon@gmail.com and follow me on Twitter and Instagram @ShallonXO

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Oral sex is great and can be a lot of fun, but there are a lot of things to keep in mind. I feel like no one really talks about oral that openly, but we should! There’s nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about.

We’re answering all your questions about oral sex right here. Click through for your complete guide to everything oral!

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NocturnalMistress said:

If you could pick two (only two) celebrities to do anything sexual with – who would they be and why?

Mine?

Daniel Craig. Everything about him is sexy! And I love his beautiful blue eyes. And Robert Downey Jr. I love a dark haired man with a sense of humor. Plus he’s not overly buff either for his appearance.

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There are a ton of myths about sex that you already know are bogus (like how masturbation would give you hairy palms or make you go blind), but there are a few more that a lot of girls and women actually are still baffled by. Sex expert Tracey Cox debunked a bunch of sex myths, and not gonna lie–some of them are still pretty popular. Especially the first one! Check these out and get schooled (and probably relieved) on the silly old wives’ tales that probably give us a lot more sexual anxiety than we need.

Myth About Sex: Guys are always ready and raring to go.
Not true! Once guys get a little older, other things inhibit their libidos, just like they affect ours–because even though men have different equipment down there, guess what? They’re people. They’re people with penises, but they’re people. If he’s tired, stressed out or just not in the mood (and believe it or not, the latter does happen), it’s just not going to happen.

Myth About Sex: Once he finishes, so do you–and so does your sex for the night.
Here’s the thing: This one may be true if you’re dating a selfish guy who probably isn’t good in the sack. Guys get smacked with a ton of sleep-inducing hormones after they have an orgasm or ejaculate, so he may well be really tired and not able to go again. Does that mean you have to go without an O yourself? Nope. If he finishes and you don’t, you have a few options: Move from intercourse to something else that doesn’t require quite as much energy for him (and frankly would probably work better for you anyway), or make sure you get yours first before he starts on his. If he’s worth sleeping with, chances are he won’t have a problem with this arrangement, because guess what? It means he’s still lucky enough to have sex with you.

Myth About Sex: If he asks to change it up, he’s not interested in you anymore.
Tracey Cox compared an appetite for sexual variety to an appetite for food: Would you be weirded out if he ate the same thing for lunch every day? Probably. Seriously: If he came over one day and was like, “Listen, I’ve had grilled cheese for lunch every day for the last three months. I think today I’m gonna spring for a burger.” You’d probably ask him why he didn’t do that, well, two months ago at least. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t like grilled cheese anymore. It just means he’s in the mood for something else. But there’s still bread involved in both grilled cheese and burgers, right? Just pretend you’re the carbs in this equation. He doesn’t like or love you any less. He just wants to do something different with you. It’s pretty flattering when you think about it–and chances are you’ll appreciate a switchup too, even if you’re reluctant at first to stray from the tried and true methods you’re used to.

Myth About Sex: Guys just know what you like down there.
No. No. No, they do not. Listen, we’re a lot more complicated down there than they are, and we take it for granted sometimes because we’re used to having a vagina. We see it every day. Chances are he doesn’t, so you need to direct them, sometimes with words, sometimes with your hands. If it feels awkward or uncomfortable to do that, chances are this isn’t a guy you should be having sex with in the first place. And honestly, if you’re not guiding him at all and expecting to read your mind? Chances are the only orgasms you have will be fake ones, and that just sucks–mostly for you, but also for him if he suspects it.

Myth About Sex: Sex isn’t a big deal to guys.
Again, wrong! People with penises are people. For a lot of guys, having sex is their way of saying, “Dude, I love you.” As gals, we’re born communicators and usually talk and express emotions more than guys do. For some guys who are more emotionally reserved, sex is the best tool they have to show you how much they adore you. And if the feeling is mutual and he takes direction well (see previous myth!), it’s not only a big deal–it’s a pretty sweet one.

Have you ever bought these myths about sex? Do you think there are other myths about sex that a lot of girls believe? Tell us in the comments!

Another myth about sex? That condoms don’t feel good.

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Flings can be great, but they can get ugly faster than Danny Zuko can wiggle his hips. Bad communication and uneven expectations can turn your summer fling into a summer dud. To save you from this summer becoming your Worst Summer Ever, we’ve rounded up a list of 10 things that you have to know before you have a summer fling.

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Know What You're Getting Into

A fling usually doesn't equate to a long term relationship. It's short, it's fleeting and it's fun. If you treat it like a long term relationship you're missing the point and that'll probably lead to mixed signals

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Make Sure Your Fling Doesn't Already Have A BF/GF

You don't need any unnecessary drama over your summer break. The last thing you want is some scorned lover to tracking you down while your fling plays dumb. Save the drama for the fall.

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Don't Become Someone You're Not

Deciding to take up smoking just because your fling smokes is stupid. Deciding to dress completely different, lying about yourself, and pretending to be someone you're not is even more stupid. Be yourself! If your fling doesn't like it, that's their problem, not yours. You wouldn't want somebody lying to you about who they are, would you?

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Be Cheesy; Do Typical Date Stuff

Go watch 4th of July fireworks, go to a fair or have dinner and a movie. A fling can be more than hooking up, so have more fun with it.

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Don't Hesitate To Talk About STDs

Just because you're having a fling doesn't mean you can't have some serious discussions about staying safe. Don't hesitate to ask if they've been tested or any other relevant questions about their sexual history.

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Remember: Your Fling Has A Life Too

They're going to probably have plenty of their own things going on this summer; family reunions, skateboarding, working at the local library, you name it. Don't light up their cell every time you want to hook up and expect them to revolve their entire schedule around your horn.

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Don't Assume Your Fling Will Want To Continue Your Rendezvous Beyond The Summer

Sure, flings sometimes turn into legit relationships. But just because you hit it off doesn't mean that they're going to want to commit to something serious.

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On The Flip Side, Don't Feel Pressured To Continue A Fling Either

If your fling wants things to continue into the fall and you aren't feeling it, be honest about it. If you want to stay friends, that's cool, but don't be guilt tripped into a relationship you don't want.

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Remember Your Besties

You might have the d or the v on the regular, but that doesn't mean that you should sacrifice your time with your friends. Flings can be temporary, your friendship won't be…well, it might be be if you stop hanging out with them!

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A Fling Doesn't Have To Define Your Summer

Deciding to revolve your entire summer around your fling will lead you on the fast track to "Worst Summer Ever." Don't let this fling dictate your time with your friends, family, and other interests. You want a summer full of a variety, not just your hookups...especially if your fling ends on a low note.

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Have you ever had a summer fling? How do you feel about casual hook ups? Tell us in the comments!

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Everyone is always talking about how orgasms are the best things in the world – but if you’re new to all of this sex stuff, how are you supposed to know if you’ve had an orgasm? What do orgasms feel like? We’ve got all of your answers on how to know for sure if you’ve had an orgasm.

ChickRx expert Roz Van Meter, Sex Therapist Diplomate and Licensed Marriage Therapist, says: 

Getting wet and having an orgasm are two different things. Getting wet may be the precursor of an orgasm, but it isn’t one. As frustrating as this sounds, you’ll know when you have an actual orgasm – but I know that doesn’t seem very helpful.

With an orgasm, you’ll feel a kind of release… that’s the sneeze analogy. It’s usually an intense feeling of release along with feeling very, very happy. However, be aware that no two orgasms are exactly alike. Not only do they vary from woman to woman, but they can be different in the same woman at different times. Some orgasms might make you holler, a la movie drama. Some are like gentle ripples. Some can be repeated several times and others can last for a long time. 

You should also keep in mind that normally when women orgasm, there is no physical evidence of that happening like there is when a man orgasms. But just because you’re seeing an absence of “stuff” down there doesn’t mean you haven’t climaxed. For women, it’s more of an intense feeling, like I said before.

The most important thing to know? However you orgasm is just right for you. There is no right or wrong here. Don’t compare yourself to the experience of porn stars, celebrities acting in movies or TV shows or anything your friends have told you about their own orgasms. And if you don’t think you’ve had an orgasm yet, don’t freak out. Try reading some of these tips and remember:  ”The best is yet to come” – so to speak.

Got more questions? Post them in the comments below or head on over to ChickRx.com.

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