But you’re not alone! Whether your friend drama has resulted in the loss of a friend, you’re still trying to work through the issue or you’re looking for advice about how to keep fights with friends to a minimum, hopefully you can find support knowing that other Gurl readers have gone through similar situations.

Take a look at what has been said in the comments before when it comes to friend drama:

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Are you having any friend drama right now? How have you gotten through rough patches with your friends in the past? Tell us in the comments.

Yes, You Really Can Be Friends With An Ex!

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Whether you currently have a BF or have had one in the past or have an idea in your head of a perfect one, there’s a whole lot that can be said about these guys. On the one hand, boyfriends can be awesome and make you smile and be super sweet! On the flip side, they can also drive you absolutely crazy or maybe even cause unwanted drama (and sometimes its not even your boyfriend, but a friend’s boyfriend that is stirring things up!). Sometimes just funny or awkward things happen with your boyfriend.

This is all fair game because there’s just a lot of feelings and emotions and situations when it comes to a guys and dating. So what kind of boyfriend talk was happening in the comments in recent days? Let’s take a look.

From “The Traumatizing Moment That Made Me Hate Valentine’s Day”

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From “Reader Hookup Confession: I Gave Him A Nosebleed!”

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From “From The Message Boards: Is A Friend’s Ex Off-Limits?”

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From “Survey: Totally Awkward Moments”

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From “The Traumatizing Moment That Made Me Hate Valentine’s Day”

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Do you feel like you and your friends talk about boyfriends often? Do you find that more people are talking about boyfriends with Valentine’s Day coming up? Tell us in the comments.

Ask A Guy: What Should I Buy My Boyfriend For Valentine’s Day?

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Of course, the only ones who know what’s totally up is Taylor Swift, Harry Styles and the other four-fifths of One Direction, but it brings up an important relationship topic. When you start dating a guy, you start dating his world a little bit too. You can usually put off meeting the family until you’re a little more comfortable, but meeting his friends is bound to happen pretty darn quick. Just like we can get a little territorial about our friends when they introduce a new person into the mix, his friends can feel the same way.

The fact is that both you and his friends love hanging out with your boyfriend, so it’s important to make sure you are respected as the new girlfriend, but also that his friends aren’t cast aside. We’ve come up with some dos and dont’s to help you stay on the good side of your boyfriend’s friends – and hey, hopefully you’ll get to make some new friends in the process!

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Do Respect Guy Time

Allegedly Harry chose to fly to London with Taylor, rather than in the company of his band mates. Now, Harry did choose to hang with Taylor, so we're not faulting her. We're just saying his friends may not appreciate if you interrupt what they see as guy time. Don't expect him to hang out with you every waking moment, and if your guy has plans with his friends, don't be constantly checking in. His friends will appreciate that you trust your BF and you respect their time together.

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Do Be Social

It can be a little awkward to hang out with his friends if you don't know them well, but do your best to not just sit there. It can give off the impression that you're bored or disinterested and that isn't a good vibe to send to his friends or to get you future invites with the whole crew. Just be your usual awesome, funny self and you'll get more comfortable in no time!

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Don't Try To Get All Their Inside Jokes

While you should definitely be social, don't try to overtake the situation. The inside jokes and stories he shares with his friends have a history. If you start acting like you get them or trying to one-up all their stories, that could annoy them or make them uncomfortable, which you don't want to do. Plus, you shouldn't feel like you have to change yourself to be just like one of them anyway. It's about getting to know the real you and creating your own inside jokes with them.

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Do Invite Them Along

Don't just wait around for them to invite you places — make the suggestion yourself! One-on-one dates are awesome, but there's a lot of things you do as a duo that his friends can join in on. Do you really need to watch a movie just you two? Let his friends come along and ease their worries that you're trying to keep him away from them. Plus, your friends are pretty great too, so invite them along and let everyone mingle and spark some new friendships (or maybe even romances!).

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Don't Make Them Uncomfortable

Now, if you DO invite them along, don't suddenly resent them for being there or act like they're invisible. Engaging in over-the-top PDA or not acknowledging them is basically just as bad as excluding them from the get go. If a night out with you guys turns into them feeling like an unnecessary third wheel, they'll probably not want to hang out with you two again, which could lead to a divide or resentment.

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Don't Judge Their Interests

Close friends do weird things when they are together. You probably do it too. Judging their activities though is a straight ticket to trouble. Maybe you don't get why they have to do certain sports rituals or why they like certain TV shows, but the worst thing you can do is to act like it's stupid. Make an effort to understand it, but if it's not your thing, that's totally fine. Just let it be their thing.

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Do Try To Make Them Your Friends

Just because your boyfriend is the link between you doesn't mean that should be the only topic of conversation. Only talking about your boyfriend can get old pretty quick, but talking about the history class you take with his friend is a way for you to bond over things besides your boyfriend. Being able to consider them your friends rather than just your boyfriend's friends will make for a closer relationship.

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Do Bring Something To Share

In my experience, food is a great icebreaker. What sort of hang out doesn't get better with a snack? Plus it shows that you thought about the well being of the people you're about to see. You don't have to make a five course meal, but contributing some snacks when you see the gang is a great way to be remembered as an awesome addition to the group.

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Don't Make Him Choose

If you give your BF a "me or them" ultimatum, it's only a matter of time before his friends find out and that won't go over well. If you feel like you're not getting quality time with the BF, it's totally valid to talk about it - just be very careful to not phrase it in a way that undermines his friendships. That said, if you feel like his friends don't respect you, he should be willing to stand up for you. His friends shouldn't be the only important relationship he values.

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Have you ever had a problem with the friends of your new boyfriend? What other advice do you have about getting along with his friends? Tell us in the comments!

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Make Time For Mom

A break from school means a lot of time to hang out with friends, but don't forget to carve out some time for mom in the mix, like Justin Bieber did when he brought his mom to the AMAs. She works hard for you, so be sure to share special time with her and show her how thankful you are for everything.

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Laugh Off Dad

You've seen it in the movies - clueless dads who don't always know everything going on with their daughters. When Miley Cyrus' dad said she was apparently having multiple weddings, girl didn't sweat it and just set the record straight (just one wedding, people). Dads get confused sometimes. Don't dwell on it and just enjoy their goofiness.

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Be A Sibling Dream Team

Sibling rivalry happens, but it can be a damper on making the most of quality family time. Instead of competing with each other when you're together, don't forget your siblings can also be your friends (and some of the best ones at that!). I mean, just look how bright Jessica and Ashlee Simpson shine hanging out at this event together!

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Family Members Still Like Privacy

People have been following Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart closely in recent months, from a cheating revelation, to being seen back together, to "Breaking Dawn - Part 2" premiering. Still, their life as a couple isn't really any of our business. Don't subject family members who may have gone through a romantic shake-up since you last saw them to the third degree. Even among family, it's okay to let some things stay private.

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Skip The Politics

Just because people are at the same family party, doesn’t mean they belong to the same political party. Talking politics with loved ones can can sometimes get highly emotional and lead to an awkward aftermath. You might want to take a cue from Taylor Swift (who refused to talk about who she was voting for in the presidential election) and save the politics talk for a different time.

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Don't Sweat The Critics

Family often wants the best for us, but can also be harsh critics (even if they don't mean to be). Whether someone makes a judgy comment about your new haircut or your choice of classes, try to keep model Kate Upton in mind. Despite some people criticizing her weight, she's instead focused the conversation on things like being healthy, having confidence and being psyched about fashion. Family critiques sting, but try to remember it's really about making sure you're happy with you.

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Treat Your Guests Well

Those on Rihanna's 777 plane have a whole lot of cool perks, but the Internet's also been buzzing a bit with how things are maybe a little different than those on board expected. If you're hosting, definitely take a note from Rihanna and try to give your guests a great experience, but also keep yourself in check and make sure that among the razzle dazzle, they're all still enjoying themselves.

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How do you avoid and/or deal with family drama on Thanksgiving (or at any family event)? Let us know in the comments!

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The rest of my friends were just silent. “Well, that’s discrimination. You’re prejudiced,” I said expecting my friends to chime in and defend me, but no one did. Why weren’t they backing me up?

Later I figured out it was because they agreed. They agreed with her. That was the first day in my whole 11 ½ years alive that I had heard about this—this homophobia. It was just OK to hate? It blew my mind. I cried at home because it made no sense. (It still doesn’t.) I was glad I stood up to her, but because I did rumors naturally floated around that I must be a lesbian. I totally got Janis Ian’ed by Regina George. It sucked. Not even because my friends were talking about me, but because I didn’t even want to be friends with my friends anymore. It was devastating. The next three years were awful. I pretty much just stopped talking to anyone.

When junior high was over we all went to different high schools—I never saw any of them again. I made new friends, but you know what? When I graduated high school I never saw any of my brand new high school friends again, either! All of the gossip, fights, and silent treatments—none of those things mattered because they don’t! Junior high and high school are just a couple of chapters in your epic novel of a life. Everything feels so big and heavy and important and URGENT because they’re the people you see every single day and have to deal with. In the end, there isn’t a single fight I had with a friend that altered the course of my future. I learned some lessons, I made some mistakes, but that’s growing up. The school hallways though, that’s just melodrama. College on the other hand—now that’s a different story.

Are you constantly dealing with school drama? Let us know in the comments!

If you’re having regular run ins with your local mean girl, or worse, mean girls, then you know how crappy it can feel to be bullied. Meg’s here to help you out. She has tips on how to protect yourself from bullying, where to get help, and how to put the bullying in perspective. Watch and remember, this bullying won’t be forever. Take care of yourself and get the help you need.

Have you ever been bullied or are you being bullied now? How do you deal, and what do you think could help the situation? Tell us in the comments!

Don’t Fit In? Here’s How To Deal.

Two facts: 1) Life is crazy hard sometimes. 2) You are strong.

Hey You,

I know sometimes things are actually beyond sucksville. Even if you’re putting on a brave face in public–at home or in the bathroom stall or wherever you can be alone–life can seem so unbearable that it feels like you could just dissolve with frustration and anger.

That whole nauseated, wanting to throw stuff, but then realizing even that won’t help anything feeling? Been there.

Which brings me to my main point: no matter how terrible things are, please please know that you are not alone in this.

We've all felt this way.

If you ever, even for a minute, think there’s no one to turn to, take a deep breath and try to remember that all of us girls (even grown up girls) are dealing with or have dealt with something that seems way bigger than us–it’s just that we all deal with it in our own ways so you can’t always tell.

The truth is that someone else (and probably a lot of someone elses) has gone through crap very similar to what you’re going through right now and made it out on the other side, super glad that she did.

We can't give cupcakes so much credit.

It might sound totally impossible, but you (smart, brave, fantastic you is still in there somewhere, I know it!) can get through this–and you don’t have to do it alone. If you can’t talk to your parents or friends, or it seems like nobody’s really hearing you, you can still get help. If you or someone you care about is up against something overwhelming, you can get help from a counselor at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, anytime day or night.

You’re absolutely not alone and there are so many of us who believe in you. I can’t say that everything will ever be totally perfect (that’s not what life is), but it won’t be this bad forever. Pinky swear.

With love (and strength),
Your editors at Gurl

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are you a Ginny kinda gURL?

With Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows: Part 1 out on DVD April 15th, the cast is pumped — and so are we.

We sat down with the wizards cast of the movie to talk about bullying, dating, and all of the drama that comes with growing up and being different.

See the video below to see how they deal with haters:

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In case Teen Mom 2‘s Jenelle Evans didn’t have enough drama in her life with her mother and baby Jace, the MTV star was videotaped beating up another gURL.

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Says Pop Eater, Jenelle “is now under investigation by North Carolina’s Brunswick County Sheriff’s Department after a video of the young mom savagely attacking another girl hit the web. Jenelle was reportedly furious because she believed the woman had been flirting with her boyfriend.”

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