Is it a big deal if you don’t want to kiss or make out with your boyfriend as much as he wants to make out with you? Well, maybe. Sara explains that this is a question of sex drive. There are some situations where you can compromise with your guy and find the right speed for cruise controlling your sex drives, but sometimes, different sex drives mean you need to pump the brakes. To find out what kind of relationship you’re in, give this a watch.

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