This Victoria's Secret Miraculous bra promises 2 extra cup sizes! Would you wear it?

As much as we wish every girl was totally happy with the bod she was born with, we realize that some ladies would like to change certain things about themselves. One thing a lot of girls wish they could do is enhance is their breast size. For girls who are looking for bigger boobs and a quick fix, padded bras can kind of seem like a miracle. But at the same time, there are lots of people who think they’re totally stupid.

So we want to know: would you wear a padded bra? We’re not talking about push-up bras – we’re talking about cushiony bras that promise to make you appear a few sizes bigger. The editors over here at Gurl all seem to have different opinions, but we really want to know what you think. Read our thoughts and then tell us yours:

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Julie Says: They’re Awesome!
I’m pro padded bras. I’m pretty well endowed in the boobal region. So, I’m not using padding to make my boobs look bigger. It’s more to keep them in place. One piece of fabric just isn’t sturdy enough. I need something that feels reinforced. My mom one time told me to think of my bra as a suspension bridge. I’m still not sure what she meant exactly, but I’m pretty sure suspension bridges are made out of more than just one sheet of silk. They’ve got some heft to them! So, I think that’s why I started with a thicker cup. After years of bulky bras, I feel naked whenever I try one that’s a single layer of fabric. I like a little distance between my boobs and the rest of the world, so bring on the padding!

They can be fun when you're playing dress-up | Source: ShutterStock.com

Melanie Says: They Can Be Fun Sometimes
I don’t think girls need to wear padded bras—but they can be fun if you’re into them! I think of them like any other kind of disguise. Think about how much fun it is to put on a wig at Halloween or to wear a super bold red lipstick (if only in your bedroom by yourself!). That’s how I feel when I put on a va-va-voom bra on. That said, I don’t wear them very often. I’m kind of tiny up top, and I like that about myself—but it sure is fun to play dress-up (or, uh, boobs up!) once in a while!

Emerald would much prefer no bra... | Source: Celebridoodle.com

Emerald Says: No, For Personal Reasons
My boobs are big enough and bras are kinda weird to me (like obviously bras are not the most uncomfortable piece of clothing in the world!) never mind the padded ones. Though I do think it’s a personal choice, like, if you want to bulk up a bit or if you like the look of it. For me, bras are just weird enough as it is, I don’t want extra bra – if anything I want less bra, the least amount of bra please! I guess that would be NO BRA, but that’s like a totally different conversation.

Mila Kunis looks great even without padding | Source: Celebuzz.com

Jessica Says: No Way! They’re Weird
I have to admit, I get kind of freaked out about padded bras. I mean, first of all, those things are so stuffed full of padding that they make me feel uncomfortable just looking at them. Second of all, what do you do if you take off your shirt in front of a dude and he realizes your boobs are actually way smaller than he thought? How do you explain that? It’s so awkward! I just think you’re better off making the most of what you’ve got instead of looking kind of fake with a padded one.

Would you wear a padded bra? Who do you agree with? Tell us in the comments!

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Serena would flip if Dan and Blair dated.

Okay, so imagine your BFF just got out of a relationship with a super hot, great guy. It’s been a few months, and suddenly he’s flirting with… you. You’ve always had a little crush on him, ever since before they started dating, and now it looks like your chance to actually date him. Do you go for it, even though your friend was with him first?

Dating your friend’s ex can be a really, really bad situation. But some girls do it… and some girls are even okay with it. What do you think? Does it depend on who broke up with who? Would you do it? Would you like if your friend did it to you? Read what the editors of Gurl.com think, and then tell us your opinion.

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Jessica Says: NEVER – It’s Called Girl Code
I would never date one of my friend’s exes, and I hope that they know better than to never date mine. No matter who dumped who, it’s a sensitive situation… and your friend is definitely going to be uncomfortable (if not furious) about seeing you with her ex. It’s just awkward, not to mention mean! Trust me, dating the guy your best friend just dated is going to ruin your friendship, or at least put a serious strain on it. It’s just not worth it.

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Emerald Says: There Are Plenty Of Other Guys Out There
Why on Earth would you date your friend’s ex? Is nothing sacred or off limits in 2012? Not only is it unethical (certainly not the same as, like, eating cute kitties for breakfast, but definitely on the list of unethical things), it’s also kind of icky. Is your friend’s ex the last man on Earth? Is there no one else you know? If you’re willing to date your friend’s ex, then you’re probably not really friend’s with this “friend” of yours. You wouldn’t date your friend’s dad? (Or maybe you would!) Some things are just common courtesy and a gesture of respect. No matter how much you like your friend’s Ex, you can always find someone else you like just as much – after all they broke up for a reason.

Guys get hung up on exes too. | Source: LoveLornPoets.com

Melanie Says: No, But Because Of Him, Not Her
A few years ago, a good friend of mine actually set me up with a guy friend of hers who she used to date. She not only said it was okay, she was the one who made it happen! But the more I hung out with him, the more I realized he kept asking me about her, asking if cool things I did were her idea, what she was up to. I was upset about his apparent hang up until I realized that this super cute guy had more issues than a subscription to Mad magazine. People think it’s always the friend who will wig out if you date her ex, but sometimes it’s the ex himself!

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Julie Says: If She Says It’s Okay… Maybe
If you talk to your friend and she’s really ok with you double dipping in her dating pool, then I say it’s fine. One warning though: Sometimes people can’t anticipate their emotions. Even if your friend thinks she’ll be fine with the date recycle, once the plan is in action, she might react in a bigger way than she thought she would. So, if after date two, you sense your bud isn’t cool with the situation, even though she said she would be, you’ve got to talk to her and figure out what makes the most sense for your friendship. And that might be aborting mission.
Who do you agree with? Would you date your friends ex? Have you ever? Tell us in the comments.

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Putting it up? Fun. Taking it down? Not so fun. | Source: FunnyStatus.com

Turns out, the editors at Gurl all have different opinions (of course we do). Read what we think, and then let us know: how much importance do you put on a Facebook relationship status?

Mel is all for FB love | Source: Niconica.com

Melanie Says: It’s Really Important
It’s nothing short of shady when people don’t list their significant others on Facebook and even shadier when there’s no photo evidence of their boo on their profile at all. When I meet a guy, stalk him on FB (not even embarrassed by it, we all do it), don’t see a relationship status or recurring pictures of a girl in his photos, I think he’s fair game. If it turns out that he’s dating someone, I assume that he kept his relationship on the virtual down low on purpose, which is basically lying about it. Creepster! I think of Facebook relationship status-ing like holding my hand in public. You like me, so let the world know that we’re an item! If you can’t shout it from the digital rooftops, then maybe we shouldn’t be together.

If you're both into it, go for it | Source: TheDailyBeast.com

Julie Says: You Have To Talk About It
I think it can be awesome for people to put their relationship status on Facebook, but it’s really something you have to talk about with your partner. If you’ve only been dating for a few weeks, your honey might not be quite ready to make an online commitment to you; and you don’t want to put it up only to get into a fight and then have to take it down hours later. That’s the opposite of awesome! So if you want that little heart next to your names, feel him out first and make sure you’re both on the same page.

Seriously doubt Jay-Z & Beyonce would have put it on FB | Source: Crushable

Jessica Says: It Shouldn’t Matter
I once heard someone say that the less people know about your relationship, the longer it will last. Maybe not everyone agrees, but in my experience, that’s totally true. And that’s exactly why I don’t care if my relationship status says I have a boyfriend. In fact, I DO have a BF, and I took my relationship status off of my profile. Honestly, I think putting it on Facebook only causes more problems – and added pressure. Having the talk of whether to make it Facebook official can be tricky, and when you break up? Forget about it. Suddenly, you have everybody in your business at the exact time you don’t want them there. I don’t care if it isn’t “officially” announced to everyone that me and my BF are together – we know, our friends and family know, we’re happy, and that’s all that matters to me.

Who do you agree with? Do you think a relationship isn’t official until it’s on FB? Or could you care less? Tell us in the comments!

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The king and queen of dating an ex.

As it turns out, the editors of Gurl all have different opinions on giving your ex a second chance – and we want to know what you think about it also. Check out what we had to say, and let us know who you agree with.

Are you? Probably!

Melanie Says: No Game!
Oh, girl. Why, why, why would you want to go back to that person who you either decided wasn’t good enough for you, or who broke your heart? Unless you only broke up because you moved far away from each other, there’s almost never a good enough reason to get back together with an old flame. Ask yourself why you’re even considering it. Maybe you don’t get out a lot and have trouble meeting new people. If that’s the case, ask your friends about their friends, or if you’re over 18, try online dating! Trust me, you’ll find someone new and great. No need to revisit yesterday’s relationship.

Just be careful....

Julie Says: It Depends
Sometimes going back to an ex is the right thing to do and sometimes it’s so wrong. It really depends on why you broke up the first time around. Was your ex a total sweetheart and timing was just off? Then, yeah, go for. But if your ex was nasty or icky or cheaty when you dated, then why jump back into something you know isn’t as awesome as you deserve? The comfort of an old flame can be really attractive. Before you run back into those familiar arms though, think long and hard about the last time you were in them and why you left.

These two on-again/off-again lovebirds are getting married!

Jessica Says: Give Them Another Chance
Maybe it’s just because I’m a huge believer in giving people second chances, but I really do think that even an ex deserves one. Yes, maybe things were bad between you two at first – but that doesn’t mean you can’t work things out and make them better than ever! Everyone makes mistakes, and sometimes people just need some time apart to realize that they should be together. I think that ruling out an ex just because they’re your ex is a bad idea: you could be throwing away something potentially good just because of something that happened in the past. There are definitely some instances where you shouldn’t go back to the person, but in general, I say that everyone deserves a second chance, no matter who broke who’s heart. Plus, if you don’t give them one, you’ll probably always wonder what could have happened if you did.

Who do you agree with? Would you re-date your ex? Tell us in the comments.

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Dating Your Ex

Have you ever been mean to a mean girl?

Bullying is the worst. Whether you’re at school, hanging with friends, or online, nobody should have to put up with mean comments and haters. It’s clear that we’d love to kick bullying to the curb, but what about the bullies themselves? We can’t just “poof!” make them disappear, or travel back in time to erase what they’ve already done.

Which is how we got to this week’s debate: Should bullies be bullied back? Obviously they need to learn to change their ways, but is the best method a taste of their own medicine? Is bullying a bully a just punishment, or just a little too harsh? Your gURL editors can’t seem to agree, and we want to know what you think. So check out our thoughts and then let us know how you feel.

Who has time for bullies?

Julie: Bulldoze Those Bullies

I get why some people feel a sense of justice over bullies getting bullied and I also see why some people want to help bullies feel better about themselves instead of punishing them. Personally, I don’t really care what happens to my bullies, as long as they’re out of my face. There’s no glory for me in hurting my past bullies or, honestly, in helping them either. If I had my way, I’d just have a big old bulldozer come and push them into a part of the world I’m never planning on visiting.

In reality, what I’ve done is tell whomever’s in charge — teachers, camp counselors, etc. — and then completely stayed out of the follow up with the bully. I’ve been lucky. Most of my bullies have only needed one talking to and then they pretty much act like they’ve been bulldozed out of my life. I have no idea if they’re still bullies or if they’re getting bullied themselves right now. And I really don’t care.

Oh, and by the way? No bullies allowed.

Melanie: Bullies Blow

I’ve heard stories about bullies getting death threats in the mail from people they don’t even know—and I definitely think that’s going way too far, but I wouldn’t exactly be inviting bullies to my birthday party to make them feel included, either. I think when it comes to bullying, a lot of people get “fair punishment” confused with “retaliation bullying.” Bullies totally deserve to be punished for what they’ve done, and I think feeling left out and not really welcome is part of that.

If people whisper about a bully in the hall, telling each other about the awful things he or she did to another student? That’s not bullying, either—those kids are just speaking the truth and warning each other about how nasty that person can be. I’m not saying bullies can’t turn into nice people and earn back friendships and respect—they can—but the thing is they really do have to earn that over time.

Even bullies deserve love!

Jessica: Befriending Bullies

Let me be clear: I’m not saying that I agree with bullying in any way. Actually, I hate it and if I could do something to seriously change it, I would (and I do, if the opportunity comes up). But here’s the thing: bullies are people too. It’s easy to forget that when they’re being cruel and nasty to you and making you feel awful. But before you bully them back, you should ask yourself why they started bullying in the first place.

Some people who bully have serious problems. They could have really low self-esteem, they could have had a horrible childhood or still have a terrible family life, they could have been bullied themselves when they were younger. I’m not saying that any of those things justify bullying someone else, nothing does, but it is something to think about. Maybe what some of them need the most is a hug and a little understanding. Sounds corny, but it could be true.

How would you deal with a bully? Have you ever bullied anyone or have you ever been bullied? Do you agree with Julie, Melanie or Jessica? Let us know in the comments.
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