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Are You Giving Your Crush The Right Vibe?

Meg Malone — Wed, 09 Jan 2013 23:00:59 +0000

Is he picking up on your crush vibes? | Source: Shutterstock

You’re crushing hard, but do you know what kind of vibe you are sending out to the object of your affection? Take our latest personality quiz to see what kind of signals you’re sending to that special crush.

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What do you think are the right vibes to give your crush? Can you tell when someone has a crush on you? Tell us in the comments!

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5 Fictional Characters I Want As My Boyfriend

Carson Lane — Thu, 22 Nov 2012 20:00:06 +0000

Now THAT’S what I call a romantic evening! | Source: Shutterstock

There are plenty of flesh-and-blood guys out there who are totally worthy of your awesomeness, but when it comes to my super dream boyfriends, it always comes down to five fictional dudes I’d love to date. I know it’s ridiculous to say that I’d date an imaginary person if I could, but when you read my list, I bet you anything you’ll start thinking of your own fictional crushes, too.

Here are the top five (fictional) guys I’d date if given the chance . . . shhh, don’t tell my boyfriend!

1. Smith Jerrod, Sex and The City
Just to point out the obvious, this guy is THE SEX. He has got to be the hottest guy any of the “Core Four” ever dated. I mean really, Harry and Mr. Big? What are you gals thinking? Anyways, the best part is that he isn’t just hot. He is so devoted to the previously promiscuous Samantha that he SHAVES HIS HEAD FOR HER when she has cancer! I know I wasn’t the only one happy crying during that episode. The fact that he was able to lock down the legendary sexaholic speaks volumes about him in more ways that one. Also, with his hot actor name and his sexy as hell Absolut campaign, we can easily forget that he used to be a waiter named Jerry.

2. Hercules, Disney’s Hercules
Let’s just start out with the HE’S A GOD factor when it comes to Hercules. He has super human strength, and a super human capacity for L-O-V-E. This dude tops the charts when it comes to doing what it takes to woo the woman he loves. Like, really, first he rescued Meg from the evil centaur Nessus and then he saved the entire universe from the villainous (but hysterical) Hades. He sings, he rides Pegasus, he went from Zero to Hero and offered his soul in exchange for freeing his gal from the River Styx—seriously, what DOESN’T this guy do? Plus, if you are his girlfriend, you get to live at Mt. Olympus. Win.

3. Patrick Verona, 10 Things I Hate About You
One long look into the deep hazel eyes of Patrick Verona makes us forget that this guy only started dating Kat as part of a shady, money-making scam. Put aside the rumors of his jail sentence and focus on the unforgettable scene where this bad ass Aussie sings “Can’t Take My Eyes Off of You” to his main squeeze while dancing/running from cops on the school bleachers. He is amazingly sexy, upfront with his feelings and an all around cool guy. Also he is Heath Ledger so . . . yeah. I mean really, who wouldn’t flash a teacher to get Patty V. out of detention??

4. Peeta Mellark, The Hunger Games
Hey girl, you like bread? Peeta’s got all of the hot (and purposely burned) bakery bread that you could ask for when you’re starving and sitting in the rain. He is handsome as hell and willing to sacrifice it all for the girl of his dreams. Unfortunately for us, that girl is Katniss Everdeen, but hey, we can still dream! Besides the fact that he was willing to die to let Katniss win the Hunger Games, he also can throw heavy bags of sand, he can paint like a pro, and he shines like a star when he’s in the spotlight. All I can say is that I’d take bread from Peeta any day.

5. Noah Calhoun, The Notebook (Duh)
Whether you like him young, optimistic and clean-shaven, or in his depressed, mountain-man days–Noah is inarguably one of the sexiest and greatest fictional boyfriends to ever exist in the pages of a book or on a television screen. I mean really, what else do you want? This guy’s main ambition in life is to build you a perfect lakeside mansion so that you can paint sans clothing on any balcony that you like. Not to mention, he is hard-working and the Master of the grand gesture. From hanging off a Ferris wheel, to lying in the middle of the street, to writing 365 letters before Gmail . . . all I can say is WHERE ARE THE MEN LIKE THIS HIDDEN?

What fictional dudes are you crushing on? Tim Riggins, anyone? Tell me in the comments!

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If We Could Reply To Our Crush’s Facebook Status

Emerald Pellot — Mon, 17 Sep 2012 16:00:36 +0000

Crushin’ is hard, especially when you are crushing hard. You’ve got to have complete self control just to get through each day without acting totally weird or totally obvious around your crush. And even if you make it through the day, you come home and there’s Facebook. Oh, Facebook. You know how it goes. It’s way past bedtime and you’re creeping on his page. Five new status updates, 12 new pics, sure comment on every single one of them. That’s totally normal, right? OK, maybe not. A girl can still dream of word-vomitting everything her heart desires on her crush’s timeline.

Here are some things I would say, if they wouldn’t make me seem like the Overly Attached Girlfriend.

Did He Make Taco Bell Sexy?

This Question Was A Trap, Right?

Was He Naked When He Was Typing This?

I Told You He Was Perfect. Why Did You Ever Doubt Me?

There can only be ONE.

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Sara’s Back! New Episodes of Sexy Times with Gurl Next Week!

Julie Kraut — Fri, 14 Sep 2012 21:05:41 +0000

Sara Hoots is back on Gurl! Whoot whoot! We’re so pumped that she’s back for another season of Sexy Times with Gurl. And this season, she’s decided to get personal. She’s taking you guys into her home to answer all of your relationship questions.

Post your questions in the comments below and Sara just might be featuring you in her next video. New season starts next Friday at 5pm EST/2pm PST.

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The Lazy Girls Guide To Getting His Attention

Emerald Pellot — Thu, 23 Aug 2012 21:00:36 +0000

Getting his attention isn’t easy–unless you’re a Lazy Girl. That extra fine hottie will be yours in no time and you won’t even have to talk to him! Letting him know that you’re available and interested without having to muster up the courage to have an awkward convo isn’t as hard as it seems. All you need is a few grand gestures, a sneaky attitude, and these 10 easy tips that will SURELY get his attention.

Text The Other Important Women In His Life

"You'll never guess who has a crush on your son!" is a great icebreaker--before you've even spoken to him. You'll let mom and grandma know you're serious about that special someone, not just some totally neurotic crush. No, not at all! ShutterStock.com

Throw A Tantrum

Scientific Fact: Guys find a girl who cries irresistable. Wait outside of his class, sit on the floor, and let the tears fly, baby. He'll feel so bad for you, there's no way he won't be spending his lunch period wiping away your tears. I see a real connection in your future! ShutterStock.com

Rob Him!

Steal his homework. He'll be freaking out all day. When you give it to him, he'll be SO GLAD. He may just take you to Homecoming! ShutterStock.com

Ghetto Blast

You may remember John Cusack holding a boom box outside his crush's window--even if you don't, it's a pretty good technique. Wait until it's real quiet at night, when everyone is asleep and blast his favorite band. Drake? Yeezy? 1D? Make a mixtape that comes from the heart. ShutterStock.com

A Little Witchcraft

Snag a lock of his hair (you know you've got more than a few)! Make a voodoo doll. Tell the voodoo doll you love it. Kiss the voodoo doll. It's basically the real thing, right? ShutterStock.com

Serenade Him

Just kidding. You're too lazy for that, lazy girl. Hire a mariachi band to confess your love for him on your behalf. It will be WAY LESS embarrassing this way. ShutterStock.com

Cook His Favorite Food

Leave it in his locker. Just be sure to leave a secret message inside. When he's chewing paper all of a sudden at first he'll be like "WTF?" but then when he sees that GIANT HEART written in pink gel pens, he'll know you're for real. ShutterStock.com

Dress Up

When it's not Halloween! There's no way he won't notice you. He'll be asking all his friends, "Damn, who's that fine witch over there?" ShutterStock.com

Make It A Crime Of Passion!

Don't REALLY--but faking your own death will get EVERYONE talking. "Did she do it for love?" Yes! The answer is yes! When he is mourning your loss and you emerge alive and well during P.E., you will be his own personal miracle. ShutterStock.com

Make A Big Gesture

Put up a billboard ad where you know he'll see it. He won't think you're crazy, just super duper passionate. Who says romance is dead? Not you, Lazy Girl! ShutterStock.com

What are your techniques for catching his eye? Let us know in the comments!

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Need some–*cough*cough*–real advice? Next check out The Complete Guide To Getting Noticed or How To Flirt And Win Him Over!

Am I Boy Crazy?

Gurl — Fri, 20 Jul 2012 21:00:39 +0000

Today we’ve got a question in from a girl who’s wondering if she’s normal. She says, “Whenever I mention my crush, my sister teases me and says I’m boy crazy. Am I? Is that bad?” Sara’s got a two part answer here and lots of advice. First, big sisters can be total a-holes. Second, girls have crushes. It’s a scientific fact. It totally doesn’t make anyone weird. But, there are some ways to make sure your crush is normal. Watch the vid to see if your crush is normal or if you’re off the boy crazy charts!

And get ready for a sad face. This is Sara’s last Sexy Times with Gurl video. Tragic, we know! BUT, the good news is that this won’t be the last you’ll see of Sara on Gurl. We heart her big time and we’ll make sure she comes back every once in a while!

Have you ever been accused of being boy crazy? Do you think any of your friends have gone a little nuts when it comes to guys? Tell us in the comments!

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How To Deal With An Unavailable Crush

Gurl — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 21:00:35 +0000

Ever had a crush that’s so perfect…but so out of bounds? This crush could be out of reach because he’s too old for you or an authority figure. Or maybe she’s already be in a relationship or he’s a friend’s ex. Really, there are a million and one reasons why a crush could be unavailable, and only one way it will make you feel—crappy! Here comes Meg to the rescue. From asking hard questions, to acknowledging the truth behind the situation, she’s here to give you five ways to deal with an unavailable crush that will leave you feeling a ton better.

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Your Complete Guide On How To Get Noticed

Jessica Sager — Sun, 08 Apr 2012 23:00:38 +0000

You shouldn't need a megaphone to get noticed! | Source: Shutterstock

There are a lot of ways to get noticed, but not all of them are good, smart or healthy. To get the right kind of attention–the kind that comes from the right people for the right reasons–you need one key element: confidence.

Confidence comes from being happy with yourself, your accomplishments, and your life. If you do things you’re proud of and that make you happy, it will come naturally. If you feel awesome and know that you’re awesome, other people will take notice. Confidence gives you a glimmer in your eye and puts some swing in your step, and the people whose attention you want, whether it’s your teacher, your boss, your crush, or your parents, will perk up at attention in your presence.

Of course, in addition to being and feeling awesome, there are specific things that can help boost your visibility to the people who matter to you. So how can you capture the eye of your crush, become teacher’s pet, and get hired for that awesome summer job? Read on to find out!

How To Say No When You’re Not Into Him

Abiola Abrams — Sun, 11 Mar 2012 00:00:33 +0000

Be nice--even if you think he stinks! |

Like clockwork. There he is staring at you again. Yup, him. The slightly, creepy meathead jock from Bio. He’s just not your type, and now he’s finally gummed up the nerve to ask you out.

You might think this is your chance to be the rejector not the rejectee for once. Everyone is going to find the story of you telling this dude to get lost so funny, right?

Hold on there, heartbreaker. There is nothing cool about being a purposeful d-bag to someone who likes you. Talk about bad karma! It’s hard for anyone (even meatheads!) to own up to their feelings and make themselves vulnerable by asking someone out, so show a little compassion. You don’t want the world to think you’re an ice cold jerk, do you? No. Didn’t think so.

Here’s how to say no to that meathead (or anyone else) gently:

1) The golden rule.
We have all been rejected. Whether you’re a supermodel like Chanel Iman or a supermarket bag girl, at some time in our lives someone will say, hey, you’re not my type, dear. Remember that before you kick this poor soul to the curb. Always treat people the way you would want to be treated.

2) Be gracious.
Tell the person that you are flattered. Yeah, it sounds like a cliche but it’s a cliche that is respectful of the other person’s feelings. And you should be flattered. Out of six or seven billion peeps on the planet he chose YOU to have the hots for.

Even this guy has feelings! | Source

3) Be grateful.
Of course you’re totally worth it, but start with a “thank you for asking me out.”

4) Never say “yes” if you mean “no.”
Sometimes with memories of “Good Girl Scout” badges ringing in our memories, our well-meaning, people-pleasing demons gets the best of us. A sympathy date won’t do anyone any favors. It’s better to be authentic. And when you say “no” please leave the pity out of your voice, young lady.

5) Keep it short, authentic and private.
Be kind, be genuine and keep it moving. You don’t need a Gettysburg Address to explain why you’re not interested. Also, don’t subject the person to public ridicule. That won’t make you any cooler.

Statistically, every no brings you closer to someone you’ll want to say yes to. So now that you know how to say no, here’s wishing you many happy rejections, rock star!

Do you think you know how to say no in a nicer way? Have you ever had to say no to a guy who liked you? Tell us all about it in the comments!

Poll: Tell Us About Your Crush

Jessica Booth — Sat, 10 Mar 2012 20:00:22 +0000

He loves me, he loves me not... | Source: TheForkster.com

Just thinking about your crush probably makes you smile. The way they laugh, the way their hair looks while you’re sitting behind them in class, the way they say your name… sigh. When crushes aren’t totally messing with your head, they can be so much fun.

Since we know you’ll take any chance to dish on the potential love of your life (you can admit it here, don’t worry), we want to know all about who’s stolen your heart. Why are you so into this person? What makes them so swoon-worthy? So take a few minutes out of your day to fill out this poll – and you’ll probably start smiling.

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