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This week on the message boards, you girls are talking about what to do if your boyfriend isn’t great in bed because he only pays attention to himself so you end up faking it.

Let’s see what y’all had to say!

Nobody said:

It is a big deal, I’d seriously talk to him about it and tell him where you’re coming from. And I hate to say it but if he’s not willing to take the time to please you he really can’t be that great of a guy and care about you all that much (speaking from experience). Tell him something like “How would you feel if I got off all the time and you never did and when you got upset I just told you to go ‘masturbate’” and just see how it goes.

S0Exciited said:

My main advice to you is never fake it again. Your boyfriend is a selfish lover, and you aren’t making things any better by faking it and keeping your mouth shut. A silent lover is an unsatisfied one. Tell him he isn’t satisfying you because he’s not trying! He needs patience.

mandakim said:

If he can’t be bothered pleasuring you now, imagine how he’s going to be when/if you get married. Do you want to spend the rest of your life being literally used for his pleasure and him not giving a rats about yours?

He doesn’t need to “change a little”, he needs to “change a LOT” and needs to understand how important it is for BOTH of you to enjoy sex. It’s a two person activity. Make sure he knows that, and if he doesn’t care or cant be bothered changing, dump him! There a lot of guys out there who WILL care about your pleasure and make sure you both enjoy the experience.

It totally sucks when you aren’t having good sex with your boyfriend. But you absolutely need to speak up! Faking it is the worst thing you can do. He’s just going to keep doing the same thing since he thinks he’s getting it right!

If your sex life isn’t what you want it to be, you have to say something. You have to tell your partner what you want! You don’t have to tell your partner that they suck in bed, but just explain what you like and how you want things to be done. Let him know “I really like it when you do this,” or take a different approach and ask if y’all can try something new.

Sex is a two-way street. If your partner doesn’t know what you like in bed, there’s no way that they’ll be able to please you. Before you have sex again, sit your partner down and talk about it. Having an open dialogue about sex will also make things much better between you two.

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So, what are some things that suck about being in a relationship? I’ll tell you. The next time you’re complaining about how single you are, think about these things and keep in mind that having a boyfriend or girlfriend is not the solution to everything.

You don’t get any first kisses or super sweet first date moments. Because you guys had those already. 

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Going out with your single friends can be awkward, especially when they’re all flirting with someone and you’re just standing there, pretending to text your BF. 

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Little fights happen a lot more often. And usually they make NO sense but go on for hours. 

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Dates can get boring… if you even go on dates. When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, it’s super easy to get into a movies/cuddle routine. 

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You can’t be totally selfish. You’re in a relationship! You can’t only think about yourself. You have someone else’s feelings to worry about also. 

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Jealousy happens and it sucks. It sucks. 

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You miss out on friend time. Once you have a boyfriend, it’s just a fact that you don’t have as much time for your friends anymore. FOMO, anyone?

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You spend more money. You have to buy someone elaborate gifts for holidays, birthdays and anniversaries. Oof. 

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No flirting allowed… even harmless flirting makes you feel a little guilty. 

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You suddenly have to deal with someone else’s family. You know those annoying family obligations you have? Now you have to go to his or hers also. Womp womp. 

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Which of these things do you agree with the most? What other things suck about being in a relationship? Are you single or in a relationship? Tell me in the comments!

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The summer is the perfect opportunity to spend more time with and get closer to your boyfriend. During the school year, you guys are both spending time on going to school, after-school activities, doing homework, trying to make school day curfews… you get it. But during the summer, you both should have more time to devote to each other (unless one of you is in summer school or has a very demanding part-time job).

So how can you use all of that extra time to your advantage? There are tons of summer-fun bonding activities you guys can do together that will make the most of the great outdoors (think going to the beach, the pool, hiking trip), but there’s another thing you should do that you might not have even thought of: road trips!

Those of you who are old enough to have your own car should definitely consider taking at least one road trip with your boyfriend this summer. Why? A recent survey done by Ford and Your Tango found that 90 percent of couples think that road trips can actually help improve their relationship. What’s more, 88 percent of couples surveyed said that they’ve had their best couples conversations ever during car trips.

So basically road trips equal some seriously great bonding sessions with your boyfriend – which makes total sense. You guys are sitting in a tiny, enclosed area with nothing to do but listen to music or chat. The longer the car trip is, the more connected you two will feel and the easier it will be to spill your secrets and really get to know each other. I know this is true for me. I’ve found out more about my boyfriend during our long road trips to go skiing than I have at any other time. I don’t know what it is about the car, but there’s something soothing about driving for a long time and just talking. I normally hate long car rides and the only ones I look forward to are the ones that involve my BF.

This doesn’t mean you need to get crazy and start on a wild cross-country road trip… obviously a lot of you are probably unable to do that (I know I am). An hour or two hour long ride should do the trick. Go somewhere fun for the day where you guys don’t normally go to. Not only will the car ride bring you closer together, but the adventure you two have together afterwards will be exciting and super fun.

Oh, and for you single girls out there? Take a road trip with your girls! Car rides aren’t only great for bonding between couples, but they’re also something that you and your friends can have a lot of fun with as well. Get three or four of your closest friends together and plan a road trip somewhere cool for a day or a weekend. You guys will have an awesome time in the car gossiping, jamming out to your favorite music and swapping scandalous hookup stories. Trust me on this one.

Get your music together, buy some comfy car clothes and save up your gas money – I promise you won’t regret taking two or three road trips this summer, with your boyfriend or your besties.

Have you ever taken a road trip with your boyfriend before? What about with your friends? Did you think it was a good bonding experience? Tell me in the comments!

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This week on the message boards, you guys are talking about if you should give a cheater another chance.

Let’s see what y’all had to say:

TheDatingAngel said:

Just because you are in love with someone doesn’t mean you have to put up with his behavior. Let me ask you….who are you in love with more….YOU or HIM? It sounds like him. I suspect that you think you are going to be alone if you dump him…Nothing could be further from the truth. When you remove the people from your life that aren’t treating you well, you make room for people who WILL treat you well. However, you will need to teach someone new or this guy (depending on what you decide to do) how to treat you. I suspect you don’t know how to do that…otherwise you would have never allowed this guy to get away with cheating on you.

Here is what you do first: Write down on a piece of paper how you want to be treated. Here are some examples: “When I am talking to someone, I want them to listen to me…and I will do the same to them. If they make the decision to not listen to me, then I am no longer going to waste my breath.”

Keep going. For every behavior you want to see from someone else, write it down and then write down what YOU will do if they don’t behave the way you like.

curiosity_ said:

Honestly, NO. Take it from someone who’s been cheated on 4+ times < - Thats just that I know of . If you keep taking him back he's just gonna keep doing it Because he know's that you'll just forgive him and take him back . I know you love him, But it isnt fair to you to keep someone that keeps on hurting you in your life

stayclassy said:

Unless you enjoy being cheated on, leave the relationship. He’s not going to stop especially since your reaction to his behaviour (aka not leaving him) made it acceptable for him to cheat and will continue to cheat.

cgrisadancer said:

Say goodbye for good. You deserve much better.

Word to what all these ladies said. In terms of context, the cheater we’re talking about is a serial cheater. I’m not saying that guys who only cheat once should be given another chance automatically, but this guy clearly is not going to change.

I dated a cheater for a very long time. I didn’t know for a while, but I kept giving him chances and he kept cheating and treating me like dirt. He knew I would take him back every time. I didn’t stand up for myself, and eventually I started believing that I didn’t deserve better.

Another guy I dated maybe cheated on me once, but I will never really know. All I know is that when I found out the situation, I made sure that he knew it was going to be over if anything ever happened like that again. And it didn’t.

But I think you have to be wary anytime cheating is involved. I think you’ve got to get rid of this guy and move on, but it’s entirely your decision. Sometimes couples can move past cheating, but the majority of the time, it’s not going to work out. The trust is always going to be broken, and you’re always going to wonder if he’s cheating again.
 
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Want a boyfriend but can’t find a good guy? Instead of struggling to find a boyfriend, why not just make one?

I’m not talking about any sort of bizarre Manti T’eo nonsense. If you learn to knit, you can have a really awesome guy: A good listener, an awesome cuddler–and he won’t get fresh or hog the covers or argue with your best friend. Your dad would probably like him, too.

That’s what one gal did. Noortje de Keijzer felt like she needed a man in her life, so she sewed one together and named him Arthur. He’s got a pal named Steve for when she wants someone else around–and for a price, you can find a boyfriend for her to stitch together for you. Thing is, since they’re hand sewn and custom made, they’re one of a kind . . . and that’s expensive.

“I’m still busy developing this project and creating a book with all my drawings about My Knitted Boyfriend, that will hopefully will be for sale in autumn,” Noortje said. “This project is more about the story around My Knitted Boyfriend to me. I don’t have serious ambitions to stop making people feel lonely (this is something everyone needs to do for themselves). I just try to bring out a smile or offer a feeling of recognition in order to start a conversation.”

Would you want a boyfriend stand-in like My Knitted Boyfriend? Do you think My Knitted Boyfriend is a fun way to bide your time if you don’t want to or can’t find a boyfriend? Tell us in the comments!

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When it comes to dating, do opposites attract? Is it better to date someone who is very different from you or should you be dating people who are just like you? The answer to this question can get sort of confusing.

The book The Normal Bar, which has surveyed more than 70,000 people about relationships, found that 95 percent of couples who are very similar to each other said they were “extremely happy.” So it would seem like maybe opposites don’t attract, right? Not so fast. There was no word on what opposite couples had to say about the state of their relationship (at least that I’ve seen), so it’s hard to tell. Also, there seem to be conflicting reports out there. New research (not in The Normal Bar) found that couples who were different from each other made up the best relationships.

So which is it?! Should you date someone who is your opposite or you should stick with people who have almost all of the same interests you have? Well, according to this research that states that opposites do, in fact, attract, in order for that kind of relationship to work, you and your partner need to have shared goals. 

Honestly, I have lived by the opposites attract “rule” since I first started crushing on boys. I’ve never really dated anyone who was too similar to me – and if I did, things fizzled out pretty quickly because it just wasn’t working out. My current boyfriend and I are very different from each other. He is very passionate about cars and doesn’t know the difference between a dress and a skirt (for realz), while I could shop for 15 hours straight and not be bored, but instantly get hit with exhaustion anytime a discussion about cars pops up. My boyfriend is outgoing and friendly – he can walk into a room of my family members and start up a conversation with someone he just met. I, on the other hand, am shy and reserved and attempting to talk to his family members sort of makes me break out in hives.

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I could keep going on with examples of how different we are, but I’m sure you get it. The point is, we have very different views about a lot of things (one more example, sorry: he’s a Republican and I am a Democrat. Ugh), but our relationship still works. And I think the reason we work well together is partly because we’re such opposites – we teach each other new things all the time. I am constantly learning about things I’ve never thought twice about from him and vice versa. He introduces me to new things I never thought I would enjoy and I do the same for him. It’s exciting!

I almost feel like if we were very similar, things would get boring, fast. Actually, I know that they would. Speaking from my personal experience, dating someone who is just like me is like dating… me. And yeah, I’m cool and all, but I don’t want to date myself. For one thing, I spend enough time with myself as it is. For another thing, I am the definition of a moody, emotional, passionate Scorpio and if I had to deal with another one of me all the time… no thank you. Please God no.

Anyway, what does all of this have to do with you? Just keep reading, I’ll get to it, I swear. As different as my boyfriend and I are, we still share the same goals when it comes to our relationship. We both want the same things. We both like each other (that’s a pretty big one) and we both have the same thoughts on what a relationship should be like.

I guess what I’m trying to say here is that when it comes to relationships, it’s usually about finding the right balance for you. What it seems like to me is that the best relationship is one where you and your partner have some different interests, opinions and thoughts, but in the end, you’re both working towards the same thing. So basically, a happy middle.

Do you think opposites attract? Would you rather date someone similar to you or different than you? Tell me in the comments!

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I don’t really know what the current status is on the whole Miley Cyrus – Liam Hemsworth situation, but as far as I know, they are still together. That’s why I was intrigued to hear that Miley’s dad, Billy Ray Cyrus, referred to them as “great friends” when asked about the duo during an interview with Nightline.

Now, it’s not odd to me to say people in a relationship are friends. This particular comment just really reminded me about my own parents who always seemed to think my boyfriend and I were just “friends,” even when I was really upfront about us dating – and had been dating for a while. So why wouldn’t they just accept the use of the “boyfriend” title?

My parents were never passive-aggressive or mean about my boyfriend, but I just don’t think they realized I was in a serious relationship because I didn’t really date for a long time. I think their reluctance to call him my “boyfriend” spawned from that and instead he just was considered one of my good friends – who you know, I talked about a lot and went out on dates with… Instead, my mom would keep dropping hints about family friends who had single sons and wouldn’t ask me about my boyfriend. It was weird.

So how did I get my parents to acknowledge my boyfriend wasn’t just another one of my friends? The most straightforward way is just to talk to them. They might not even realize that they’re being dismissive of your relationship until you point it out. Like with my parents, it could just be an innocent thing, rather than them not liking the guy. You’re their baby and it may just be weird for them to acknowledge that you’re growing up and dating. I know, it’s not really fair, but at least you can understand where they’re coming from.

It also probably didn’t help that I was dating my boyfriend at college, so my parents didn’t really know him and barely ever saw the two of us hanging out. I can see why it didn’t seem “real.” That’s why trying to make your boyfriend more present is helpful. Invite him to hang out and get to know them with you! The fact that you want him to meet them can clue your parents in that this guy is special.

Meeting his family can be another way to help your parents see him as your boyfriend, because it may dawn on them that to this other family, you are their son’s girlfriend. His parents could very well be going through the exact same “weirdness” your parents are!

There is also the chance that maybe you’re not picking up on something he does that really bothers your parents. As I said, with my parents it was less about my boyfriend and just more about the whole dating situation, but you should at least be open to hearing them out if they are worried about this guy you are seeing. They want what’s best for you and might see something you’re missing.

Really, just give it some time. My boyfriend has now been around a while and gotten to know my family so I don’t get those “your friend” comments any more. It can be really annoying, but there could be a lot of reasons to explain the parental behavior. Rather than writing off your parents as just not understanding and being awful, try and see if there’s a way to work it out so they can learn to say the “boyfriend” word.

Have your parents ever just not acknowledged the person you were dating? What did you do about it? Did you ever find out why they were so reluctant? Tell us in the comments!

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