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> <channel><title>Gurl.com &#187; awkward</title> <atom:link href="http://www.gurl.com/tag/awkward/feed/" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml" /><link>http://www.gurl.com</link> <description>A teen site and community for teenage girls</description> <lastBuildDate>Sun, 13 Jan 2013 00:04:42 +0000</lastBuildDate> <language>en-US</language> <sy:updatePeriod>hourly</sy:updatePeriod> <sy:updateFrequency>1</sy:updateFrequency> <generator>http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5</generator> <item><title>10 Of The Most Awkward On-Screen Kisses Of All Time</title><link>http://www.gurl.com/2013/01/10/awkward-kiss-movies-tv/?utm_source=rss&#038;utm_medium=rss&#038;utm_campaign=awkward-kiss-movies-tv</link> <comments>http://www.gurl.com/2013/01/10/awkward-kiss-movies-tv/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Thu, 10 Jan 2013 21:00:16 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Jessica Booth</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[Stuff We Heart]]></category> <category><![CDATA[awkward]]></category> <category><![CDATA[bad kiss]]></category> <category><![CDATA[kiss]]></category> <category><![CDATA[kissing]]></category> <category><![CDATA[movies]]></category> <category><![CDATA[worst kiss]]></category> <guid
isPermaLink="false">http://www.gurl.com/?p=93689</guid> <description><![CDATA[Usually, on-screen kisses are perfect&#8230; sometimes too perfect, meaning you know things would never happen like that in real life. And while celebrities in movies and on TV shows almost always get it right, every once in a while they deliver a kiss so bad and so awkward that it is literally hard to watch. &#8230; <a
class="read-more" href="http://www.gurl.com/2013/01/10/awkward-kiss-movies-tv/">Read More</a>]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Usually, <strong>on-screen kisses</strong> are perfect&#8230; sometimes <em>too</em> perfect, meaning you know things would never happen like that in real life. And while celebrities in movies and on TV shows almost always get it right, every once in a while they deliver a kiss <strong>so bad</strong> and <strong>so awkward</strong> that it is literally hard to watch. Ugh. But at least it gives you something entertaining to watch, right?</p><p>I&#8217;ve rounded up some of the most seriously <strong>awkward on-screen kisses</strong> of all time. If you were wondering how to kiss, here&#8217;s a tip: <strong>don&#8217;t</strong> do the stuff done in these videos. There is only one way to describe these smooches: bad. Just&#8230; ouch. I&#8217;m cringing watching them.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Charlotte and Brad from <em>Sex and The City</em></strong><br
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/> Let me just agree with Charlotte, Samantha, Miranda and Carrie: Ewwwwwww! This is gross. Just&#8230; no. No. I can&#8217;t even watch this dude lick her mouth like that. It&#8217;s seriously grossing me out.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Harry and Cho from<em> Harry Potter and The Order Of The Phoenix</em></strong><br
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/> This kissing scene was awkward enough to read about in the book, but it was even more awkward to actually watch it in the movie. I mean, the girl was crying over her dead boyfriend. How can you kiss someone while she&#8217;s crying about something like that?</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Rachel and Blaine from <em>Glee</em></strong><br
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/> This kiss itself wasn&#8217;t that bad, it was more of the situation surrounding the kiss. Like the fact that we watched Kurt watch his biggest crush of all time kiss someone else &#8211; a girl, not a guy! &#8211; right in front of him. I felt his pain. Talk about awkward.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Olivia and Vanessa from <em>Gossip Girl</em></strong><br
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/> Ouch. This was&#8230; bad. Not because it&#8217;s two girls kissing each other, but because a) Vanessa looks so incredibly uncomfortable as Olivia is coming towards her and b) Dan and Vanessa are just extremely awkward in general. This threesome was not something anyone believed would ever happen.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Michael Scott and a client from <em>The Office</em></strong><br
/> <span
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/> Michael Scott is weird and so it&#8217;s weird to think of him kissing anyone. But this scenario is even more awkward than what an actual kiss would be like because that actual kiss? Never happens. Oof. No one wants to be Michael&#8217;s shoes at this moment.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Joey and Rachel from <em>Friends</em></strong><br
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/> I wish I could have found a video of Joey and Rachel&#8217;s first kiss, but unfortunately, I couldn&#8217;t. Anyway, basically every time Joey and Rachel kissed was awkward because&#8230; Joey and Rachel? No! There was a reason she pictured Ross almost every time they locked lips.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Damon and Elena from <em>The Vampire Diaries</em></strong><br
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/> I&#8217;m sure this first kiss was very satisfying for fans of The Vampire Diaries, but for me? Not so much. I mean, look at Damon. He&#8217;s sweating because he&#8217;s sick and has a fever! Not because he&#8217;s hot for Elena. He looks like he&#8217;s seconds away from being unconscious. It&#8217;s just&#8230; weird.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Ben and Jamie from <em>The Bachelor</em></strong><br
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/> Another kiss that was painful to watch, but even more painful because IT WAS REAL. It just looked like this girl was trying so hard&#8230; her dress even ripped! Ouch. Awkward. And this exchange was equally as awkward: &#8220;Do you like me sitting on your lap?&#8221; &#8220;This is A-okay.&#8221; Girl, stop talking. Just. Stop.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Pauly D and Deena from <em>Jersey Shore</em></strong><br
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/> I literally screamed at my TV while this was happening because it was so horrible to watch. Deena, Pauly, I love you, but please don&#8217;t ever kiss on camera again, ever. That lip bite? Ouch. The look on Ronny&#8217;s face says it all.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong><em>The Virgin Diaries</em> TLC Commercial</strong><br
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/> This takes the cake. I am convinced it&#8217;s not real. It can&#8217;t be real. Right? Right?!?!</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Which of these kisses do you think was the most awkward? Do you disagree with any of these choices? Which bad kissing scenes did I miss? <a
href="#respond">Tell me in the comments!</a> </strong></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p
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isPermaLink="false">http://www.gurl.com/?p=71050</guid> <description><![CDATA[Awkwardness is just a part of life &#8211; we&#8217;ve all had our share of totally cringe-worthy moments that we&#8217;d rather forget about. But even though these moments stink in real life, watching them on television shows is a whole different story. These super uncomfortable scenes are a huge part of what make TV shows seem &#8230; <a
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/> Let&#8217;s be real: losing your virginity isn&#8217;t always as perfect and sweet as some movies and TV shows make it out to be. Sometimes it&#8217;s just super weird and awkward. <em>The OC</em> showed this so perfectly when Seth and Summer had sex for the first time. Everything started out cute and fun, and then, BAM, fish sex. It happens to the best of us, guys. And I&#8217;m kind of happy it happened to these two, because hearing Seth tell Ryan about it? Even more awkward and hysterical.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>That time Dan&#8217;s heart got eaten by a dog &#8211; <em>One Tree Hill</em></strong><br
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/> Honestly, this might be the funniest/most awkward scene of television history. I mean, a dog snatching a human heart moments before the operation? It just doesn&#8217;t get much better than that. Everything about this scene is ridiculous (in the best way). First of all, why is there a dog in the hospital? Second of all, why does everyone stop and stare but no one tries to grab the dog? This is awkward perfection.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>When Jimmy got shot – <em>Degrassi</em></strong><br
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/> I am not in any way making light of school shootings, but we all have to admit that this super dramatic <em>Degrassi</em> scene was just a little bit ridiculous, not to mention really cringe-worthy. This kid was supposed to be Jimmy&#8217;s friend, and then all of the sudden he&#8217;s shooting him and paralyzing him? It doesn&#8217;t get much more uncomfortable than that.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>When Aria tells her parents about her relationship with Ezra -<em> Pretty Little Liars</em></strong><br
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/> I have no idea why these two thought it would be a good idea to come clean to her parents about their totally illegal/creepy/still-somehow-cute relationship, but they did, and so this happened. It was so uncomfortable to watch that I kind of wanted to turn my TV off. From Aria&#8217;s little brother punching Ezra in the face to her parent&#8217;s completely understandable shock and disgust, this had to be one of the most awkward scenes in <em>PLL</em> history.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>When everyone finds out Blair still loves Chuck &#8211; in the middle of her wedding &#8211; <em>Gossip Girl</em></strong><br
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/> Oh, Blair. How did you not see this coming? Even though I was totally rooting against the marriage of Blair and Prince Louis, this was still a little hard to watch. I mean, she was up there smiling and getting married in front of hundreds of people, and then everyone gets a text message with proof that she loves someone else. Like, video proof. I felt awkward just looking at her face and it wasn&#8217;t even real.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Speaking of awkward, <strong><a
href="http://pubads.g.doubleclick.net/gampad/clk?id=12529409&amp;iu=/603/gurl.alloy" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">MTV&#8217;s Awkward</a></strong> features maybe the most awkward moments of all and that&#8217;s exactly why I can&#8217;t get enough of it. I wouldn&#8217;t trade those totally uncomfortable scenes for anything. The season premiere is on tonight at 10:30/9:30c on MTV.</p><p><span
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class="wp-caption-text">I&#039;d never . . . gone there before! | <a
href=&quot;http://www.shutterstock.com/cat.mhtml?lang=en&#038;search_source=search_form&#038;version=llv1&#038;anyorall=all&#038;safesearch=1&#038;searchterm=funny+banana&#038;search_group=&#038;orient=&#038;search_cat=&#038;searchtermx=&#038;photographer_name=&#038;people_gender=&#038;people_age=&#038;people_ethnicity=&#038;people_number=&#038;commercial_ok=&#038;color=&#038;show_color_wheel=1#id=87689110&#038;src=ac51a52fc9079208e826c9544c9bc3fd-1-65&quot;>Source: Shutterstock</a></p></div>“When you give a guy a handjob, you want to grip it <strong>as hard as you can</strong> because guys have really strong hands and that’s how they do it when they’re alone.” This was the first advice on <strong>going down on a guy</strong>—the <em>horrible </em>advice&#8211;my high school BFF gave me when we were 17.</p><p><strong>My other bestie</strong> told me that when it came to blow jobs, you should fill your mouth with <strong>as much water</strong> as possible before heading south of the border.</p><p>“But . . . wouldn’t you, like, <strong>spit water</strong> all over them?” I asked. Even though I’d only kissed boys before, this seemed really, really wrong.</p><p>“Yeah duh,” she said, “they <strong>like </strong>that.”</p><p><strong>Um no. They don’t.</strong></p><p>So, I did the only <strong>logical thing</strong>—I turned to a guy for advice. My best guy pal was your quintessential <strong>horny teen boy</strong>, and was more than happy to give me tips on oral sex.</p><p>But he didn’t want to <strong>tell me</strong> . . . he wanted to <em>show </em>me. And I ain’t talkin’ about on a banana, neither. My dude friend proposed that he and I become friends with benefits, but in a very <strong>educational way</strong>. I’d go down on him, and he would give me tips and notes. Then, he would reciprocate, and vice versa.</p><p><div
id="attachment_59481" class="wp-caption alignright" style="width: 210px"><a
href="http://www.gurl.com/2012/04/04/going-down-on-a-guy/banana-my-first-blow-job-2/" rel="attachment wp-att-59481"><img
src="http://cdn2.gurl.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/banana-my-first-blow-job1-200x167.jpg" alt="banana my first blow job" title="banana-my-first-blow-job" width="200" height="167" class="size-medium wp-image-59481" /></a><p
class="wp-caption-text">Bananas taste yummy. Penises? Not so much. | <a
href=&quot;http://www.shutterstock.com/cat.mhtml?lang=en&#038;search_source=search_form&#038;version=llv1&#038;anyorall=all&#038;safesearch=1&#038;searchterm=fountain&#038;search_group=&#038;orient=&#038;search_cat=&#038;searchtermx=&#038;photographer_name=&#038;people_gender=&#038;people_age=&#038;people_ethnicity=&#038;people_number=&#038;commercial_ok=&#038;color=&#038;show_color_wheel=1#id=62658655&#038;src=b9a18c9dc3861f66485d5b2a175b0369-1-5&quot;>Source: Shutterstock</a></p></div>Truthfully, I’d had <strong>a massive crush</strong> on him forever, but had realized that he was never boyfriend material. This seemed like a <strong>good compromise</strong>. Besides, why fumble through countless awkward hookups when someone could teach you once and for all?</p><p><strong>My mistake</strong>, of course, was assuming that hooking up with him wouldn’t be awkward. Since we couldn’t exactly get it on with parents in the house, we took refuge in his mom’s Mercedes SUV (omg so <strong>small and uncomfortable</strong>) and I got down to business. He had given me some pre-action tips like, &#8220;pull your lips over your teeth so you don’t scratch <strong>Mr. Wiggly</strong>&#8221; and &#8220;keep it as wet as possible.” Well, I tried.</p><p>I remember <strong>being shocked</strong> at how it tasted—<em>normal</em>. Like your finger. I don’t know why but I always assumed a penis <strong>would be flavored</strong>. Once I got passed that great shock, I realized that the word “job” is in the title of this activity for a reason. <strong>It’s a lot of work! </strong>Coordinating your hand with your mouth with your teeth with your other hand, all while wedged inside a compact luxury SUV. <strong>Thankfully</strong>, as a 17-year-old boy he didn’t take long to finish&#8211;but that&#8217;s where things went wrong.</p><p><a
href="http://www.gurl.com/2012/04/04/going-down-on-a-guy/purple-water-fountain-blow-job/" rel="attachment wp-att-59471"><img
src="http://cdn3.gurl.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/purple-water-fountain-blow-job-200x167.jpg" alt="purple water fountain was like my first blow job" title="purple-water-fountain-blow-job" width="200" height="167" class="size-medium wp-image-59471" /></a>I don’t know what <strong>I was expecting</strong>, but there was a lot more, you know, than my mouth was prepared to hold. <strong>I panicked</strong>, I didn’t know whether I should spit or swallow and then the most horrible thing ever happened: I coughed. And “it” went EVERYWHERE, <strong>spewing into the air</strong> and all over Zack’s mom’s leather upholstery. He burst out laughing but I wanted to crawl into the glove compartment and die.</p><p>And that’s the story of <strong>my first time</strong> going down on a guy&#8211;and how I got the nickname “<strong>Fountain</strong>.”</p><p>So if <strong>you&#8217;re worried</strong> about your first time being perfect, just know from a girl who has been there that well, it probably <strong>won&#8217;t be</strong>. But that&#8217;s okay&#8211;<strong>you&#8217;re normal</strong>, and anyone you hook up with (when you decide to!) is lucky&#8211;even if it is <strong>a little awkward!</strong></p><p><strong>Are you nervous about getting physical for the first time? Do you have a funny story about a first hookup? Tell us in the <a
href="#respond" rel="nofollow">comments</a>!</strong></p><p
style="text-align: center;"<strong><a
href="http://www.gurl.com/2012/03/31/i-am-a-virgin/">Need To Tell Your Guy You&#8217;re A Virgin? Here&#8217;s How</a></p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>http://www.gurl.com/2012/04/04/going-down-on-a-guy/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>26</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>I Can&#8217;t Believe He Said That</title><link>http://www.gurl.com/2012/02/23/can-i-finger-you/?utm_source=rss&#038;utm_medium=rss&#038;utm_campaign=can-i-finger-you</link> <comments>http://www.gurl.com/2012/02/23/can-i-finger-you/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Thu, 23 Feb 2012 23:00:19 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Gurl</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[Down There]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Health, Sex & Relationships]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Hooking Up]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Love&Sex]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category> <category><![CDATA[awkward]]></category> <category><![CDATA[dating]]></category> <category><![CDATA[embarrassing]]></category> <category><![CDATA[fingering]]></category> <category><![CDATA[funny dating stories]]></category> <category><![CDATA[I can't believe he said that]]></category> <category><![CDATA[kissing]]></category> <guid
isPermaLink="false">http://www.gurl.com/?p=54099</guid> <description><![CDATA[You'll never believe what this dude said after kissing his girlfriend for the first time! <a
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class="invisible">can i finger you</span><br
/> <a
href="http://www.gurl.com/i-cant-believe-he-said-that-dad/hesaidthat-300-3/" rel="attachment wp-att-45520"><img
class="alignleft size-full wp-image-45520" title="HeSaidThat 300" src="http://cdn2.gurl.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/HeSaidThat-300.jpg" alt="I hate him I hate him for asking can I finger you" width="300" height="250" /></a>Of course when you <strong>first start dating</strong> someone new, there&#8217;s this rush and you just want to be really close to them all the time. It&#8217;s <strong>cute and flattering</strong> and fun when a guy shows how excited he is about you, but um, my first boyfriend went a little <strong>overboard </strong>a little too soon!</p><p>We were in <strong>high school</strong> and I&#8217;d only been dating him for a couple weeks. We&#8217;d just had <strong>our first kiss</strong>, and he called me that night to tell me how awesome it was. I was psyched and couldn&#8217;t stop thinking about kissing him again&#8211;that is, <strong>until he asked</strong> the most inappropriate question ever:</p><p>“<strong>So, can I finger you next time?</strong>”</p><p><strong>Woah-woah-woah!</strong> I quickly said, &#8220;Uh, NO?&#8221; and I could tell he was super embarrassed. I still don&#8217;t have any clue what he was thinking&#8211;I mean, I haven&#8217;t read any rule books that say kissing <strong>automatically leads to</strong> sticking your finger up me! I saw him again about a week later, and there was <strong>no more mention</strong> of my &#8220;down there&#8221; area. I think he got the hint!</p><p><strong>What&#8217;s the worst thing a guy has said to you? Tell us in the <a
href="#respond" rel="nofollow">comments</a>!</strong></p><p><strong><a
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isPermaLink="false">http://www.gurl.com/?p=28462</guid> <description><![CDATA[Society makes the word &#8220;awkward&#8221; out to be a bad thing, but guess what, gURLs? It&#8217;s actually the total opposite. At least that&#8217;s what the cast of MTV&#8216;s new show, Awkward, told us. Not only does the beau on the show, Beau Mirchoff, find awkward gURLs &#8220;appealing and charming,&#8221; but the rest of the cast &#8230; <a
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class="wp-caption-text">Do they look awkward to you?</p></div><p>Society makes the word &#8220;awkward&#8221; out to be a bad thing, but guess what, gURLs? It&#8217;s actually the total opposite. At least that&#8217;s what the cast of <a
href="http://www.gurl.com/tag/mtv/">MTV</a>&#8216;s new show, <em>Awkward</em>, told us. Not only does the <em>beau</em> on the show, <strong>Beau Mirchoff</strong>, find awkward gURLs &#8220;appealing and charming,&#8221; but the rest of the cast is pretty much in agreement that awkward is the new cool.</p><p>Get ready to embrace your slightly embarrassing nature with their advice:</p><p><object
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isPermaLink="false">http://www.gurl.com/favorite-awkward-nerds-adorkable-guy-celebs/</guid> <description><![CDATA[What is it about geeky guy celebs? Maybe it&#8217;s the subtle trend-setting. Maybe it&#8217;s the feeling that they would actually date non-famous gURLs. Maybe it&#8217;s that they&#8217;re true to their nerdom while still being comfortable in their own skin. Whatever the case may be, we pay tribute to those adorable and dorky &#8212; adorkable, if &#8230; <a
class="read-more" href="http://www.gurl.com/2011/06/01/favorite-awkward-nerds-adorkable-guy-celebs/">Read More</a>]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img
class="alignleft size-full wp-image-21257" title="adorable-dorky" src="http://cdn3.gurl.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/adorable-dorky.jpg" alt="" width="215" height="215" /></p><p>What is it about geeky guy celebs? Maybe it&#8217;s the subtle trend-setting. Maybe it&#8217;s the feeling that they would actually date non-famous gURLs. Maybe it&#8217;s that they&#8217;re true to their nerdom while still being comfortable in their own skin. Whatever the case may be, we pay tribute to those adorable and dorky &#8212; adorkable, if you will &#8212; dudes who show us that you can still be hot while embracing your awkwardness.</p><p><a
href="http://www.gurl.com/favorite-awkward-nerds-adorkable-guy-celebs/2/">Click on</a> to experience the wonderfulness.</p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>http://www.gurl.com/2011/06/01/favorite-awkward-nerds-adorkable-guy-celebs/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>22</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>My First Time Was Really Awkward. Now What?</title><link>http://www.gurl.com/2011/03/22/my-first-time-was-really-awkward-now-what/?utm_source=rss&#038;utm_medium=rss&#038;utm_campaign=my-first-time-was-really-awkward-now-what</link> <comments>http://www.gurl.com/2011/03/22/my-first-time-was-really-awkward-now-what/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Tue, 22 Mar 2011 18:53:52 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Heather</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[Help Me Heather]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Love Advice]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Sex]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Virginity]]></category> <category><![CDATA[awkward]]></category> <category><![CDATA[condoms]]></category> <category><![CDATA[embarrassement]]></category> <category><![CDATA[first time]]></category> <category><![CDATA[lube]]></category> <category><![CDATA[sex]]></category> <category><![CDATA[virginity]]></category> <guid
isPermaLink="false">http://www.gurl.com/?p=17270</guid> <description><![CDATA[Dear Heather, My boyfriend and I attempted to lose our virginity today&#8230; and it was a little rockier a process than we had initially anticipated! When he tried to go in, it wouldn&#8217;t go in past the tip and even then it&#8217;d keep slipping out. In addition to not getting to really feel it that &#8230; <a
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id="hmh_q"><p>Dear Heather,</p><p>My boyfriend and I attempted to lose our virginity today&#8230; and it was a little rockier a process than we had initially anticipated! When he tried to go in, it wouldn&#8217;t go in past the tip and even then it&#8217;d keep slipping out. In addition to not getting to really feel it that much, I became distracted by trying to help him get it in that I couldn&#8217;t enjoy it much.</p><p>I felt really embarrassed about this and although he reassured me that he loved it anyway, and the reason for the difficulties was probably due to the lubrication on the condom and the cramped position the couch put us in &#8212; I&#8217;m not really convinced. I was also confused because I was super wet when we did it and the condom was lubricated&#8230; yet that only seemed to worsen the slipping.</p><p>I can&#8217;t help but feel like I screwed up our first time somehow and it&#8217;s made me kinda depressed. Also I&#8217;m not even sure to consider myself a virgin or not cause it didn&#8217;t go in all the way&#8230;</p></div><div
id="hmh_a"><p>It sounds like your first time was really, really &#8212; normal! Even though sex looks easy and awesome in the movies and on TV, in real life, it can be awkward, confusing, and pretty messy. It&#8217;s all part of the fun, and it&#8217;s totally okay.</p><p><strong>|<a
href="http://messageboards.gurl.com/n/pfx/forum.aspx?nav=messages&amp;webtag=gl-relations" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Talk all about sex (and everything else!) on the Shout Out Boards.</a>|</strong></p><p>You should really accept and believe that not having the &#8220;perfect&#8221; first time is not at all your fault. I&#8217;d actually say this was a much better experience than a lot of gURLs have. Think about it: you wanted to do it; you used a condom and were safe about it (yay!); you were with a person you felt comfortable with who didn&#8217;t make you feel pressured, and who later reassured you that everything was fine (he sounds like a great guy, by the way); and it didn&#8217;t hurt. Be proud of yourself, not depressed, about what happened!</p><p>For more success next time around, try relaxing yourself as best you can, especially your pelvic muscles. A cramped couch might not be the best place if you require a some space  to get cozy &#8212; find someplace private and comfortable for the both of  you. This will help him get inside of you easier, and will allow you to enjoy the experience. Even though the lubrication can make things slip and  slide, it&#8217;ll make things feel great once he&#8217;s inside of you. You could also use a non-lubricated condom &#8212; it just might make things a little painful if you&#8217;re not wet enough. Go slowly, communicate before and during the sex, try out different positions, don&#8217;t just focus on &#8220;getting there&#8221; and instead keep your energy and thoughts on how amazing it feels to be intimate with your partner.</p><p><strong>|<a
href="http://www.gurl.com/im-not-popoular-heather-can-i-get-a-prom-date/" target="_blank">How do you get a prom date if you&#8217;re not popular? Heather helps!</a>|</strong></p><p>Feel free to giggle and laugh at the situation &#8212; it&#8217;s totally allowed during sex. If you find that you&#8217;re still not ready when you try again, take some time off to build up your confidence. This won&#8217;t be the last time you get to have sex in your life. The more pressure you put on the situation, the more likely you&#8217;ll let yourself down.</p><p>And as I&#8217;ve said before: Virginity is a state of mind. There&#8217;s no real definition of it. If you still feel like you haven&#8217;t officially done <em>it</em>, then sure, consider yourself a virgin. Totally up to you.</p><p>Let me know how it goes, okay?</p><p>WDYT gURLs? Was your first time anything like this? How did you make it feel better the next time? Share your stories and advice <a
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/> Last night I woke up in the middle of the night and I heard my parents doing it. I was so shocked I didn&#8217;t know what to do so I just tried to go back to sleep. I can&#8217;t get it out of my mind!! I want them to know and feel guilty and be more careful but I do not want to confront them at all! What should I do?&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p></div><div
id="hmh_a"><p>That really is an awkward situation and obviously, it&#8217;s totally affected you. I think anyone who overhears other people have sex feels strangely alienated, angry and disrespected (though there are people who get off on it). Those feelings can get all the more intense when you hear your own parents.</p><p><a
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href="http://www.gurl.com/play/games/"><strong>|Need more healthy distractions? It&#8217;s time to play some gURL games!|</strong></a></p><p>Now, if this wasn&#8217;t a one time deal, you do have a delicate situation. I think for this, you go to your mom and handle it kind of like you&#8217;re Aria Montgomery on <em>Pretty Little Liars</em>. She seems way beyond her years in how comfortable she is talking to her parents about their relationship, right? Channel her maturity and openly say to your mom when you two are naturally alone (don&#8217;t schedule a time to talk or anything), &#8220;Hey Mom, I&#8217;m sure you didn&#8217;t know and didn&#8217;t mean anything by it, but I feel really uncomfortable when I hear you and dad doing it.&#8221; That should be enough. She might be embarrassed or blow it off as a  cover for her embarrassment, but hopefully, that&#8217;s as far as the convo will go and she&#8217;ll get the point. I&#8217;m pretty sure she doesn&#8217;t <em>want</em> you to hear them.</p><p>If they keep going at it after this talk, we have a bigger problem. So let me know how it goes and we&#8217;ll go from there, OK?</p><p>Have you ever heard your parents doing it? How&#8217;d it make you feel? Did you ever have to say anything to them? <a
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