Gurl.com » anger http://www.gurl.com A teen site and community for teenage girls Tue, 18 Jun 2013 21:01:08 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 Comments Of The Week: Exclamation Point Edition!!!http://www.gurl.com/2012/12/21/exclamation-point-comments/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=exclamation-point-comments http://www.gurl.com/2012/12/21/exclamation-point-comments/#comments Fri, 21 Dec 2012 21:00:14 +0000 Meg Malone http://www.gurl.com/?p=91804 Read More]]> Back when I was writing essays in school, I would write my straightforward statements with the periods and my questions with the appropriate question marks, but it rarely seemed like there was good time for me to use exclamation points in my papers. Sadness.

The thing is though, I LOVE using exclamation points! See that there? I just couldn’t help myself! Exclamation points are awesome because they show that you’re passionate about something – whether you’re really excited, angry, exasperated, appreciative or some other intense emotion bubbling up in you just needing to be expressed.

We love getting to hear your reactions in the comments, and seeing your use of exclamation points reminds me how invested you readers are in what you find here at Gurl. We really appreciate it! As always, thanks for contributing to our comments, and here are a few of your comments from this week that include my beloved exclamation point.

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From “How Do I Tell My Family That I’m Bisexual?”

From “10 Things From “Love Actually” That I Would Love To See Actually Happen”

From “It’s Okay To Wait For The Right Guy—Kelly Clarkson Is Proof!”

From “I Lost My Best Friend… Because She Was Jealous Of My Boyfriend”

From “5 Funny Girls Who Should Replace Jay Leno”

From “From The Message Boards: My Crush Has A Girlfriend But Still Flirts With Me – What Do I Do?”

From “15 Old Christmas Movies To Get You Feeling Festive”

From “Survey: What Gifts Do You Want This Holiday Season?”

Do you love using exclamation points? What emotions do you most often express with your use of exclamation points? What was the last thing you wrote that you felt was worthy of an exclamation point? Tell us in the comments!

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]]> http://www.gurl.com/2012/12/21/exclamation-point-comments/feed/ 2 How To Get A Frog (Or Me) Really Pissed Offhttp://www.gurl.com/2012/11/21/pissed-off-frog/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=pissed-off-frog http://www.gurl.com/2012/11/21/pissed-off-frog/#comments Wed, 21 Nov 2012 15:45:22 +0000 Gurl http://www.gurl.com/?p=87481 Read More]]> Have you ever had to deal with someone who was just really and truly a jerk? Someone who didn’t appreciate you or who acted like the things you needed simply didn’t matter? Someone who would promise you nice things, but then turn around and not give them to you . . . without even apologizing? I think we’ve all had friends, teachers, or even bratty little brothers who’ve acted this way. And I’m sure you’re still pissed off at them.

Now think about how fun it would be to give that person what they had coming to them. Oh yeah. It would feel amazing. And they’d never ever expect it from you–you who they’re used to bullying without any repercussions at all.

This little frog was pissed off and got his revenge. I think you’ll love it.

Can you relate to the pissed off frog? Tell me why in the comments!

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]]> http://www.gurl.com/2012/11/21/pissed-off-frog/feed/ 2 I Wish I’d Never Had Revenge Sexhttp://www.gurl.com/2012/06/28/revenge-sex-regret/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=revenge-sex-regret http://www.gurl.com/2012/06/28/revenge-sex-regret/#comments Thu, 28 Jun 2012 16:00:42 +0000 Gurl http://www.gurl.com/?p=71062 Read More]]>
I had revenge sex

I wanted revenge at ANY cost! | Source: Shutterstock

There hadn’t been any of those your-boyfriend-is-totally-about-to-dump-you signs. None of my friends had warned me that they thought it might happen anytime soon. He hadn’t mentioned any “problems in our relationship” at all. It’s safe to say that I wasn’t expecting to be single by the time I got home from school that day—but I sure was.

You’ve got to understand, this is my first serious high school boyfriend we’re talking about. You know, the one who I planned on marrying? The one I lost my virginity to? The one that I imagined being with for forever? Yep, that was him. One day we were perfect and the next we were over.

The following day at school I anticipated the worst: Passing each other awkwardly in the hall, having to sit near him at lunch and not laugh when he said something funny, him knowing that I had been crying during the minutes before class. But that “worst” doesn’t even come close to what really happened. Ready for it? Are you sure?

HE WAS WITH ANOTHER GIRL. Like really? How could he be so awful to me? They were holding hands and even kissing during passing period. I wanted to die. Cue the combination of humiliation and depression. Obviously our relationship had meant nothing to him–when to me, it was one of the most important things in life. How could I have been such an idiot for letting him mess with my emotions that way. I wasn’t sad anymore, I was livid. And I needed to find some way to get even with him.

If he thought he could just go off and be with another girl so quickly after our relationship was over, that sure meant that I could do the same with another boy. But not just any boy, I wanted to make sure that it was the one person that would hurt him the most—one of his best friends.

I knew which one to pick immediately; he had always been someone that my ex-boyfriend was jealous of. Without consulting my friends, I texted him the next day, asking if he wanted to hang out, but I’m sure he knew that I meant something more. When he came over, I was ready. There had always been some sexual tension between us but now, with my boyfriend out of the picture, nothing was stopping us . . . or me from having revenge sex.

I felt TERRIBLE afterwards. | Source: Shutterstock

We kissed and it was really great, but it just didn’t feel right. His hands moved up my shirt and I liked how it felt but hated that it was him at the same time. I went down on him and wanted to make it fantastic for him, wanted him to finish, but only so the news would get back to my ex boyfriend. By the time we had sex, I don’t even know what I was thinking. I only knew that revenge sex wasn’t what I pictured it would be.

It was such a convoluted experience of things I thought I wanted and the emotions that only made me realize how bad of an idea it had all been. I felt dirty and wrong. Believe me, the sex was good while it was happening (when isn’t it?), but the way it made me feel after was so not what I expected. Revenge sex is NOT all it’s cracked up to be in the movies.

I wanted to go back in time and forget the whole thing. I wished that I could have found ANY other way to get over this relationship. Anything besides having revenge sex. I just wish I had known that it would have felt so wrong. If I had, I would never have done it in the first place.

Have you ever had revenge sex, or have you been tempted to do something else super bad to get revenge on an ex? What was it, and how did it make you feel? Do you regret having revenge sex? Tell us everything in the comments!

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Hi Heather,

Ever since my boyfriend left me (because he turned out to be gay), I just wanna stab people. Yesterday I was so mad, I told my mom I’d butcher her in her sleep. I also stabbed my best friend with a fork at lunch and she won’t talk to me now. I feel like it’s their fault for being stupid, and that I’m not even doing anything wrong. Do you think this is normal? Do you think I am crazy?

It must have been really hard for you when you boyfriend left you. I’m sure you felt devastated, abandoned, and like you had no control over anything. We all react to those awful feelings in different ways — sometimes gURLs get sad and depressed, and others (what sounds like your case) get really, really angry. When our emotions start to mess up our relationships with our family and friends and lead to violent thoughts and even physical harm, it’s time to take back control before things get really serious.

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Do I think your behavior is normal? Well, a lot of people do use violence to deal with their feelings, but it’s not okay, fair, or healthy to. Even if jokingly stabbing someone with a fork or telling a loved one that you’re going to murder them doesn’t seem serious to you, it is scary and very real to the people on the receiving end. Violent threats are (and should be) taken extremely seriously, and just making one can get you in a lot of trouble.

You should talk to a trusted friend, parent, school counselor, or therapist about all of your anger in order to learn how to manage it. Or, if you don’t feel comfortable talking to someone in person about what you’re going through, call a hotline like 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433), where there are people to talk to every single day, at every hour of the day about all of those sucky emotions you’re feeling. It’ll feel good to let it all out, and that’s when you’ll begin to feel better.

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I don’t think you’re crazy, though. I think you’re a gURL who is hurting deeply on the inside and just needs someone to listen to you and love you.

Good luck, and let me know if you ever need anything else.

What do you think, gURLs? Have you ever felt so mad you just wanted to hurt people (or yourself)? How’d you get help? Share your stories and advice below!

take care,
heather

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