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	i have no privacy i can't stand my step-mom everyone thinks my sister's better than me my family is really poor my dad doesn't like my friends my mom thinks i'm insane my christian cousin is gay... i hate seeing my mom kiss her boyfriend... my sister is anorexic... my sister and i like the same guys my parents fight about money my mom focuses on mistakes i've made in the past my mom's been snooping... how do i tell my mom i want to be a vegan? I lied about dating a younger boy, my mom would think I'm a loser my dad insults me my parents don't believe in dating i'm an atheist but my mom's a lutheran i have to share a room with an eight year old my mom read my diary i'm not allowed to date! i cannot get along with my mom... my mom and i are always yelling at each other. my parents are paranoid about me dating. my mom is a big emotional mess. i just found out my dad is really my step-dad. i want to be on birth control. how do i ask my mom? my mom won't let any of my friends drive me places. i want to find my real dad. my dad and grandma are always fighting. i can hear my mom having sex with her boyfriend at night. i have my license but my mom won't let me drive on my own. my parents are getting divorced and i'm freaking out. my mom hates my best friend. my dad looks at porn online, then blames my sister and me. my mom doesn't like my boyfriend because he is not christian. should i tell my mom that i'm not a virgin? my parents don't support my vegetarianism. what can i do? my mom doesn't believe that i'm bi. how can i convince her that this isn't a phase? i think my dad is cheating on my mom. should i say something? my brother is mad because i'm hooking up with his best friend. my mom tries to fit in with my friends and it's really annoying. i found a video of my brother smoking pot and i'm worried about him. my mom won't let me wear make up. my family keeps pressuring me to find a boyfriend. how can i get them to back off?

Should I tell my mom that I'm not a virgin? She keeps alluding to the idea that she knows I'm not. She said I can come and talk to her about anything, but I'm afraid that if I do she won't trust me anymore.

What should I do? Has anyone else talked to their mom about this?

44 member responses

    Lift off the weight
     You should tell her. It will make you happier and it will be like lifting a weight off of your shoulders. It is the right thing to do. Your mom would be happy knowing that you told her.
    --Posted by bowwow5
    09:29PM EST 04/02/08

    Tell her
    If you are mature enough to have sex then you are mature enough to tell her your having sex.
    --Posted by swarm_freak
    08:19PM EST 04/02/08

    Start off slow
    My mom walked in on me and wasn't really mad at the fact I was having sex, she was mad because I didn't tell her I was. You can start off by asking to talk privately and tell her matter-of-factly that you're having sex, but tell her that you're being responsible and that you're on birth control.

Tell her that you wanted to tell her before, but couldn't see how until now. Your mom may be worried, and she may get mad, but at least you told her.
--Posted by hislilarmybrat
06:54PM EST 04/02/08

    Tell Her--You'll Be Happy You Did
    My parents finally found out that I wasn't a virgin, and now my mom says that it hurt her to know that I was afraid to tell her. As long as you are being safe, she will be happy that you told her.
    --Posted by blondy114
    11:29PM EST 04/01/08

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