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I don't think they are
Well, I believe that guys are actually attracted by opinionated girls! But I also think they can be intimidated by us cuz we can win at arguments! Lol!
--Posted by astridcute
10:50PM EST 01/03/07
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Yeah?basically the same as others have said. They like seeing strong women and think it's sexy, hot, attractive, etc. However, they won't date you because they like the feelings of control. It scares them because if you started a relationship, you might win arguments, crush their ego and dump them without guilt. You'll find the right guy though. It just takes time.
--Posted by rtc1218
03:51PM EST 01/03/07
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I used to wonder that exact same thing. Until I realized that all the guys who would tell me that all were pretty much controlling. I'm not a woman to be controlled. I have a really hard time taking direction from people who have no real authority over me.
Forget all the guys who want puppet women. They're not worth your time. It took me a bit of time to find the guy who could take my "bitchiness." As a matter of fact what attracted him to me was the fact that I wasn't like all the rest of the girls where we live.
So go on being who you are. Don't for one minute think you should become less opinionated. You may have to wait a little longer to find the guy for you, but sometimes that's best.
--Posted by hislilarmybrat
04:16PM EST 01/02/07
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Scaring them away?
It's one thing to have opinions--it's another to try to force your way of thinking on others, or to shut out their ideas. You may not realize it, but when you get angry and "speak your mind" as you say, you probably come off as overly aggressive and close-minded. This doesn't mean you shouldn't say what you feel...but when you do, be conscious of how you are talking (tone of voice, word choice, etc.) and make sure you are being open to, aware of and respectful towards other's thoughts and opinions.
--Posted by annakay511
03:32PM EST 01/02/07
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DON'T PANIC.
Most guys are jerks when it comes to that. I am pro-choice and a feminist--beliefs that usually make guys feel weird. One time, I found a guy who didn't care about that. He was great (he moved away), but men like that DO EXIST. Don't worry, there is college. When you get there, there will be protests and clubs that are into the things you are. Just wait.
--Posted by soccer_chique
02:07AM EST 01/02/07
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Guys like to be in control. No matter how hard they try to deny it, they like it. This may not be true for all guys, but most. And when a person that has his/her own opinions and speaks for his/herself, they don't know what to do or say.
Also, they might be afraid of getting dumped. So when they see girls that have no opinions and don't speak for themselves, they feel comfortable. They are in control and have a lesser chance of being dumped. It's an ego boost.
And like the last post said, guys may be insecure and are just not mature enough to be with a person that has their own opinion. But really, those non-opinionated people that don't think for themselves, won't get anywhere in life.
--Posted by dweeb101
06:37PM EST 01/01/07
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