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No good
Get a new friend. My best friend did that to me, then later stabbed me in the back. Now she ignores all her former friends so she can make out with her boyfriend in the corner of the school. I see them sometimes with his hands up her shirt and her hands down his pants. GROSS! the sad part is, she was the one who was all like GO VIRGINITY before she ever had a boyfriend and now...ugh. It's disgusting.
--Posted by foggydreams
08:18PM EST 09/11/06
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Serious chat!!!
You should have a very serious chat with Jessica. It is really nice that she has a boyfriend, but leaving you out and not being sensitive with your feelings is just horrible. Eventually she will open up to you again but for the mean time maybe find another friend as well as Jessica.
--Posted by legendaryladee
12:56PM EST 09/11/06
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Just sit and talk with her. If she doesn't listen, don't lose touch with her, because chances are that the relationship won't last. Don't let a boy get in the way of your relationship.
--Posted by cubin
06:58PM EST 09/10/06
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Don't worry
I understand how you feel because my best friends are like that sometimes. I make equal time for both my boyfriend and my best friends.My boyfriend's best friend hasn't said anything but i know he feels like my boyfriend ignores him sometimes for me. Just talk to her and try to be understanding.
--Posted by sweetpot
06:00PM EST 09/10/06
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Balance
There's always an adjustment period at the beginning of a relationship--a time when a person has to figure out how to balance school, extra curricular stuff, friends, responsibilities--and now, a boyfriend. It's a lot to handle. Cut your friend some slack, but don't let her get away with it entirely either. Make sure she knows that it bothers you, because it's really easy to neglect your friends when you have a boyfriend (you feel like he is all you'll ever need!). If she doesn't come to her senses, don't write her off as a bad friend, just give it time. She'll realize her mistake in due time.
--Posted by happysmoof
04:22PM EST 09/10/06
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Talk
This happened to me not too long ago. Just talk to her and let her know how your feeling. This really helped me and now she doesn't do it as much anymore.
--Posted by dancerbabe19
01:14PM EST 09/10/06
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Maybe it's you
I'll give you some advice you probably won't hear.. maybe she's not ignoring you.
My best friend always gets in fights with me because she says I spend all my time with my boyfriend, and that when me, my boyfriend and my best friend (along with other friends) are together, I ignore everyone else.
I've talked to my other friends (and anyone else me and my boyfriend have been around together) and they all agree my best friend is CRAZY.
Ask yourself: Are you jealous? Maybe because she has a boyfriend and you don't? Do you expect too much from her? Are you subconciously pushing her away, but it looks like she's leaving?
It's always easier to blame someone else.
Everyone will tell you the cliche "Boyfriends come and go, but friends are forever".
It's not true.
You don't marry your friends and spend your life with them. You do that with your boyfriend.
--Posted by model_for_russ
07:11PM EST 09/09/06
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Talk to her.
I used to be in this situation with a friend of mine all the time. She was something of a serial dater, so she'd switch boyfriends a lot. Whenever she had a new one, I seriously wouldn't see her for like 2 weeks. It bothered me a whole lot, so me and my other friends decided together to talk to her about it. It turned out that she hadn't even realized something was wrong, and she apologized and told us it wouldn't happen anymore. And you know what? It never did. I think you should just talk to your friend about her behaviour in a calm and non-accusatory manner. If you sound like you're attacking her, she will most likely get defensive and you'll have gotten nowhere. Put more emphasis on how this is making YOU feel.
--Posted by merry_murderess
06:31PM EST 09/09/06
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Talk to her
Tell Jessica how much it bothers you when she begins to ignore you when she has a boyfriend, and that if she keeps doing it, you'll no longer be her friend. True friends don't ignore you when they have a significant other.
That being said, examine your own behaviors when you begin dating someone. Do you often ignore your friends, but not realize it?
--Posted by lilithfair
12:29PM EST 09/09/06
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Talk
Talk to her. Tell her this is hurting your feelings, and if she does listen or care, hang out with other friends until shes ready to be a true friend and listen.
--Posted by hidden_secret
11:10AM EST 09/09/06
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