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Consider the other side
I have ADD too, and it really effects how you process things and how you perform mentally. I know the excuse gets annoying, but if you had a problem concentrating on simple things ALL the time too, you might get it... She's probably a good friend if you've been hanging out with her this long. Don't you think?
--Posted by jspc15
01:45AM EST 02/09/05
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Don't dump her...
If your friend blames it on her ADD, try and help her stop. If you want the friendship to last, be honest with her. You should tell her that it bothers you that she uses it as an excuse. If she is a true friend, then she'll listen to you, and try to stop. If she doesn't, then it isn't your fault, you tried to help her...
--Posted by baby_phat9901
04:34PM EST 02/07/05
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don't shun her
I know what she's going through--I have it too. It's really hard to concentrate and all, but you shouldn't let your disorder beat you. Tell her NICELY that she shouldn't let that ruin The way she learns.
--Posted by koozelqueen
03:45PM EST 02/07/05
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You guessed it... ADD
I have ADD, and I think that it is an excuse, an excuse that's given to you by your parents, docters, and teachers. What happens is that you use the lies of ADD or the excuses and you get so down that you try or have to use even more lies and excuses to bail yourself out. It's hard not to use as an excuse when it's handed to you on a silver platter, most times I bet she doesn't even realize that she's doing it. I know I don't half the time. ... Don't dump her, I see ADD as more of a personality type than anything, so you'd just be hurting your friend and yourself.
--Posted by green-allure
01:27AM EST 02/06/05
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ADD Trouble
It sounds like you should do a Google on ADD and actually realize the symptoms your friend goes through. It is a condition, as in something you can help, but not control. Have you considered that she is insecure because of her faults, and feels that using her condition as a cover is the only way she won't be judged by them?
--Posted by toomature
06:57PM EST 02/05/05
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stereotypes
She's feeding into all of those stereotypes about people with ADD and ADHD and other conditions like that.
--Posted by bmorelibra928
12:59PM EST 02/05/05
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What's wrong with you?
I have ADD and there's nothing you can do abut it. Once you have it you can never get rid of it. Your friend has all the right to use her ADD as a crutch. ... Give her a break. I bet she's gone through a lot more than you have. Don't say that she uses her ADD as an excuse all the time until you know what it's like to have ADD. Okay?
--Posted by alexknowles
11:57PM EST 02/04/05
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I know!
I know how you feel. My friend uses her ADD as an excuse too. Just tell her what I told my friend. She can't go through life blaming her ADD. Sooner or later she will screw up and she won' be able to blame her ADD. So it would be easier if she just tried harder at things and tried not to blame her ADD. I know that it may come off kinda harsh but it works. Now that my friend knows how I feel she tries really hard not to use her ADD as an excuse and Im very proud of her.
--Posted by kitty_eyes
02:45PM EST 02/04/05
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i have it 2!
I have ADD too! ... I do some of the stuff your bf does but I don't blame it on the add! And you shouldn't dump her!
--Posted by mkgtweety
12:31PM EST 02/04/05
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