People always call me anorexic, and it hurts my feelings so bad, because it's not a joke...in fact...my mother was anorexic, and nearly died. Don't people see how much it hurts me? What should I do?
I used to face the same ridicule. I'm just naturally thin, but once people started saying that, it made me very insecure. Unfortunately, I took it too much to heart and actually became anorexic, which I fought for a little more than a year. My advice is to ignore it or better yet, educate them. Let them know what you're actually made of, but know that you don't have to justify your natural body type to anyone but yourself. --Posted by BigHIPSbigLIPS 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
Hey. Some people feel the need to point their finger at other people to deflect negative attention. Remember when people point at you they are pointing right back at themselves. Maybe they have a problem and don't want the bad things said about them so they pick your face out of the crowd and blame you. If you are very skinny, it's not really your fault and it sure does not mean you are anorexic. I think that you should go right to you mother and sit down and talk. She knows about the anorexia and she will have the best advice for you. I hope that people stop saying things but this is something that may happen all through your life. Good luck! --Posted by Jennychiky 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
I bet that if you told these people that it's not a joke to say that, that you have a close family member who was very sick with it, and that anorexia actually is a serious disease that people die from, they would say they were sorry, feel bad, and never hurt you again. People can be naive about diseases and things that they don't know about. If they don't know that it hurts, then they won't stop. It's similar to when people make fun of others who are homosexual without thinking that they could be hurting a person who loves someone that is gay ... It's all about being uneducated about these things. Calmly tell your friends about you mom, and say that it hurts when they say these things. I bet you that they'll be embarrassed and stop. --Posted by Superman48 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
When people say, "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me," they lie. Words hurt (or they might just sting a little) no matter what anyone says. Explain that the next time someone calls you anorexic. No one has the right to make you feel bad about your body. You may also add in the fact that anorexia is no joke, and tell them how serious it is. (They may be ignorant and not know that it's a disorder.) If that doesn't work, find a new crowd that respects you. --Posted by lolli107 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
I know that it hurts because one of my friends is really skinny and people say that she has an eating disorder. But I know and she knows it's not true. That's just the way she is. People may know that your mom was anorexic and then they think that you might be like her. Is there something you do that would maybe make people think you're anorexic? I suggest that you try to talk about it with your close friends so this way you won't be the only person defending yourself. I hope this helps. : ) --Posted by ilovepunk16 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
Most people do not grasp the concept of how serious anorexia is, and they are most likely saying it as a joke and probably do not mean any harm. But they are causing harm, nonetheless, by joking about this situation that hits so close to home for you. When people say these things and call you an anorexic, look right at them and say very clearly, and loudly: "My mother was an anorexic, and very nearly died. It has been a very horrible situation in my life, and it's not funny." Even if they are just passing in the hall, catch up to them, stand in front of them, and say it. These words will make you feel stronger about yourself and challenge them to be more sensitive and to think about their actions. --Posted by scorchy_toes 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
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