my dad looks at porn on the internet and then blames it on me. should i tell my mom th

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	i have no privacy i can't stand my step-mom everyone thinks my sister's better than me my family is really poor my dad doesn't like my friends my mom thinks i'm insane my christian cousin is gay... i hate seeing my mom kiss her boyfriend... my sister is anorexic... my sister and i like the same guys my parents fight about money my mom focuses on mistakes i've made in the past my mom's been snooping... how do i tell my mom i want to be a vegan? I lied about dating a younger boy, my mom would think I'm a loser my dad insults me my parents don't believe in dating i'm an atheist but my mom's a lutheran i have to share a room with an eight year old my mom read my diary i'm not allowed to date! i cannot get along with my mom... my mom and i are always yelling at each other. my parents are paranoid about me dating. my mom is a big emotional mess. i just found out my dad is really my step-dad. i want to be on birth control. how do i ask my mom? my mom won't let any of my friends drive me places. i want to find my real dad. my dad and grandma are always fighting. i can hear my mom having sex with her boyfriend at night. i have my license but my mom won't let me drive on my own. my parents are getting divorced and i'm freaking out. my mom hates my best friend. my dad looks at porn online, then blames my sister and me. my mom doesn't like my boyfriend because he is not christian.

My dad looks at porn on the internet. When he forgets to delete the history, he blames my sister and me. My mom has said that if we keep it up, we might not be able to use the computer at all.

I have proof of my dad doing this. I know if I tell my mother, it might hurt her, but she's also disappointed with my sister and me over something we didn't even do.

What should I do?

    Please Tell!
    Confront your dad immediately and ask him why he is doing this to your sister and you. It is totally not fair that you guys should have to take the blame for something like that. Ask your mom about it too and see what she thinks. You guys might need to have a family discussion about it. I hope everything works out for you and your sister!
    --Posted by flossygal
    10:32PM EST 11/28/07

    Tell her
    I know it will be really hard to tell your mom this because it will hurt her but she needs to know. Just tell her, and then back away unless she needs a shoulder to lean on. Maybe writing her a letter would be easier for you. And with a letter she can also react to it in a way she needs to. I find it hard to cry in front of other people so it might be hard for her too.
    --Posted by dawnstar
    03:10PM EST 11/28/07

    Why?
    There's nothing wrong with looking at porn. The issue is that he is blaming you. If he thinks your mum won't agree with it he either should stop or remember to delete his history. Remind him how important the computer is for your schoolwork and that he could be potentially be ruining your education.
    --Posted by aerobeki
    04:21PM EST 11/27/07

    Talk To Your Mom About It.
    I would most definitely tell my mom! He may be your dad, but he doesn't have a right to do that to you and your sister. So calmly talk to your mom about it and show her the proof. She may be upset but don't you think it would be better if she new the truth?
    --Posted by theperfectillusion
    10:56PM EST 11/26/07

    Tell Her
    If you're sure that your dad is looking at porn on the Internet, tell your mom. What kind of example is he setting for you and your sister? This seems to be something that needs to come to your mother's attention and something she needs to work out with your dad. If I were married, I would want to know if my husband did something like that.
    --Posted by hmh_725
    10:00PM EST 11/25/07

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