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my bf's black--he won't tell people at school about us

does my tomboy style drive him away?

my boyfriend's ex still likes him

she has a crush on me

how do you get over someone?

we like the same guy

she only talks about her boyfriend

i'm white, but i'm dating a black guy

french kissing is gross...

i'm the other woman...

moody boyfriend...

we start dating, i lose interest...

i'm crushing on my gay friend...

my friend's boyfriend likes me...

i'm in love with two people...

if a guy asks me to dance, how do i say no?

i like him but he's a player...

i think my boyfriend's cheating...

mom thinks my homecoming date is ugly...

we're friends with benefits but i love him

i like my friend's boyfriend.

what should i get my bf for xmas?

my bf got another girl pregnant...

he asked another girl to prom.

my boyfriend isn't cute.

is he flirting or making fun of me?

i really like my best friend

my boyfriend wants to read my diary

my boyfriend never calls me

i'm 16 and i've NEVER had a boyfriend

how do you stay friends?

my boyfriend only wants to hang out with his friends...

i am tired of being single...

he really has changed but nobody else sees it...

he says if i loved him i would have sex...

i'm scared he's cheating on me.

i have a hard time talking to guys.

i have a hard time talking to guys.

i am in love with my best friend's boyfriend.

my boyfriend doesn't want to talk to me in public.

i don't have the same feelings for him anymore.

should i make a move on my crush?

how do I know if i'm in love?

my friend doesn't know i like her brother.

my boyfriend has a problem with overweight girls.

my boyfriend's family is extremely poor.

my boyfriend is ready to have sex but i'm not.

he's been talking to his ex-girlfriend.

why are guys only interested in non-opinionated girls?

my boyfriend doesn't trust me.

i'm 16 and engaged.

my best friend and my boyfriend can't stand one another.

i like someone two years younger than me.

my boyfriend is really moody and takes his anger out on me.

i think my boyfriend's best friend is trying to break us up.

how can i stop being unfaithful and stick with one guy?

i'm a christian but my boyfriend doesn't even believe in god.

what are the pros and cons of waiting to have sex?

how do i gain back my boyfriend's trust?

i am in love with my brother's best friend.

i like this guy, but he's four years older than me and lives 600 miles away.

my boyfriend's going to college and i'm worried about our relationship.

i really like this guy but he has a baby.

my boyfriend tells his best friend EVERYTHING about our relationship.

my boyfriend never wants to hang out with just me.

my boyfriend's best friend is a girl. they spend a lot of time together and i hate it.

i'm dating this guy that everyone says has an STD. how can i be sure that he's clean?

my crush only sees me as a little kid. how can i get him to notice me?

my boyfriend cheated on me and i can't get over it.

i don't have feelings for my boyfriend. should i end the relationship?

i don't believe in premarital sex but the guys i like don't share the same beliefs. what should i do?

my boyfriend gets mad at me when i talk or hang out with my guy friends. what should i do?

my boyfriend doesn't do anything special for me. i just want to feel more love...

i love my boyfriend, but i don't know how to tell him. should i wait for him to say it first?

my boyfriend is going to his ex-girlfriend's birthday party. i'm afraid they'll make a drunken mistake.

the butterflies i used to get around my boyfriend have gone away. is this a bad sign?

how do i break up with my boyfriend without hurting him?

my boyfriend is moving way too slow. how can i speed things up?

my boyfriend refuses to meet my parents and now my family dislikes him.

my boyfriend said if i want him to remember me i should have sex with him.

my boyfriend has been mean to me ever since his grandfather died.

i want my girlfriend to tell her parents she's gay.

my boyfriend's mom wants me to go on birth control, but i don't think i want to.

my boyfriend wants to take a break because i don't believe in god.


I am in love with my best friend's boyfriend. We get along so well that sometimes I think to myself, why aren't we going out? On the other hand, I love my best friend. She is awesome. That is why I have tried to stop liking him--but I have found out that I can't help my feelings. I need advice and I am not gonna give up on him.

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36 member responses

    
    Choose
    You have to see what is more important to you: your friendship or the guy. I know it sounds easier said than done but that is what you have to do. In reality, a girlfriend sticks around much longer than a boyfriend. Afterall, boyfriends are not forever but friends can be. If it were me, I would try to stay away from the guy as much as posible, so your friend doesn't end up hurt. Imagine you were in her place. How would you feel if she went after your boyfriend? Probably not too good.
    --Posted by britchris88
    11:53AM EST 04/20/06


    
    Find A Distraction
    I'm sure he isn't the only guy you like so I think that maybe you should try going out with someone new. Focus on him to take your mind off of your friends man. You never know, you might actually start liking this other guy. I hope this helps. I have so much sympathy for you because I know that love is a powerful thing.
    --Posted by phatty-gurl
    11:43PM EST 04/19/06


    
    Be Yourself
    Listen to your heart. Do you really like him enough to give up your frienship for him? But more importantly, is he willing to give her up for you? Weight all of the options and then make your decision. Good Luck!
    --Posted by chelsixbabe
    08:10PM EST 04/19/06


    
    Come On...
    Best friends are forever. They know your deepest secrets and understand you. If you are willing to throw all of that away, go ahead, but guys are a dime a dozen. There will be others guys, and if you are really meant to be together, you will be.
    --Posted by loren27
    06:46PM EST 04/19/06


    
    He Isn't Yours
    Well, not being able to give up on him is the biggest problem. He is not yours, and like it or not, he choose your best friend. So either you can not give up on a boy and lose your best friend that you could be friends with 20 years from now, or go for a boy who will probably not last. You will be boyless and bestfriendless. If I were you, I would forget about it, find a hobby and leave him alone.
    --Posted by lilcrumpet56
    04:44PM EST 04/19/06



    
    Oh!
    This is a hard one. You have to be careful and not let this guy ruin your friendship with your bestfriend. In the end, he might be a jerk and you may have lost a friend over him. And if he would cheat on her to be with, what makes you think he wouldn't do the same to you? Friendship is more important than some guy!
    --Posted by hotbabathandy
    02:37PM EST 04/19/06

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