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Hear this...
Well, I think that you should just keep it real with your friend. If she can't handle positive criticism then something is wrong. And when you tell her how you feel about her behavior, don't be mean and surly with it. The best way for you to get through your friendship is to be honest with one another. Well, that's all I have to say!
~1~
--Posted by girl_nexdoor08
10:20AM EST 11/23/05
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Perfectionism can't really be reversed...
I'm a perfectionist and I hear about it ALL the time. It can't really be changed though. It's just the way a person is, and a lot of times if there is a perfectionist in the family (like a mom or dad) a child is more likely to be a perfectionist too. You aren't going to change her--I can guarantee you that--but if it really bothers you let her know (in a polite way) so that she's aware. Just don't expect any changes. It's a lifestyle and once you live it it's nearly impossible to get out of it.
--Posted by livingonadream
05:44PM EST 11/21/05
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Why do you care so much?
If you are being nitpicky about her being nitpicky I'd almost say that's slightly hypocritical. It's not that big of a deal if she doesn't want windows open. I don't think you really need to talk to her about it, it's not a big deal. Figure out why it makes you so mad, because it doesn't seem like what she's doing should make you that mad.
--Posted by kelsiandmike
12:52AM EST 11/20/05
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Communication is key
Sit her down and let her know that not everything has to be perfect. Just express your opinion, but be nice about it. Some people are just naturally born perfectionists and she might feel like you're trying to change her.
--Posted by seeing-starz
06:37PM EST 11/19/05
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I'm a perfectionist...
You can talk to her all you want but it's not going to change anything. I'm a perfectionist and people have tried talking about it to me. I just can't help the way I am. Maybe if you're lucky she'll tone it down a notch, but don't expect the behavior to disappear completely.
--Posted by wes2
11:09AM EST 11/19/05
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We're in the same boat.
My friend has obsessions with the little things also, but I figure, we're best friends right? Just love her for who she is! She's your home gURL! Now, if it's bothering you to the point of recklessness, then wait for a time when it's just you two and say, "You know, not everything has to be perfect." Then, untuck your shirt or mess up your eyebrow and leave it to show her it's okay! If she really has a mental problem (which is okay!) maybe you should tell her parents. Good luck.
~Maggs
--Posted by maggs1228
12:04AM EST 11/19/05
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Talking helps!
You have got to talk to her. I'm like a double personality kind of person. I can be a total perfectionist and a total slob at times. And when I'm annoying people with my perfection-addiction, I like to have them tell me. Whenever she closes one window at the computer to open another, gently say, "Why don't you leave both open?" Who knows? Maybe she'll try it. You don't know until you talk.
--Posted by the_girl_1893
10:33PM EST 11/18/05
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I think...
I think you should just come out and tell her. I was in a similar situation and I just told her what I thought. She was mad at me for a while but we worked through it. I think if she's a true friend she won't take it as something bad.
--Posted by simpleplanrocks
05:44PM EST 11/18/05
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I'm a perfectionist myself...
Whether it will hurt her depends on what kind of person she is. How sensitive is she? I think you should ask her to be a little more tolerant or at least not make a big deal about things. See if you can get her to fix whatever is bothering her quietly without a lot of complaining and freaking out.
--Posted by rinna
05:37PM EST 11/18/05
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Well
I would talk to her about it, otherwise nothing is going to change, you know? That's just what I would do.
--Posted by bpblondie818
01:26PM EST 11/18/05
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