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my bf's black--he won't tell people at school about us

what's advice gURL?

my best friend is 'perfect'

stop whistling at me!

piercing vs. my parents

my boyfriend loves britney

i get teased because i am fat

i'm the only skater girl...

no one else at school is gay

my friends say i'm an oreo

goth and proud of it

i'm mormon and my friends tease me

does my tomboy style drive him away?

my boyfriend's ex still likes him

she has a crush on me

how do you get over someone?

we like the same guy

she only talks about her boyfriend

how can i calm myself?

i'm white, but i'm dating a black guy

i have no privacy

i can't stand my step-mom

everyone thinks my sister's better than me

my family is really poor

my dad doesn't like my friends

i'm falling for my best friend

my friend dates boys i like

my best friend is bisexual

i'm christian but my friend has no idea who god is

my friend has been drinking and doing lots of drugs

i just moved and i have no life

my friend is homophobic.

how can i make friends at my new school?

i'm failing math

i like this guy in my class

french kissing is gross...

i am so pessimistic

i'm afraid to show anyone my poems

i'm nervous about public speaking

people always call me anorexic

i'm scared of guys

my mom thinks i'm insane

i told my friend she's fat

my friends think my boyfriend is ugly

i'm the other woman...

i hate compliments

moody boyfriend...

my christian cousin is gay...

we start dating, i lose interest...

how can i show him that he's being racist?

i am a perpetual liar...

i'm crushing on my gay friend...

my friend's boyfriend likes me...

my mom uses me to get closer to my sister...

my friend is a freeloader...

i hate seeing my mom kiss her boyfriend...

my sister is anorexic...

being confident is boring...

i'm in love with two people...

she's conceited and it's driving me nuts...

her singing voice sucks...

if a guy asks me to dance, how do i say no?

i like him but he's a player...

my two best friends don't get along

i think my boyfriend's cheating...

mom thinks my homecoming date is ugly...

we're friends with benefits but i love him

how do i stand up to a "mean girl"?

i like my friend's boyfriend.

i get teased me because i'm jewish...

i look ugly in pictures...

i look horrible in photos.

what should i get my bf for xmas?

My friend is the biggest flirt.

i can't express my feelings...

my friend is the biggest flirt.

i saw my friend's bf cheating on her...

i don't want to share clothes...

my bf's mom has cancer

my bf got another girl pregnant...

my friend uses her ADD as an excuse

i've got scars on my legs.

i play football

my sister and i like the same guys

my friend's stealing my stuff

my parents fight about money

i'm ashamed of my house.

he asked another girl to prom.

me and my best friend have been drifting apart...

i don't relate to christian school.

my mom focuses on mistakes i've made in the past

my mom's been snooping...

my boyfriend isn't cute.

is he flirting or making fun of me?

how do i tell my mom i want to be a vegan?

I lied about dating a younger boy, my mom would think I'm a loser

I am getting my wisdom teeth out and I am really scared.

My friend is competing with me

my dad insults me

my best friend has a new best friend

i really like my best friend

my boyfriend wants to read my diary

my parents don't believe in dating

my friends tease me for being skinny

are you supposed to shave down there?

i'm an atheist but my mom's a lutheran

my boyfriend never calls me

i want to change my rep for the new school year

my friend thinks i'm the girl of his dreams

both sides want me to choose between them

i have to share a room with an eight year old

i'm 16 and i've NEVER had a boyfriend

my two closest friends just started going out with each other

my mom read my diary

i can't dance

all my friend talks about is her new guy

my friend's mom keeps interfering in our business

my friend makes rude comments about my weight

i'm not allowed to date!

how do you stay friends?

my friend's a perfectionist

my friends are playing tug-of-war with me!

i want people to stop making fun of me...

i cannot get along with my mom...

my boyfriend only wants to hang out with his friends...

i am tired of being single...

she's saying things behind my back...

cheap and thoughtful bday present ideas?

my mom won't let me wear a thong...

how do i let him down without hurting his feelings?

he really has changed but nobody else sees it...

i feel like i'm losing my best friend...

he says if i loved him i would have sex...

i haven't been doing very well in school...

my friend's step-dad just died...

i'm scared he's cheating on me.

i'm scared to sing in front of people.

i have a hard time talking to guys.

i have a hard time talking to guys.

i think she's interested in me...

i am in love with my best friend's boyfriend.

they make fun of me because of my race.

my boyfriend doesn't want to talk to me in public.

my best friend's mom hates me.

i don't have the same feelings for him anymore.

the boys in school make jokes about my boobs...

should i make a move on my crush?

how do I know if i'm in love?

my friend is very homophobic.

my mom and i are always yelling at each other.

my friend doesn't know i like her brother.

my boyfriend has a problem with overweight girls.

my best friend likes my ex-boyfriend.

this one guy makes fun of me.

my boyfriend's family is extremely poor.

i still feel like that fat girl.

my boyfriend is ready to have sex but i'm not.

my eyebrows make me really self-conscious.

i want to be a singer.

my parents are paranoid about me dating.

my best friend ignores me when she has a boyfriend.

i called my friend 'nasty' for not using a condom.

they think i'm anorexic, but i'm not.

my mom is a big emotional mess.

he's been talking to his ex-girlfriend.

my best friend is in love with a complete loser.

what makes a good best friend?

i'm not doing well in school.

my best friend is slowly changing.

is it weird to want to wait to have sex?

i'm embarrassed to buy birth control.

my friend is constantly putting me down.

i get upset when i see my crush and my best friend together.

i just found out my dad is really my step-dad.

my best friend is gay and i think i like her.

why are guys only interested in non-opinionated girls?

i want to be on birth control. how do i ask my mom?

i don't blend in at my new school.

my mom won't let any of my friends drive me places.

my best friend's mom thinks i'm a TOTAL druggie!

my boyfriend doesn't trust me.

my best friend chose her boyfriend over me.

none of my friends take me seriously.

i'm 16 and engaged.

i want to find my real dad.

my best friend slept with my other best friend's boyfriend.

my best friend and my boyfriend can't stand one another.

i'm afraid to go to the prom because of my back acne.

everyone sees me as a tomboy...

i like someone two years younger than me.

my boyfriend is really moody and takes his anger out on me.

I'm noticing annoying things about my best friend that never used to be annoying before.

my dad and grandma are always fighting.

i think my boyfriend's best friend is trying to break us up.

how can i stop being unfaithful and stick with one guy?

i'm a christian but my boyfriend doesn't even believe in god.

i can hear my mom having sex with her boyfriend at night.

what are the pros and cons of waiting to have sex?

how do i gain back my boyfriend's trust?

i have pale skin. should i go to the tanning salon?

i am in love with my brother's best friend.

how do i make a good first impression on my college roommates?

i have my license but my mom won't let me drive on my own.

i don't think i'll have any friends when i go back to school

my parents are getting divorced and i'm freaking out.

i like this guy, but he's four years older than me and lives 600 miles away.

i hate catcalls. what should i do?

my boyfriend's going to college and i'm worried about our relationship.

i don't trust my best friend's boyfriend.

i just transferred to a new school. how do i make friends?

i really like this guy but he has a baby.

everybody makes fun of my big nose.

my boyfriend tells his best friend EVERYTHING about our relationship.

i want to play different music than the guys in my band.

everyone knows what they want to be in the future and i don't.

my boyfriend never wants to hang out with just me.

i told my friend i'm bisexual; now she's acting different around me.

my mom hates my best friend.

i received an email from an old friend who hasn't spoken to me in years.

my boyfriend's best friend is a girl. they spend a lot of time together and i hate it.

i'm starting to like my friend but he's gay. what should i do?

i'm dating this guy that everyone says has an STD. how can i be sure that he's clean?

my crush only sees me as a little kid. how can i get him to notice me?

my dad looks at porn online, then blames my sister and me.

my boyfriend cheated on me and i can't get over it.

my mom doesn't like my boyfriend because he is not christian.

i don't have feelings for my boyfriend. should i end the relationship?

i don't believe in premarital sex but the guys i like don't share the same beliefs. what should i do?

everyone at my school makes racial jokes, and it makes me feel really awkward. what should i do?

my boyfriend gets mad at me when i talk or hang out with my guy friends. what should i do?

i'm labeled as the black girl who acts "white." it's so annoying.

i like this guy, but now my best friend feels like a third wheel.

prom is in april but everyone already has a date--except me!

my boyfriend doesn't do anything special for me. i just want to feel more love...

we are friends with benefits, but i want more. how do i tell him?

my friend is extremely clingy. how do i get her to leave me alone?

i've been depressed lately. has anyone ever been to therapy?

i love my boyfriend, but i don't know how to tell him. should i wait for him to say it first?

my best friend went off to college and i feel like she doesn't care about our friendship anymore.

my boyfriend's best friend is a girl he used to have a crush on.

should i tell my mom that i'm not a virgin?

i'm really self-conscious of this huge birthmark on the back of my leg.

my boyfriend is going to his ex-girlfriend's birthday party. i'm afraid they'll make a drunken mistake.

the butterflies i used to get around my boyfriend have gone away. is this a bad sign?

my parents don't support my vegetarianism. what can i do?

i'm afraid to tell my friends i'm bisexual. what should i do?

does your first time always have to be with someone you love?

how do i break up with my boyfriend without hurting him?

i have a hard time finding clothes that fit. where should i shop?

my boyfriend is moving way too slow. how can i speed things up?

my best friend smokes weed every day. i'm worried, but she won't listen.

my best friend wants to read my diary. how do i keep my private writing private?


I'm pretty skinny and people are always commenting on it. My friends don't call me anorexic but they say stuff like, "God *name here* you're so huge. You need to go to fat camp." I really don't think this is funny at all. One of my friends said something like, "It's only funny to call someone fat if they are really skinny," and I said, "I don't think so," but they STILL don't get it! What do I do?

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    Hmm...
    I'm not skinny and if my friends ever made fun of my weight that wouldn't be cool at all. Tell them how you feel and tell them that you would appreciate it if they would stop teasing you because your feelings are getting hurt. If they don't respect your wishes, honestly they aren't true friends and you need to find new ones... Friends are supposed to be there for you and not care what you look like. They should only care about how great a person you are. Good luck, hope the teasing comes to an end.
    --Posted by jeneane
    07:02PM EST 07/27/05


    
    SAME Problem.
    I know how you feel, exactly. Tt bugs the crap out of me--my friends tease me, and some people are downright nasty about it. I had two girls, who I dislike VERY much now, comment and accuse me of being anorexic. They kept pushing it on me, or asked if I had an eating disorder. Just tell them how you feel about the situation, and tell them what it does to your self-esteem. I had to do it, and I hear a lot less about it now. Be happy that people think you're skinny, and be proud of your body. Don't let anyone get you down. <3
    --Posted by g0lferbabe35
    03:47PM EST 07/27/05


    
    This is my opinion
    I'm not a fat girl but I'm definitely not skinny. My assumption would be that they are jealous. Like many girls said, all you need to do is take time out when you're alone together to tell them about it. Don't attack, and don't do it at the wrong time. Explain to them that you don't like it and how it makes you feel. I can almost guarantee you they will stop. :-)
    --Posted by dontspeakaylee
    01:23AM EST 07/27/05


    
    Being skinny isn't all it's made out to be...
    Definitely talk to them about it. You don't sound like you hate the weight you are, but the fact that they talk about it bothers you. People always tell me they wish they were as skinny as I am, but I tell them that it's rough being so small. Talk to them about it and hopefully you can get your point across.
    --Posted by hislilarmybrat
    01:00AM EST 07/27/05


    
    I have the same problem
    Some of my friends aren't mini but they arent fat either. I, on the other hand, barly weigh 100 lbs. They sit there and complain about their weight & call me fat all the time as a joke. Honestly, it really doesn't bother me except when they are complaining about themselves and then talk about how I'm almost anorexic or how I'm too skinny.

Since it obviously bothers you, tell them it does. If outright telling them to stop is too hard or doesn't work, try a different aproach. Next time they say you're skinny, change the subject. If your friend says that you aren't too fat, say, "Yeah but I wish I had some curves like you," or somethin like that. Then change the subject. Remember, they are just insecure about their own bodies.
    --Posted by lildevil2210
    09:26PM EST 07/26/05



    
    I'm Experienced
    I'm kinda thick and both of my friends are slim. They would talk about wearing bathing suits, short skirts and stuff like that and I would not relate to that because I'm not thin. So what I did was sit them both down and we talked about it. I told them that I didn't feel comfortable when they talked about being slim and stuff like that--so they felt were I was coming from. They only talked about being slim on their own time. Maybe that's what you should do. Take your friends and tell them that if they can't accept you for who you are then maybe you're hanging with the wrong group of people.
    --Posted by kameesha
    08:25AM EST 07/26/05


    
    Myself
    Well, being super slim myself, I just learned that the more people say about me and the more I can tolerate it, the more it builds self-confidence. Whenever somebody tells you you're anorexic or too skinny, just remember this advice: I love who I am and I love my body.
    --Posted by roxrainbowsox
    05:10PM EST 07/25/05


    
    Skinny is the way you are. Tell your friends to respect it!
    Skinny is the way you are. Tell your friends to respect it! Tell them you can't help being skinny & it's not funny to tease you. But before you do that think about the jokes they make, is it really that mean? If it's not, then maybe they're just trying to make you laugh. If it is mean, then tell them.
    --Posted by sassyncool
    03:32PM EST 07/25/05


    
    Been there...
    A lot of my skinny friends used to tell me all the time: you need to lose weight. And one of my friends used to say, "Hi Fat" instead of "Hi Lilly." I put up with it for a while, and that just made me feel worse. So one day I told myself the next time they say something about my weight I'm going to stand up for myself. So I did. I yelled at them. I told them that they have no right to comment on my weight.

They didn't ditch me. I told them that if they were going to keep picking on me, we couldn't be friends. To this day they don't say anything about my image. We're still just as good as friends but better. I've got more cofidence around them. I feel more respected by them! You should stand up for yourself too! It feels good!
    --Posted by YourBudLilly13
    02:28PM EST 07/25/05

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