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As perfect as you thing your friend is, chances are, she probably has quite a few flaws. It seems like you have very low confidence and self esteem. Even though this may sound weird, look into a mirror and notice all of the good qualities about your body (inside and out) and say them loud so you can hear them.
Don't feel down when your friend gets all of the guys. You probably hear this a lot, but somebody will come for you, just wait and you'll see. When you are around around her, just be comfortable.
--Posted by hearttx2
04:16PM EST 07/17/08
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First off, let me say one thing thing to you: Regardless of what you believe, you're beautiful in your own way. Even though it may sound too Hallmark or commercial for you, it's true.
The main problem here is that you need to learn your self worth and improve your self esteem. You state that your friend has the "perfect" body. In all reality, "perfect" is someone's perception. There's no image next to the word perfect in the dictionary and there never will be, for the simple reason that we're all imperfect and designed differently.
Guys think she's hot, but do they think she's smart? Long term dating potential? The world doesn't revolve around looks, no matter how far the wool is pulled over your eyes.
Be proud of your body, and more importantly who you are. You don't need to be a certain weight or look a certain way to be happy. Those are just tactics and self blows to your own self esteem.
My advice to you, spend less time envying someone elses appearence and more time loving the skin you're in. You can't always be a model, but no one's stopping you from feeling like one.
--Posted by syntheticdolly
03:01AM EST 05/26/08
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Well fist of all, neither you OR your friend should be on a webcam because there are a lot of pervs on there. Anyway, I'm skinny, and trust me, it's not all that fun. My friends ALWAYS compliment me to the point where it's embarrassing. I can never find jeans that fit me, and sometimes guys catcall me. What I'm trying to say is: even if your friend seems to enjoy all the attention, she probably doesn't. Be proud of who you are!
--Posted by dArKfAeRiE12
10:30AM EST 03/30/04
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Well, there are a few solutions to this problem. Does she pick on you for allegedly not being as "hot" as her, or is it just your opinion? If she makes you feel bad by things she says or does, it's time to back off. But if that's the way you feel, and being around her only makes your self-esteem worse, that's something you'll have to take care of on your own. If she's a good friend, she'll help you out. I also highly recommend reading gURL's "The Looks Book." It really changed the way I felt about my body, being a curvy girl myself. Good luck?
--Posted by pirategroupie
10:30AM EST 03/30/04
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Well this is probably so much easier said than done...but why don't you try talking to your friend about how you feel. I was in the exact same situation, except I was the "best friend" and my friend was the one who thought I was so much prettier and "hotter" than she was. I totally had NO clue she felt as bad as she did...but one day she made up her mind to tell me her feelings about herself when she was around me. That day (her b-day) I gave her (even though she was already so pretty but just didn't know it) a TOTAL makeover, hair, make-up, nails, the works! She had a great time and guess who got the guys that night? Her confidence was shining and she was like a guy magnet! What I'm trying to say is tell your friend how you feel.
--Posted by starz1013
10:30AM EST 03/30/04
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Hi, just wanted to say, I know how you feel, and I think that most girls out there do, too. No matter HOW pretty or skinny a girl is there will always be a person who she thinks is "prettier" than her. The truth is that your popular, skinny friend probably doesn't view herself like you do. It is likely that she envies a trait that you possess (e.g., kindness, ability to relate to people, etc.) Also, maybe it would help if you were to just talk to her. Mention to her that when she goes on your webcam in front of you it makes you uncomfortable. If she is a really good friend, I'm sure she'll understand. Hope everything works out with you two!
--Posted by marachinocherry
10:30AM EST 03/30/04
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I used to have the exact same problem. But I realized that the problem wasn't really her, it was me. You need to forget about comparing yourself to her and try to improve your self-esteem. I find that just imagining you're really confident actually works. Just walk along, thinking, "Yeah, I'm hot!" and when you talk to people, don't think "they think I'm so fat/ugly/whatever," just think, "they're talking to me because they want to, and because I'm a nice person, and I'm gorgeous!" It really does work. And if you ever feel bad around her, think of all the stuff about you that's unique that she doesn't have.
--Posted by senorita231
10:30AM EST 03/30/04
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I have a friend exactly like this. I know it's hard (I still struggle with it) but you have to ask yourself a hard question. If she is your true friend, why is she sitting online and talking to guys while she is at YOUR house? Why is she on the webcam when she is there to hang with you? Not only is this rude as a guest, but chances are, she knows it's making you jealous. Why would she do this, do you ask? Maybe you can't see it, but she probably knows she has this one thing over you and is trying to use it because she is threatened by you in some other way.
--Posted by Mimi12355
10:30AM EST 03/30/04
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