I need some serious advice. My parents hate my boyfriend. He's made many mistakes in his life (stealing, going to jail, lying, being irresponsible, etc.) and I completely understand where my parents are coming from.
He is 22 and hasn't started school yet, but he says he'll start in a month. I know that it sounds cliché, but I truly love him, and I'm willing to give him a chance to fix his life.
I've tried talking to my parents about it, but they've threatened to take my freedom away, and I don't know what to do. Should I sneak around to see him?
Hi.
You could sneak around to see your boyfriend, but your parents are likely to find out and fulfill their threat to limit your freedom.
I know that you wish the best for your boyfriend and have confidence that he will turn his life around, but your parents are understandably concerned. Behaviors such as the ones you describe--lying, stealing and being irresponsible--are often part of recurring patterns; until the underlying problems that cause your boyfriend to act in these ways are resolved, he's not likely to change very much.
The truth is that you need to live in your parent's house until you are old enough to be out on your own, so you might consider genuinely taking some space from your boyfriend. Tell him you care about him and encourage him to enroll in school if that's what he aims to do.
Maybe in the future, when he's shown that he has changed, your parents will think more kindly of him.
