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  Dear Heather,

One of my guy friends asked me to prom and I said yes without thinking. My best friend and I talked about it a lot before and I told her I wasn't really interested in going with him. He's a senior and I'm a junior and he's never been to prom, so my best friend and her boyfriend are kind of giving me the guilt trip like, "It's his senior year and he really wants to go." But in some ways it seems like I was his only option and he's only asking me so he'll have a date. And something tells me that he was kind of influenced by my best friend and her boyfriend. I don't think he likes me any more than just a friend. I would rather go with someone that I was actually interested in or someone who was interested in me. I don't know what to do because I don't want to go with him, but I don't want to say no either because I'll kind of feel bad. How can I get out of this?

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Hi.

I'm not sure what makes you think he asked you to the prom because there was no one else or that your friends pushed him to invite you. It may just be that he thinks you're cute and he's genuinely curious about what it would be like to go on a date with you.

But I hear you loud and clear--you don't want to go with him. If you really don't want to, then your evening--and probably his--will be ruined by your lack of enthusiasm. I would suggest that you tell him the truth and tell him right away so that he can ask someone else.

And do it gently--you probably want to keep his friendship. You will, indeed, risk hurting his feelings if you back out, but it will help you remember to take a little time before answering next year.

Have a good time--no matter who accompanies you to the prom!

 
   
 
 

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