My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years now and we fool around occasionally. I have been lying to him about him giving me orgasms. I know that it is common for women not to have orgasms from vaginal stimulation, but recently I have been telling him the truth. As a result, he continually asks me to give him instructions on what to do. But I don't know what to tell him or what instructions to give him. I showed him the clit but he seems to be getting it wrong. In fact, it causes me to jump the way he messes with it--it's like an electrical current passing through my body. Is there a better way? Or is there a way he can give me an orgasm vaginally? I really need to know the answers to my questions and I don't know who to ask.
Hi.
You are not alone--it is a rare woman who can have an orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. Aside from the g-spot, the pleasurable quarter-sized area located in the vagina just behind the bladder, the vaginal canal has relatively few nerve endings compared to the highly sensitive clitoris--analogous to the penis in terms of sexual functioning.
I commend you for trying to show your boyfriend how to stimulate your clitoris, but don't give up now. Have you tried masturbating in front of your boyfriend to show him how you like to be touched? It might also help to hold your partner's hand beneath yours when you're masturbating to show him the kind of movement you like.
However, chances are no one can stimulate your clit as well as you can, so why not take matters into your own hands and stroke your own clitoris, during intercourse? It'll probably take the some pressure off of your boyfriend during sex and also make you a lot more at ease.