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  Dear Heather,

I think I'm starting not to like my boyfriend. Like seriously, our relationship sucks. It's terrible...he never tells me anything about himself so I don't even bother telling him anything about myself anymore. We get in so many fights about stupid things and never have anything to ever talk about. Our relationship is a lot based how much he can "get" and tell his buddies and I hate that more then anything in the world but I know if we lose that, we will have nothing.

That's what is so stupid. I mean, I don't want everything to revolve around that. I want to be friends too, and we don't have that AT ALL. I'm afraid to break up with him because I'm scared that I will regret it, and he won't want to still be my friend. I want to be able to flirt and kid around and go out with other people. Another thing is that he can't kid around, and all he ever talks about is his dirt bike and I could really care less. He always expects me to be talking to him or seeing him in my free time and I don't want to always feel guilty if I'm out doing something and he is at home sitting there waiting for me to call him or be with him. I don't want to be committed to that. Help?

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Hi.

It seems like you're starting to develop an unattraction to your boyfriend. The long list of annoyances that you outlined in your letter -- the dirt bike, the possessiveness, the lack of communication -- sounds to me like symptoms of an impending breakup. I think you need to ask yourself why you want to be with him. Is it because of the person he is or because this way you can say you're with someone?

Once you figure out why you're still with him, or maybe why you shouldn't be with him, things should get clearer. It sort of sounds like you don't like him very much, and in turn he's not a very good friend to you. It also sounds like you have really different ideas of what a relationship should be. Sometimes that difference in ideals can have a lot of ramifications on the rest of a relationship.

As for the being friends later on part: that might be a bit trickier. From what you say in your letter, it sounds like the two of you might have completely different ideas of what you want from someone you're dating. Feeling tied down and restless are both possible signs of trouble. It might be best to give this situation time; if you do break up with him, he'll probably be very hurt, and everything about your relationship will change. But it's possible to mend fences between people; it just takes time, and understanding.



 
 
Take care,
heather

 
 
 

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