It's really hard to sort through conflicting messages about the war in Iraq, especially since most of us are still dealing with the fear and anxiety brought on by September 11th. If you're someone who usually has clear opinions about things, it may feel weird being so confused about the war, but this is about as complicated as it gets. There are so many disagreements about what brought the country to this point and uncertainties about what the U.S. and the world will face as a result. Don't be too hard on yourself for not being able to get a handle on it all.

It's okay to say, "I'm really kind of confused about this war," when people ask you where you stand. Most likely, they're asking because they're confused, too. Talking to your family or to friends you trust about the things that confuse you may actually help you get some perspective and make you feel less isolated.

The main thing you seem concerned about, though, is being in a constant state of anxiety about the whole situation. Here are a few things that might help you to stop worrying so much. With so much media attention focused on the potential for future terrorist strikes, it's hard not to feel like another attack is just around the corner, even though the threat may be greatly exaggerated. Consider limiting your media intake. Ban news outlets you consider manipulative. Choose a few you trust and stick with them. Also, while it may feel wrong to have fun when there are so many serious things happening in the world, don't forget to go out and do things you enjoy. Being a couch potato will only increase the likelihood of OD-ing on the very images that cause you stress.

If your worries are affecting you so much that they're interfering with your daily activities like sleeping, eating or studying, however, I would recommend having a serious talk with your parents. There were many programs set up after September 11th to help people deal with their emotions. If you live in the New York/Tri-State area, you might suggest that your parents contact Project Liberty, which provides free counseling services to people affected by the September 11th disaster. You can reach them on the web at www.projectliberty.state.ny.us, or call 1-800-LIFENET, their 24/7 counseling and referral line. If you live outside of the New York City Metro area, ask your guidance counselor for help in locating similar services.

Peaceful moments,