Q: Is it okay to fantasize about things you wouldn't normally do when you masturbate? Does that mean you're going to do them? If you fantasize about someone, does that mean you are in love with or truly attracted to him or her?
A: Lots of people fantasize about things they wouldn't want to do in real life. Fantasies are a good way to try out ideas. Additionally, they can help people explore sexual feelings in a safe and healthy manner.
Many people have a rich fantasy life and have no interest in actually attempting any of the things they fantasize about. For example, you might fantasize about a specific person, but never even want to date them in real life. The beauty of fantasies is that they are yours to control and no one needs to know about them but you.
Q: Is it possible to masturbate yourself without actually touching yourself--just by rubbing against something?
A: Sure. Some girls masturbate by rubbing against pillows or blankets or other objects. Everyone likes to be touched in a different way. There is no rule that says you have to use your hands.
Q: Why does a girl get wet during masturbation? What if you don't get wet? Can you still orgasm? Does it mean that there is something wrong with you?
A: When a girl gets turned on, her vagina lubricates and "gets wet." But some girls just don't get that wet no matter how turned on they are. In this case, a girl might want to use an artificial lubricant for sex play.
Though being lubricated can make sex play more comfortable, it is still totally possible for a girl to have an orgasm even if she isn't "wet."
Q: Do couples masturbate in front of each other? Isn't that embarrassing?
A: Some couples masturbate in front of each other and others do not. There are a lot of reasons for this. Everyone has different views on masturbation. These views may make people more or less comfortable sharing this type of sex play with a partner.
Masturbating in front of a partner is a form of safer sex because you aren't exchanging body fluids. Some people enjoy it because it is a turn on. Others like the fact that by showing someone how you masturbate you can more easily help your partner learn what you find pleasurable.
Of course, no one should ever participate in any kind of sex play he or she isn't comfortable with. It is perfectly fine if masturbating with a partner just isn't your thing.
Q: Is it possible to be totally silent when you masturbate?
A: Yes. Though some people make noises when they are masturbating, plenty of folks don't. Making noises--like moaning--can be a sign that a person is enjoying himself or herself, but it's not the only way people express pleasure. Plenty of folks enjoy masturbating without making a peep.
Q: Can people tell that you masturbate? Can a gyno tell if you have masturbated?
A: Nope. The only way someone can know you masturbated is if you tell him or her. There are no physical signs at all. Some girls worry that a gynecologist will know they masturbated if their hymen has been stretched, but there are plenty of non-sexual ways to stretch the hymen including riding a bike or horse, doing gymnastics and even using a tampon.
Even though you are completely within your rights to choose to keep masturbation private, it is important to remember that there is nothing wrong with masturbating and it is nothing to be embarrassed about.
