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Talking about sex with your sweetie can be scary and awkward, but it's important to discuss before climbing into bed. Understanding how your partner feels about the relationship, and sharing how you feel, is a good way of making sure that you have similar intentions and emotions concerning sex.
If you are worried about bringing it up, you might want to start by talking about sex in general. Talk about a sex scene in a movie you both watched, what your school's sex ed classes teach or even some quirky sex fact your friend just told you. Just try to stay calm and relaxed it will make the conversation flow much easier.
In discussing sex with your sweetie, there are a couple things you may want to figure out. How do you feel about each other and how serious do you want the relationship to be? What scares you about sex? Are you going to be protected? Do either one of you have STDs?
If you really feel uncomfortable bringing up the subject, it may be a sign that you are not ready for sex--either personally or as a couple. Though awkward, talking about sex might bring you and you sweetie closer together.