VIRGINITY: Anal sex, like any kind of sex, is something you should only do if you are sure you want to. Some people want to remain virgins and think of anal sex as different than penis-in-vagina sex. Depending on what virginity means to you, you could have anal sex and still be a virgin. The thing to remember about anal sex (or any other kind of sex) is that it's your choice and you don't have to do anything you don't want to do or even anything you're not sure about.