Boobs are like a never-ending science project and we mark their progress over the years in a mental notebook while wearing a smile or a frown. I know that I’ve had my fair share of boob angst (let’s just say mine aren’t small, at all, whatsoever…okay they’re pretty damn large), and it can be a real pain buying clothes that fit them. But in the long run it doesn’t really matter if we love them or hate them because chances are they’re going to stay with us for the long haul whether we like it or not. We just gotta deal…unless you have the money for a boob job but that’s not the point.

Lately we’ve talked about the woes of having big boobs and found out what attracts people to boobs in the first place. As usual, you all had a lot to say.  Here are ten of your responses.

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Most people are a little nervous the first time they get naked with someone else, but are you actually afraid to be naked? There’s actually a legitimate phobia for that. (A phobia is different from a regular fear in that an all-out phobia is usually irrational and interferes with your daily life and functioning.) If you’re afraid of being naked–not just uncomfortable being naked in front of someone else–you may have gymnophobia.

Experts say phobias, including gymnophobia, often develop after a bad experience–for example, you might get arachnophobia after being bitten by a spider. Similarly, if you have a bad experience with nudity, like getting made fun of in the locker room at school, it can make you afraid to be naked in general.

What’s more, people who are afraid to be naked usually suffer from other anxiety and/or body image issues–which makes a lot of sense, right? Specifically, people who suffer from anxiety or obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) may have issues stripping down because of the obsessive thoughts that come along with it.

One doc explained it thusly: “[It’s] more a general anxiety of their own body image as a comparative basis. We are an increasingly obese nation so the comparison could be stressful, anxiety producing, negative for one’s self-concept and could affect one’s own willingness to expose one’s self in privacy in a relationship.”

Translation? People with gymnophobia who are afraid to be naked are constantly worried about measuring up to everyone else, whether those people are real or media images of perfection.

If you think you’re legit afraid to be naked to the point of having gymnophobia? Don’t panic! There are ways to correct it. Experts recommend that you take small steps–starting with walking around and getting comfortable in just your skivvies, then moving forward from there.

Have you ever been afraid to be naked? If you’re afraid to be naked, do you think it’s all out gymnophobia or just being uncomfortable with your body image? Tell us in the comments!

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But I do love my boobs because well, they’re great! I’ve never been fitted for a bra before, but we went to an event at Intimacy last night to peruse some of their new selections. They were offering free fittings, and I figured why not?

By taking just one look at me, my fitting stylist said I was wearing the wrong size and chuckled a little at how tight I had to make my band and straps just to stay on. Instead of using a measuring tape, the stylists at Intimacy use a holistic method where they determine everything by touch. You’d think it would be awkward with someone poking your boobs, but it wasn’t at all.

My stylist looked at my rib cage and shoulders and felt where my boobs were sitting in the bra I was wearing. After literally 1 minute, she said “Yup, you’re definitely in the wrong bra! I’ll be back.”

She came back with a ton of gorgeous bras. Like the prettiest bras I’ve ever seen! She carefully put me into each one and the difference was absolutely shocking. I mean, I have never felt so comfortable in a bra before. And my boobs have never looked so great! I immediately felt a relief in my back and shoulders, and I was standing up super straight.

I was amazed. When I asked what the size was, my jaw dropped. I went down two band sizes and up two cup sizes. I wanted to buy every single bra she put on me!

I didn’t make a purchase last night because the bras were super fancy and way above my budget, but now I know what size I should be looking for. When I put my bra on this morning I actually groaned because it was so uncomfortable compared the bras I tried on last night.

I seriously want all of you to go get professionally fitted like immediately. Don’t do it for me. Do it for your boobs.
 
Have you ever been fitted for a bra before? Were you wearing the wrong size? Tell us in the comments!
 

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For those unfamiliar with “the queef,” vaginal flatulence (flatus vaginalis in Latin… or simply “vagina farts” in layman’s terms) is basically an expulsion of vaginal air that can occur due to certain physical movements during sex or exercise. The result is a noise not unlike that of, well… cutting the cheese.

However, out all of the sexual experiences I’ve had with women in my lifetime (I’m no George Clooney, but I do alright), I’ve only been aware of it happening twice. Though it’s entirely normal, it occurs (audibly, at least) way less than you probably think.

Most importantly, both of the two incidents that I personally encountered were way funnier than they were offensive or gross. Queefs are really nothing more than silly because you get the best part of a regular butt-fart (the sound) without the worst part (the smell), as there are no internal waste gases involved. The noise comes from trapped surface air, like that of a hand-cupped armpit when producing a hilarious “armpit fart” (one of my greatest skills as a third grader, still a great party trick).

So really, don’t fret – not only is queefing unlikely to happen during your first time having sex, it’s also not a big deal if it does. Any guy who gives you flak for a little crotch-burp is either totally inexperienced, immature, or both. Of all the things you can worry about when it comes to sex (e.g. pregnancy, STDs, regretful intercourse with a small-penised partner), queefing should be at the very bottom of the list. Don’t sweat ‘em!

*(For more on this topic from the female perspective, check out “Queefing 101” by my friend Abiola Abrams, here at Gurl.com!)

Good luck!
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Ethan Fixell is a writer and comedian from New York City best known as one half of comic “dating coach” duo Dave and Ethan. He is also the creator and editor of ActualConversation.com. For more on Ethan, visit EthanFixell.com…or call his mom, Robin.

Are you confused about a guy? Do you find yourself wondering, “What is he thinking?” Tell us everything in the comments! And if you have a question for Ethan, email him at askaguy@gurl.com!

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Sure, there are times when I’d rather lay on the couch all day and binge-watch episodes of Scandal while eating a whole bag of Cheetos (I’ve totally never done this ever). But when I tell a friend I’ll hang out with them, I always follow through. Because friendship! There’s really nothing that gets under my skin more than a friend who blows you off.

And yet I still have those friends. I have this one friend who I love to death, but recently she’s become the biggest flake ever. It’s really, really getting on my nerves. We’re really close, but lately every time we make plans to hang out, she comes up with a last minute excuse to back out. And usually I’ll see on Instagram or Twitter that she’s out with another friend!

If you don’t want to hang out, then don’t make plans! It’s that easy. I’d much rather know beforehand so I can plan to do something with someone else. It’s so annoying! And if you’re going to flake on a friend, don’t put it on social media where they can see it.

I think it’s really tough on me because I often go out of my way to do things for this friend, but she can’t even bother to have lunch with me or text me back.

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And she doesn’t just break lunch and dinner dates. She avoids texts and phone calls even when I have something really important to talk about. I think I’ve been trying to keep the friendship in tact because I don’t want to go through another friend breakup, but it might be time to let it go.

The hardest part about dealing with a flaky friend is that it’s so difficult to talk to them about it. How can you talk to someone who’s become a total pro at avoiding you? It’s virtually impossible! I’ve called and texted. I’ve even Facebook messaged her! All with no luck. I don’t know what there is to do except talk to my friend and let her know how hurtful her actions have been.

I want to know what y’all think. How do you deal with a flaky friend? Have you ever brought it up before? Did she know she was being flaky? Tell me in the comments!
 

At least this friend isn’t a frenemy, right?

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Have you ever waxed your bikini line only to find tons of painful, itchy little bumps the next day? What about tiny, raised dark spots on your legs after shaving? Well, you probably had ingrown hair.

Ingrown hair is hair that grows back into the skin after shaving, tweezing, waxing, or electrolysis. Girls tend to get ingrown hairs on their legs, armpits, and pubic area.

So here’s what happens: After shaving, your hair is broken off unevenly. As the hair grows back, it curls into the skin. The results vary from raised pus-filled bumps to skin darkening at the follicle (hair) site. Sometimes you can easily see the hair that’s causing the problem. Ingrown hairs can become infected, which causes inflammation and irritation. This sounds familiar if you’ve ever had razor burn after shaving your bikini line.

Anyone can develop ingrown hairs, but people with curly or coarse hair are more susceptible  That means if you’re Black or Latina, you may be at higher risk. You’re also at risk if you wear tight clothing like tight pants or tights. While ingrown hairs aren’t dangerous, they can be annoying and embarrassing. They can disappear on their own, but if it becomes infected it can leave a permanent scar.

So if you have ingrown hairs, you probably want to know how to get rid of them. First things first: Don’t carelessly pick at it. Seriously, don’t. I’ve had to learn this the hard way and it only resulted in skin discoloration.

Ingrown hairs can be treated in a number of ways. Gentle exfoliation of the site of the ingrown hair will help remove dead skin cells, dirt, or oils that are trapping the hair into the skin. Do this twice a day to encourage the hair to break the surface of your skin. You can also apply a warm washcloth to the ingrown hair. The warmth will encourage the skin to loosen up and allow the ingrown hair to break the surface of the skin. Applying alcohol or acid based topical solutions, like salicilic acid or benzoyl peroxide, can also treat an ingrown hair. If those two ingredients sound familiar, you’ve likely seen them used as a leading ingredient in acne soaps and medication.

Do you suffer from ingrown hairs? Have any treatments that you recommend? Tell us in the comments!

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No matter if you’re part of the teeny weenie titty committee or you’re plus size and worried about how you’ll look in a two piece, we’ve got a few tips that will help make your bikini shopping a breeze. Forget what the magazines say. We have your ultimate guide to bikinis right here.

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Make Sure You're Comfortable Enough To Wear A Bikini

Bikinis show a lot of skin, so if you aren't prepared to show off your assets, you might end up feeling incredibly self conscious. You want your day by the pool to be fun, not miserable.

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Buy A Well Made Bikini

It's easy to go for a cheap and trendy suit, but you're throwing money away if it isn't constructed well. Splurge a little if you have to to make sure that you don't buy a bikini that falls apart after its second wear.

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Try It On

The bikini of your dreams might fit like a nightmare. You want to feel comfortable, not tortured. Don't just eyeball a bikini, look at the size and assume it will fit. It might be a pain in the butt but make sure you try on your bikini before you buy it.

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Make Sure The Material Is Thick Enough

You might find bikinis without padding to be too revealing. If you don't want everyone to know about the state of your nipples, make sure that the lining is thick enough and that the material isn't see through.

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Big Boobs Beware

Unfortunately, if you have large breasts you might be a little stuck as to what to look for in an ideal bikini top. This is especially true if your most readily available options are string and triangle tops. Try to stay away from bikinis that are only sized small to large and make an effort to find a bikini top in your bra size. It's a little more work but it'll be worth it. Support is too important to take for granted.

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You Won't Look Great In Every Bikini...And That's Okay

Just because you don't look great wearing a halter top bikini doesn't mean you should give up on bikinis forever. Find out what shapes, sizes and styles you think are most flattering for your figure.

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Double Knot Everything

Getting hit by a big wave sucks. Losing your bikini top after getting hit by a big wave is even worse. Double knot everything, top and bottom.

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Buy Your Tops And Bottoms Separately

The top might fit, but the bottoms might make you feel like you're in the "Thong Song" music video. Some people need a larger bikini top and smaller bottoms or vice versa. Buying your pieces separately will assure the most comfortable fit and help you make sure you aren't fined for indecent exposure.

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No Bikini Is Worth Starving Yourself Over

Every summer magazines love to tell you how to get the perfect bikini body. You don't need to run 3 miles a day, do 200 crunches and eat nothing but carrot sticks for weeks on end to look good in a bikini. Do you want to know the real secret to getting a bikini ready body? Wear a bikini. That's it. That's all you have to do.

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You Don't HAVE To Wear A Bikini

At the end of the day your bathing suit is all about your taste and your comfort zone, nobody else's. Don't feel obligated to wear a bikini. Tankinis and one-pieces are really great alternatives and come in just as many different styles.

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Do you have any bikini tips to share? Do you like bikinis or prefer other swim suits? Tell us in the comments!

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Medical marijuana has been increasingly more popular–and in some cases more legalized–lately. While marijuana can be used to treat a bunch of things, a new medicinal use has been found for it. Can smoking weed be good for preventing diabetes?

A new study shows that people who use marijuana have lower insulin levels, which lowers your risk of diabetes because it means you have better control of your blood sugar.

Not sure what that means? If you have type 2 diabetes, your body doesn’t produce enough insulin to keep your blood sugar levels at a healthy place. When that happens, you feel sluggish, you pee a lot, lose a lot of weight and feel super thirsty all the time. (Basically, it’s not fun.)

Marijuana users were also showed in the study to have a smaller risk of obesity than people who don’t smoke weed.

People in the study who admitted to smoking weed also had smaller waistlines than those who had never used marijuana.

It may seem surprising, and it sort of is. You know that whole “munchies” thing? It’s real: People who smoke marijuana eat more Calories than people who don’t, but somehow still weigh less and have smaller risks of obesity and diabetes. Docs aren’t sure why that happens, but they also note that those who smoke weed also have smaller body mass indexes (BMIs). (Remember though, BMIs aren’t necessarily good tools to determine if you’re at a healthy weight since they don’t take things like muscle weight into account, so take that with a grain of salt.)

What does this all mean? If you’re under 18, it should ideally not mean much, because you have to be at least that old  to smoke marijuana, even where it’s legal. For the rest of us? It means more research should go into marijuana, THC and the benefits and risks of smoking weed. I personally hate the smell and probably wouldn’t bother doing it regardless, but if it can help others with their health, I’m all for it being legalized, researched and prescribed to people who need it.

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Tattoos are a big decision. I mean, they’re permanent. You have to be absolutely sure you want this on your body forever. We were both 100% sure so we did it.

But I do resent the term tramp stamp because I think it’s really unfair to say that one part of the body is inherently trampier than other parts. I also have a tattoo on my foot. That doesn’t mean I have a floozie foot, right? And I have a tattoo on my wrist, but I don’t have a slutty wrist. It’s just stupid. Where you decide to get a tattoo is not a direct reflection of your sexual choices.

That said, there are some things I hate about my “tramp stamp” so click through and see what they are!

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That People Think I'm A Tramp

First of all, my sex life is my business, not anyone else's. Getting a lower back tattoo did not turn me into some kind of sex-crazed maniac. And it doesn't mean that I got a tattoo to reflect sexual behaviors.

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That People Think It's A Target

Having a lower back tattoo does not mean I'm easy or that I'm "asking for it." NO ONE is asking for it.

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That People Think I'm Dangerous

Tattoos do not make a person dangerous or angry or violent. I'm really nice, and having a tattoo does not change that one bit.

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That People Think I'm Angsty

I did not get a lower back tattoo in order to lash out or prove a point. I didn't do it to rebel against anything.

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That I Feel I Have To Hide It

Because there's such a stigma against lower back tattoos, I sometimes feel like I have to hide it. Obviously, I'm not walking into work with low-cut jeans and a crop top. But just in daily life, I'm always aware that people are going to see it and judge me for it.

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That I Forget It's There

I love my tattoo, but because it's not in an easily visible place for me, I'm constantly forgetting it's there!

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That People Say I'll Regret It

Many people tell me I'm going to regret it one day. But I've had it for 9 years now, and I've never regretted it for a second.

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Ah, graduation. The day you’ve been counting down to for months, maybe even years. You’re either filled with excitement or sadness or a little of both. Either way, this is a day that you’re going to remember for the rest of your life.  Parents will cry, photos will be taken and you’ll sit through hours of enlightening speeches. And by enlightening I mean dead boring. By dead boring I mean you will literally be so bored, you’ll feel like dying.

Let’s face it, as important as that diploma is, it almost doesn’t feel worth it after all the energy you’ll put into making that day perfect. So here’s our graduation present for you: The Lazy Girl’s Guide to Graduation. Learn it, live it, love it. You can thank us later.

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Wake Up Early to a Nice, Hearty Breakfast.

Don’t make it yourself, obviously. Goad your mom or dad into making it for you. Your excuse? You’re too paralyzed with crippling fear of every flashback of every embarrassing moment you experienced in high school to prepare it yourself. Then again, maybe you’re feeling like that anyway…

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Get a Makeover

Why do your own makeup when somebody else can do it for you? Go to your local department store makeup counter the morning of graduation and say that you want to try a cute formal look. When you're all dolled up and they're pushing you to buy the products, pretend that you got an emergency text about your mom choking on a pretzel or something. Professional makeover absolutely free.

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Skip On Shaving Or Waxing.

You want people to know that you’re ready to put away childish things and go full throttle into careless college student mode. Let that leg hair flow, let your pits be free, and let that unibrow flourish.

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Go Commando

Having trouble picking a dress? Don't wear one. In fact, don't wear anything underneath your robes. Seriously, didn’t you just have prom? Who wants to spend even more money on another dress that you’ll wear for a few hours and likely never wear again. Think about it.

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Wear Slippers

Look, you’re not wearing anything under your robes so you might as well make a statement with a dope pair of bunny slippers. You'll get a lot of attention and they're super comfy

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Order a Pizza

This will save the hassle and family drama of figuring out where to eat afterwards. You’ll probably get hungry in the middle of the ceremony anyway. Plus, nothing says “ready for the adult world” like grease all over your mouth as you accept your diploma.

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Tweet Tweet!

Tune out the speakers and just read your fellow students' tweets. What would you rather pay attention to? A cheesy, meaningless speech courtesy of your principle or your friend’s livetweets about how her crush looks like Zayn Malik from her angle.

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Complete Your Unfinished Homework

Remember that history assignment you were supposed to turn in a few months ago? Well, this is your last chance to finish it up. Your history teacher will forgive your tardiness and will really appreciate your dedication to the Cold War.

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Pull a JLaw

Were pesky little things like extracurricular activities and socializing too much work for you? Are you suddenly regretting not making a name for yourself? Make a lasting impression on everyone and be beloved for years to come by pulling a JLaw: Fall on the stage as you’re accepting your diploma. Sure, your PE teacher helping you to your feet is nothing like Hugh Jackman helping Jenn, but you can use your imagination.

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Don't Go

If all of these tips seem like too much work, just don’t go. Disappoint your parents forever and refresh Tumblr all day instead. Sure, you’ll be throwing away lifelong memories, but…you just HAVE to reblog this sloth gif!

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Is your graduation coming up? Are you feeling happy or sad about it? If you’ve already graduated, what graduation tips do you have to offer? Tell us in the comments!

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