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It’s a big stereotype that how to make guys happy involves steak, blow jobs and beer. But it turns out, according to guys on Reddit, there are a few particular moves that have nothing to do with oral sex, booze or beef.

Making decisions.
Most of the guys on Reddit said a good surprise is for you to plan dates so the pressure is off them. We’re not talking control freak level, but maybe throwing out a, “Hey, wanna catch Man of Steel and grab some pizza?” is a lot cooler for them than just being like, “Whatever you want to do” and then pouting later when it turns out it’s not what you wanted.

Give him compliments.
One commenter on Reddit said his girlfriend told him he was handsome three weeks earlier and he was still glowing from it. So cute! So let him know he looks hot after baseball practice or even just thank him for driving to the movies. It’ll mean more than you realize!

Give him food!
Know his favorite candy or snack? Surprise him with it. He’ll be stoked that you thought of him, and it’s so cheap and easy! (I’ve done this, and trust me: It works.)

Rub his back.
And his shoulders and maybe his head. Guys on Reddit said they loved massages. Hopefully he’ll return the favor!

Surprise him with a small present.
It doesn’t have to be anything big or expensive. See a shirt with his favorite comic book character? Found an mp3 of a hard-to-find song he’s been searching for forever? It’s not about the price tag, but about the thought that went into it. He’ll be so happy!

And our favorite: Hug him from behind!
This was so cute. A lot of guys on Reddit said that a surprise hug from behind or a kiss on the cheek and resting your head on his shoulder was actually better than, well, a BJ. They explained that it feels truly intimate–while oral sex may make him feel good for a little while, stuff like this will make him feel loved, and that lasts a lot longer. (And makes a lot less of a mess.)

Were you surprised at how to make a guy happy? Do you trust the answers from guys on Reddit? How do you make your guy happy? Tell us in the comments!

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Hi Shallon,

My boyfriend says he loves to go down on me but… I just don’t believe him. It feels amazing but I spend the whole time worried that I smell gross, look gross, taste gross–AM gross in general. He keeps reassuring me but I just can’t imagine that it’s not kind of icky. I know you’ll tell me the truth: is it super nasty for guys to give us oral?

–Sarah

Dear Scent-sational Sarah,

In a word: NO. It’s not gross. Not at all. Think about it: if going down on a girl was SO INCREDIBLY AWFUL, it wouldn’t have stayed around for hundreds of years. Dudes would have just plain stopped doing it. I polled nearly every one of my guy friends to get their honest, no holds barred opinions, here’s what they said:

“Smells? Nah, no not at all. I mean once, in college when my girlfriend had just gotten back from volleyball practice, yeah, that wasn’t the best, but every other time I’ve gone down on a girl, it wasn’t anything less than awesome.” – Jackson

“It tastes, like, warm and tangy if that makes sense. I dunno how to describe it but it’s definitely good! If a guy doesn’t like doing it, we all secretly thing he’s really weird, because it’s awesome.” – Reid

“Girls may think they smell weird but to guys, it’s like this aphrodisiac that only we can smell. You know how there are ringtones that adults can’t hear? It’s like that I guess but for guys. And vaginas.” – Kyle

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“I love it because I’m giving her SO much pleasure. As a dude, sometimes you can feel like you’re the only one getting off so it’s great to just sit back and be in the driver’s seat of making HER happy. I guess it’s almost like a power thing, like this big achievement. I’m into that.” – Jason

I also talked to my bisexual friend, a girl, who’s gone down on both guys and girls and she had a very interesting perspective.

“I always thought it was SUPER gross to go down on a girl and I’d always feel guilty when anyone did it to me… until I did it to someone else. Ummm it’s SO much easier and nicer than giving a blow job!” she gushed.

“Even physically, the way your head is angled and your body positioned is way more comfortable than giving a BJ. I could go down on a girl for hours, it’s great. Now, having done it, I really see why guys love it. To know you’re giving someone pleasure is even better than getting it yourself!”

So ladies, this is the overall message: it’s not gross. It’s not stinky, it’s not some vile sewer-like area that boys are forever traumatized after visiting. It’s great! And very much not something we should feel guilty about. And if you have a guy who makes you feel that way, the problem is HIM, not your lady bits!

XOXO,

Shallon

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The summer is the perfect opportunity to spend more time with and get closer to your boyfriend. During the school year, you guys are both spending time on going to school, after-school activities, doing homework, trying to make school day curfews… you get it. But during the summer, you both should have more time to devote to each other (unless one of you is in summer school or has a very demanding part-time job).

So how can you use all of that extra time to your advantage? There are tons of summer-fun bonding activities you guys can do together that will make the most of the great outdoors (think going to the beach, the pool, hiking trip), but there’s another thing you should do that you might not have even thought of: road trips!

Those of you who are old enough to have your own car should definitely consider taking at least one road trip with your boyfriend this summer. Why? A recent survey done by Ford and Your Tango found that 90 percent of couples think that road trips can actually help improve their relationship. What’s more, 88 percent of couples surveyed said that they’ve had their best couples conversations ever during car trips.

So basically road trips equal some seriously great bonding sessions with your boyfriend – which makes total sense. You guys are sitting in a tiny, enclosed area with nothing to do but listen to music or chat. The longer the car trip is, the more connected you two will feel and the easier it will be to spill your secrets and really get to know each other. I know this is true for me. I’ve found out more about my boyfriend during our long road trips to go skiing than I have at any other time. I don’t know what it is about the car, but there’s something soothing about driving for a long time and just talking. I normally hate long car rides and the only ones I look forward to are the ones that involve my BF.

This doesn’t mean you need to get crazy and start on a wild cross-country road trip… obviously a lot of you are probably unable to do that (I know I am). An hour or two hour long ride should do the trick. Go somewhere fun for the day where you guys don’t normally go to. Not only will the car ride bring you closer together, but the adventure you two have together afterwards will be exciting and super fun.

Oh, and for you single girls out there? Take a road trip with your girls! Car rides aren’t only great for bonding between couples, but they’re also something that you and your friends can have a lot of fun with as well. Get three or four of your closest friends together and plan a road trip somewhere cool for a day or a weekend. You guys will have an awesome time in the car gossiping, jamming out to your favorite music and swapping scandalous hookup stories. Trust me on this one.

Get your music together, buy some comfy car clothes and save up your gas money – I promise you won’t regret taking two or three road trips this summer, with your boyfriend or your besties.

Have you ever taken a road trip with your boyfriend before? What about with your friends? Did you think it was a good bonding experience? Tell me in the comments!

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However, it’s not as easy to actually make the move and date him. Dating your best friend’s brother can be pretty tricky – there’s always the risk of your relationship with him ruining your relationship with her. Plus, some girls are very protective of their brothers and don’t want their friends dating them. I can understand that, too. But if you can’t stop thinking about this guy, maybe you should give it a shot anyway. If that’s what you’re thinking of doing, here are 10 tips on how to date your best friend’s brother as painlessly as possible. Read this before you get yourself into anything!

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Feel Him Out

Before you do anything to jepordize your friendship, you should probably figure out if your friend's brother has feelings for you back. Start up conversations with him whenever you can and even try subtly flirting with him. If you feel like he might be crushing on you also, then maybe you should go for it.

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Feel Her Out

Try to subtly feel your bestie out also to get an idea of how she'll react if anything happens with her brother and you. Try casually asking her what she would do if one of her friends dated her brother or get really bold and say something like, "Your brother is so cute/funny/adorable." Check out her response. If she gets totally weirded out, that's a good indication that she won't be happy if you two get together. If she doesn't seem to care, still tread carefully - she might just not be thinking about you dating her brother.

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Think About This Seriously

Once you've gotten an idea of how both of them feel, put some serious thought into what you want to do next. You should really think about this before you say or do something that you can't take back. Keep in mind that dating your friend's brother might end up being a disaster - do you think your friendship will be able to handle it? What will you do if your bestie flips on you?

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Talk To Her

Now is the time to be honest with your BFF. I know this is an uncomfortable situation, but lying to her because you don't want her to feel awkward is the absolute worst thing you can do. Approach her and let her know that you have feelings for her brother and you'd love to try to start something with him. Let her know how much you care about her and that her approval means a lot to you. Reassure her that you'll never let him come between you two.

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Make Your Decision or Choice

Once you talk to your friend, figure out once and for all what you want to do. This is your life, so even if she says she doesn't want you dating her brother, you need to make the choice you feel is best for you. Are you willing to possibly lose your best friend to take a chance with this guy? And if she says yes, then decide whether or not you want to go for it.

Realize What You're Getting Yourself Into

Just keep in mind that this relationship might be a little tricky, even if your friend doesn't seem to care at all. She might end up caring once she actually sees you and her brother together. I know this sounds repetitive, but just be aware of what you might be getting yourself into.

Don't Get Too PDA Friendly In Front Of Her

Once you start dating her brother, don't take that as an open invitation to make out with him in front of her every time you're at their house. That is her brother after all... she probably doesn't really enjoy seeing him engage in PDA with anyone, especially her bestie. Just be respectful of her.

Make Time For Just You And Her

When you date a new guy, it's easy to start ditching your friends to spend all of your time with him. It's also easy to start bringing him along every time you hang with your friends. Make sure your BFF knows that you're still going to make time for just you and her. Don't make her feel like a third wheel in her own house, you know?

Don't Put Her In The Middle Of Anything

Whenever you get in a fight with your BF, the first person you turn to is usually your bestie. In this situation, though, your putting your friend in a really awkward position. Who is she supposed to side with: her BFF or her brother? You may need to find another friend to talk to about the problems you're having with your new BF.

Don't Let Him Ruin Your Friendship

If things don't work out great and you and this guy end up parting ways, don't let that ruin your friendship with your BFF. That's why you need to put a lot of thought into this before you do it - if you two break up, it's not going to be easy to avoid him. Don't stop hanging with your bestie just because you don't want to see her brother. That's not cool.

Have you ever dated your best friend’s brother? Has your bestie ever dated YOUR brother? Do you think it’s okay to date your friend’s brother? Tell me in the comments!

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For those unfamiliar with “the queef,” vaginal flatulence (flatus vaginalis in Latin… or simply “vagina farts” in layman’s terms) is basically an expulsion of vaginal air that can occur due to certain physical movements during sex or exercise. The result is a noise not unlike that of, well… cutting the cheese.

However, out all of the sexual experiences I’ve had with women in my lifetime (I’m no George Clooney, but I do alright), I’ve only been aware of it happening twice. Though it’s entirely normal, it occurs (audibly, at least) way less than you probably think.

Most importantly, both of the two incidents that I personally encountered were way funnier than they were offensive or gross. Queefs are really nothing more than silly because you get the best part of a regular butt-fart (the sound) without the worst part (the smell), as there are no internal waste gases involved. The noise comes from trapped surface air, like that of a hand-cupped armpit when producing a hilarious “armpit fart” (one of my greatest skills as a third grader, still a great party trick).

So really, don’t fret – not only is queefing unlikely to happen during your first time having sex, it’s also not a big deal if it does. Any guy who gives you flak for a little crotch-burp is either totally inexperienced, immature, or both. Of all the things you can worry about when it comes to sex (e.g. pregnancy, STDs, regretful intercourse with a small-penised partner), queefing should be at the very bottom of the list. Don’t sweat ‘em!

*(For more on this topic from the female perspective, check out “Queefing 101” by my friend Abiola Abrams, here at Gurl.com!)

Good luck!
Ethan

Ethan Fixell is a writer and comedian from New York City best known as one half of comic “dating coach” duo Dave and Ethan. He is also the creator and editor of ActualConversation.com. For more on Ethan, visit EthanFixell.com…or call his mom, Robin.

Are you confused about a guy? Do you find yourself wondering, “What is he thinking?” Tell us everything in the comments! And if you have a question for Ethan, email him at askaguy@gurl.com!

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Not only can it sabotage your relationship or his friendships, but these girls can also probably some of your strongest allies if you’d let them. Here’s why you need to play nice with your boyfriend’s girl friends–and why it’ll help you in the long run!

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They Make Him A Better Boyfriend!

If your boyfriend has close girl friends, chances are they vent to him about their guy problems. That gives him really good insight on how to treat you, so you can rest easy knowing he'll probably be more considerate than if he solely palled around with guys who just tell fart jokes all day.

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They Give Him Good Advice That Helps YOU!

If your boyfriend doesn't have sisters, who is he going to go to when he wants advice on what to wear on a special night out or what to buy you for your birthday? That's right, his girl friends. So be nice to them unless you want him showing up in pajama pants with a used "Fast and the Furious" DVD.

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They Can Help You Out In A Relationship Crisis!

Sometimes guys and girls just see things differently. If your boyfriend simply can't understand where you're coming from, his girl friends may be able to give him insight to understand you better and see your side of an issue. That is, if you're cool with them! If you're warm with them, they can be your biggest cheerleaders, so treat them like you'd treat your own pals.

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They Can Indulge Him In Stuff That Bores You!

Does your guy have a girl friend who likes skateboarding, but you hate it? That gives him someone to chat with about his hobby so when you see him, you're not bogged down by stories you think are boring. Same thing if you and your guy friends like Call of Duty more than he does!

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You Can Bond Together!

If your boyfriend has a ton of girl friends, doesn't that make hanging out with his pals a lot easier than if he strictly hung out with the guys? You probably have a lot more to talk about--and in a pinch, it's a lot more likely someone will have a tampon. Just sayin'!

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Chances Are There's Nothing Up!

If your boyfriend wanted to date one of his girl friends, why would he have picked you? Chances are if he were interested, something would have happened already, so relax!

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But If You Sense There IS Something Sketchy Going On...

Bring it up to him! If someone in particular makes you a little uncomfortable when they're together, let him know. If he's worth his salt and if she's as rad as he says she is, they'll understand and try to make you feel more secure.

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Have you ever been jealous of your boyfriend’s girl friends? Have you ever confronted your boyfriend over his girl friends? Has a guy friend’s girlfriend ever been jealous of your friendship? Tell us in the comments!

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Apparently, dudes feel the same way. In a recent survey, guys said that the thing that makes them the most nervous about first dates are first date conversations. I guess it’s kind of comforting to know that we’re all in the same boat, but honestly, it doesn’t make me feel too much better. So to help out those of you who feel the same way I do, here are 10 do’s and don’ts of first date conversations: what to talk about and what you should definitely avoid.

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Do Talk About: Pets

Pets are an easy and, usually, fun topic to bring up on a date. People either love or hate animals, so either the dude will be thrilled to talk about his dog BFF from home or he'll love the chance to rant about how he's not into pets. Either way, this is usually pretty safe.

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Don't Talk About: Family Stuff

Something you may not want to bring up on a first date when you guys are just getting to know each other? Family stuff. Families can be complicated and who knows what goes on behind closed doors at his house, you know? You don't know if he doesn't get along with his family, if one of them recently passed away or anything like that. The point is, this can easily turn into a pretty heavy topic and first date convos usually shouldn't be like that.

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Do Talk About: Sports

Feel free to bring up sports - but only if you're into them. Don't pretend to love football if really you don't know anything about it. That won't impress him. See what he's into or not into... and it's okay if you guys get into a friendly debate about it. Guys dig confidence and that means they like girls who aren't afraid to express their opinions.

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Don't Talk About: Politics

Ugh. Politics. I'm all for a smart, news-centered political discussion, but a first date isn't really the place for that. Any talk about politics can get ugly fast so I wouldn't even touch it until you get to know the guy better.

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Do Talk About: Food

Food! Everyone loves food! This may sound kind of boring, but to make it a little more interesting, you can talk about your favorite restaurant or place to get ice cream. That also gives you the perfect opening to be a little flirty and say something like, "Maybe we can go there sometime." Wink-wink.

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Don't Talk About: Mean Gossip

I love a good gossip sesh as much as anyone else, but looking catty and superficial isn't great on a first date when you're trying to make a good impression. Guys can easily get turned off by a girl who only has mean things to say about other people. So play nice!

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Do Talk About: School

Boring? Sure. Safe? Definitely. But if you guys go to the same school and have some of the same classes, talking about that stuff will probably feel the most comfortable and easy. It's a good conversation starter to get both of you feeling a little bit more willing to talk.

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Don't Talk About: Religion

Just like politics, religion is another topic that spark a lot of angry discussion. I know that it's part of getting to know someone, but I would consider holding off on the religious debates.

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Do Talk About: Movies, TV Shows Or Music

Are you a movie buff? Talk about your favorites that are out now. Do you know you two both watch the same TV show? Discuss how awesome/terrible the last episode was. And same goes with music - if you both have similar taste, talk about it. These are pretty easy and fun topics, especially if you're passionate about them.

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Don't Talk About: Your Ex

I feel like I say this every other day, but seriously, don't talk about your ex in front of a new guy. It is only going to make it seem like you haven't moved on - or that you're just really bitter and angry. Not cute.

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Do you agree with these tips? What is your go-to topic for first date conversations? What did I miss? Tell me in the comments!

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How Does Paying For Dates & Presents Make You Feel?

If paying for stuff for your boyfriend makes you feel used, he may not even realize he's doing it. Bring up your concerns, because if he's in the dark, he may not even realize you're upset. If and when you do tell him that you're tired of spending so much on him, a guy worth your time will find some way to make it up to you, whether it means paying for dates himself for a while or just showing he appreciates you more. Don't let him take you for granted--but also don't assume that's what's happening until you've talked it over first.

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Is He Hard Up For Cash Or Just Freeloading?

If you think he's "forgetting" his wallet and not actually forgetting his wallet, is it because he's a jerk or because he's broke and embarrassed about it? As old fashioned as it is, guys take pride in taking care of you, and part of that is paying for you when they can. If they can't afford it, they may feel less "manly," as silly as that sounds--and it may be less painful for them to leave their money home (or pretend to) than for their credit card to get declined or realize they only have $10 on hand til next week. Talk it over and try to see where he stands and how he feels--and if his behavior is a pattern.

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Are You Missing Out On Other Stuff Because You're Broke?

It's not a big deal to shell out cash occasionally when you and your boyfriend are out, or if you see something you know he'd dig. But when it starts to affect your ability to go to the movies with your girls, pay for gas or books or afford a birthday gift for your mom, it's time to close your wallet. If that means staying in and vegging out together with SpongeBob marathons instead of grabbing dinner and a movie, so be it--at least until he gets more hours at his job. (Or gets a job!)

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Do You Think He's Pulling Away?

If you think your guy isn't that into you anymore, chances are you'd do almost anything to win him over again. But when you start basically throwing money at a dude to get him to stick around, he won't stick around for the right reasons--if he does at all. Opt for a guy who likes you for you, not for what you can buy him!

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Have You Set Spending Limits For Presents?

If you feel like you're spending more on gifts for birthdays, anniversaries and the like for your boyfriend than he is on you, consider setting limits on how much each of you can spend. If neither of you knows what the other is expecting, you may blow a ton of dough on a watch for him for your six-month anniversary while he gets you a card or flowers and thinks it's enough. Neither of you are mind readers, so make sure to communicate!

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Does He Reciprocate In Other Ways?

Think: When you and your guy go out, if you spring for movie tickets, does he pay for your popcorn? Does he drive everywhere? Has he handed over his MetroCard to save you from paying for a train ride? Did he surprise you after class with a giant Frappuccino when you had a rough day? He may be giving back to you in ways you don't realize right away, so your relationship budgets may balance out more than you think at first.

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How's Your Self Esteem?

Even more important than taking stock in your relationship and your bank account, take stock in yourself. Are you shelling out cash because you think you don't have anything else to offer? Because you do. You're awesome. If you need to wear your heart on wallet instead of your sleeve, you may not feel secure not only in your relationship, but also in yourself. Work on that and know you determine your own inner worth--not how much money you plunk down on a dude!

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Hey Shallon,

What’s the deal with dirty talk? I’ve been having sex with my boyfriend of a year and sometimes feel like the normal moans and “oohs” and “mmmms” are lame and kind of routine. I want to say other stuff but I feel SO lame busting out dirty porn words because I’m not a big cusser in general… but I do want to mix it up! Help!! How do I talk dirty??

–Danielle

Dear Dirty Dani,

Ugh, porn has made dirty talk SUCH a fiasco for us ladies. In porn, the girls can’t STFU and they’re always saying incredibly, and I mean really, dirty phrases that are completely inappropriate to write here. And those kinds of phrases aren’t always something regular chicas are super comfortable with–I know I’m not. But, fortunately, there’s a lot of cool vocab between nondescript moans and full-on X-rated words.

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First of all, remember that the purpose of dirty talk is to express yourself–not fulfill some insane porn fantasy he might have. On his end, dirty talk serves as a barometer of how he’s doing. If you’re silent as a hostage, he might think you’re hating everything he’s doing and just gritting your teeth until it’s over. Moans, sighs and phrases are a way of saying “Yes! Good job sir! Very nice technique!” without being quite that lame and obvious.

I’m actually not a great dirty talker myself, so instead I treat bedroom chatter like a mad lib: “I love it when you put your ____ on my ______.”  It doesn’t have to be ULTRA VULGAR–it could be “I love it when your mouth is on my neck.” Or, let your body to the talking. If you can’t say “I want you to go down on me,” you can trail your finger down your body and whisper “I want to feel your mouth…right here.”

Trust me, guys will find this hot. Again, it tells them that they’re on the right track. So does a simple “Oh yeah, just like that” or the best dirty talk of all, saying their name. Dudes LOVE IT when you say their name.

Another good go-to phrase is “give it to me.” It’s sexy and naughty but not Jenna Jameson-level. And guys always love to hear “you’re so hard.” I’ve never really understood the compliment of this but hey, whatever!

The most important thing to remember is to do what makes YOU comfortable. Parroting some X-rated video is going to make you feel weird and out of place–and who wants to feel that way when they’re hooking up? Sex is about connection and that’s impossible when you’re not true to yourself. So let your freak flag fly and don’t be afraid to pull out a thesaurus :)

XOXO,

Shallon

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I’ve put together 10 signs that your boyfriend might be a liar. Keep these things in the back of your mind, but also remember that trust is a big part of a relationship. If you feel like you can never trust this dude, there may be a reason for that and maybe you guys should end things. Also keep in mind that these aren’t foolproof – the truth is, there are some people out there who are great liars and are hard to catch in the act. But in general, these will be helpful for figuring out whether or not he’s a liar:

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He's Not Acting Like Himself

Usually when someone lies, they feel a little uncomfortable and worried about getting caught. If your BF is lying to you about something big, chances are his attitude will change a little bit. If he's usually really open with you and very happy and he's suddenly being secretive and jumpy, that may be a sign that something is up. Ask him what's going on - if he denies that anything is wrong or gets annoyed with you quickly, it's totally possible that he's keeping something from you.

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He Doesn't Look At You

Pay attention to your boyfriend's body language whenever he's telling you something that you think he's lying about, or whenever you ask him if he's lying. Will he look you in the eye? If he'll look anywhere except at you, that's a good sign that he's not being honest. It's hard to look in the eyes of someone you care about and boldly lie. If you think he's full of it, say, "look me in the eyes and say it." If he can't do it, he's probably lying.

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His Story Is Never The Same

Lying can be difficult, especially if you're lying about something complicated. Pay attention to the details your boyfriend gives you when he's telling you something. Wait a few days, then ask for the same story again. If some things don't add up, it could be because they didn't happen (or maybe he just has a really bad memory - you know him better than I do!). If this happens more than a few times, it could mean he's making stuff up and isn't good at keeping track of everything.

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He Gets Super Defensive

How does your BF react when you accuse him of lying? If he gets super, super defensive, it might mean he's lying and is freaking out about getting caught. This one is tricky, because it's completely natural to get defensive whenever you're accused of fibbing, whether you did it or not. However, if your BF's response is over-the-top, it could mean he's in panic mode.

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There Are A Lot Of Long Pauses

According to Cosmopolitan, long pauses before an answer are a sign that he's not telling you the truth. See what happens when you say something like, "Where were you last night?" If he pauses for a minute before answering or repeats the question before responding, he could be giving himself time to come up with an answer.

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He Accuses You Of Lying All The Time

Sometimes when people feel guilty about their own lies, they try to shift the blame a little bit. If your guy is constantly accusing you of breaking his trust, it may be because he feels bad about breaking your trust. Or, if he counteracts your probing question with one of his own, he could just be trying to distract you.

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He Never Gives You Any Details

Do you think your BF is lying about who he was hanging out with earlier? Try to ask some innocent-sounding questions like, "what did you do?" "did so-and-so say anything about what happened in class the other day?" Don't grill him for details, but ask a few questions. If he keeps saying, "Um, I don't know" or "I don't remember" or if he blows up about it, it's probably because he doesn't have any real details to give you.

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He's Super Weird With His Phone

I would never advise you to take a secret peek at your boyfriend's phone, but keeping an eye on how he acts with it is okay if you suspect he's lying. Does he constantly keep it with him, even if he's just running to the bathroom? Do you notice him deleting every single text he gets? Does he freak out if you touch it when it goes off? If he's crazy private about his phone, it could be because there's stuff in there he doesn't want you to see.

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He Has A History Of Lying

I don't like judging people based on their past, but sometimes you really can find out things about a person based on what they've done before. If your BF has a history of lying to you, what makes you think that this time is going to be any different? If he's lied to you once or twice about little things, that doesn't mean he should never be trusted. But if he's fibbed about some major stuff before, he could very easily be doing it again.

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You Have A Gut Feeling

Honestly, in the end, you really need to go with your gut. Like I said before, you know your boyfriend better than I do. You can go through all of the steps above and still not find out for sure if he's a liar. But if you have a serious gut feeling that he's being dishonest, then you probably have that for a reason. Trust yourself - dig deep down to see if you really believe he's lying or not. Sometimes we have these feelings because we're right.

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Do you think your BF is currently lying to you? Do you think any of these signs are wrong? What did I miss? Tell us in the comments.

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