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Wrong. Here’s why you should never go to one, and why one state is trying to limit how they can advertise their services.

Crisis pregnancy centers are not what they sound like. On the surface, crisis pregnancy centers pretty much advertise themselves as full-service reproductive health clinics, similar to a Planned Parenthood center. However, crisis pregnancy centers actually are funded by religious groups and are designed to actually dissuade you from getting abortions or using birth control.

Aside from their false advertising practices, crisis pregnancy centers also use other shady practices. They provide factually false information on abortion procedures and birth control to girls who go there seeking help in a dramatic and possibly traumatic time in their lives. How can you make an informed decision when the people who are supposed to be helping you are deliberately lying to you and telling you the wrong thing? What’s more, crisis pregnancy centers often hold little to no regard for confidentiality–which means, when you’re dealing with something you’d probably want to keep very private, they have no issues with putting your life on blast.

What may be the worst thing about crisis pregnancy centers is that they are a waste of time–and in situations like an unplanned pregnancy, time is incredibly important. Regardless of whether you choose to keep the baby or abort it, you need as much time as you can get to not only make your choice, but to go through with whatever it is–especially if you want to get an abortion, since depending on where you live, you may not be able to get one after a certain point. And that’s exactly what crisis pregnancy centers are going for.

Thankfully, an appeals court in Baltimore is hearing a case about crisis pregnancy centers, and if the original case is overturned, crisis pregnancy centers within Baltimore will be required to post a sign within their offices saying that they “do not provide or make referrals for abortion or comprehensive birth control services.” Similar measures were passed in New York City, Austin, Texas, and San Francisco.

Please know that we’re not trying to tell you what to believe, nor are we trying to steer you more towards one decision than another. We just want whatever decision you make to be one that is informed and that is best for you. Even if you disagree with abortion on a moral or spiritual level–and dude, that’s totally fine, and that’s your right–almost all beliefs and creeds disagree with deception, and that’s what crisis pregnancy centers are really selling.

What do you think about crisis pregnancy centers? Should they have to change what they call themselves? Should they be allowed to lie to people? Tell us in the comments!

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Babies are pretty cool. They’re usually happy to see you, they’ll always love you, and they’re super cute! But that doesn’t mean having a baby right now is a good idea. In fact, as a teen, it’s normally a pretty bad idea.

First off, babies are freakin’ expensive. We’re  gonna throw some numbers at you: 80 percent of unwed teen mothers have to go on welfare to support themselves and their babies. Having a baby makes going to school and/or work a lot tougher. Plus, it’s harder to get a good job considering only one-third of teen moms get a high school diploma. And with the economy being so rough that people with college degrees often work minimum wage jobs, you can’t even imagine how hard it’d be to get work with limited availability and limited education. And continuing on with your education is tough too–only 1.5% of teen moms go on to get a college degree. It’s a pretty vicious cycle, and it’s one best avoided completely.

Then there’s the emotional toll having a baby will take on you. You can pretty much say “peace out” to hanging out with your friends, going to the movies on a whim, or taking a spontaneous weekend road trip with your girls, because you’re going to need to hire a sitter–which usually costs money that most teen parents don’t have. It may be harder for you and your friends to relate to one another, because when they’re talking about who’s wearing what dress to prom, you’ll likely be stressing about onesies and Desitin.

And don’t even think that having a baby will keep your boyfriend around. In fact, stats show that he’ll probably bounce–8 out of 10 guys who get a teen girl preggers don’t marry her.

Additionally, you can bet having a kid–or even just announcing that you’re pregnant–will cause a big strain on your relationship with your parents. Your having a kid likely isn’t their fault–but it will inevitably become, at least in part, their problem. And that’s not really fair.

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Oh, and dude, let’s not even get started on how gross diapers are. Do you really want to be responsible for something that poops up its own back? I sure don’t…yet!

Don’t believe us? Well, you can take a dry run at parenthood and see for yourself. You and your pals can test out DoSomething.org’s The Pregnancy Text for a day and see how having a rugrat of your own affects you. You’ll get text messages throughout the day that mimic taking care of a kid. It’s a wake up call for sure–and it’s only the tip of the iceberg in terms of the drama a real baby would bring you. What we love about this program is that it’s geared to girls and guys. So many teen pregnancy campaigns only target girls and we all know, boys make babies happen just as much as girls do. In addition to a hard taste of parenthood, participating will enter you to win a $2,000 scholarship to college. Teen pregnancy awareness and money for school, thanks DoSomething.org!

Having a kid when you’re still one yourself limits so many fun and exciting opportunities that you’d otherwise have. You have your whole life to get pregnant and start a family. It’s worth the wait to enjoy your youth while you can–and thankfully, a lot of teens are catching on, because the U.S. pregnancy rate is the lowest it’s been since 1940!

If you’re looking for someone who will always be happy to see you and drool on you (and that won’t talk back in its teenage years), your best bet now is to get a puppy–and use protection.

Have you ever thought about having a baby? Would you want to be a teen mom despite all the risks and hardships? Tell us in the comments!

What should you do when your partner doesn’t want to use a condom, but you do? Lena guides you through this touchy situation with reminders on why condoms are non-negotiable and how to keep safety your number one priority. Safe sex is the sexiest kind of sex. Take Lena’s tips on how to have safe sex, and you’ll both be happy you did!

Or is that what HE said?

Here’s a sexy little quiz: You and that super hot guy from History class are finally totally making out. Not just like, kissing, but really really into it. ( I told you this was sexy!) You both want to go all the way, but there’s no condom. When he says he’ll just pull out you should:

a) tell him you’d rather run to 7-11 and get condoms.

b) go for it! You love a man with a plan.

If you answered B, you’re in for a big surprise, girl. Although lots of girls and guys use the pull out method, it’s really not a good method of birth control—definitely not one we’d recommend.

I know, I know, you think I’m being judgy or something, but I’m not. I’m just looking out for your safety and happiness. Here are the facts:

• The pull out method doesn’t protect you from scary STDs like HIV and HPV.

• Most younger guys don’t pull out in time (hello, pregnancy scare . . . or just pregnancy!)

• Even if he does pull out in time, you can get pregnant from his pre-ejaculate, the liquid that comes out of him even before he orgasms. 

This goes beyond my opinion to cold hard science—using the pull out method isn’t a whole lot safer than having unprotected sex without pulling out. So, girls? Be smart. Speak up and keep a condom handy if you’re having sex. For more on making sexy time safe, check out our Complete Guide to Birth Control.

What kind of birth control do you or will you use? Tell us in the comments!
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It's called "Emergency" contraception for a reason!

Okay, so you had a late-night hook-up, and for whatever reason, your birth control method fell through. Your first reaction is to freak out (a lot), but your second reaction is probably to pick up the morning-after pill, Plan B One-Step, which helps prevent pregnancy.

But what if the morning-after pill required more than a slightly embarrassed trip to the drugstore? Well, the plan to make Plan B available without a prescription has been rejected. In some states, pharmacists can write prescriptions on-the spot, but generally this means that most girls will need a prescription from their doc.

What do you think about this super hot topic?

Me in college . . . on a happier day.

I met B during freshman year at college. He was 10 years older than I was, and at 28 he seemed so worldly—I couldn’t wait to hear his POV on even the stupidest stuff. And after a while, we started having sex, and B started saying I should have his baby.
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Although I was 18 and legally an adult, I was still very much my parents’ kid. On school breaks I slept in my old bedroom filled with stuffed animals and had a curfew. My mother didn’t approve of B but she knew I was too old for her to say “don’t date that person.”

Not exactly my dream in life.

I told B his baby hopes were ridiculous. I wanted to be an author and a talk show host, not a teen mom. We kept having sex, but I made sure to take my birth control pills and we always used condoms. I never even considered that I could get pregnant.

Then I missed a couple periods and realized I’d gained way more than my Freshman Fifteen. I was knocked up, preggers, carrying B’s child. Mainly? I felt stupid, like a total loser, and was scared. When I told B, he revealed that he’d secretly slipped off the condom a few times. Since it was always pitch black when we made love, I never knew.

One of the scariest things I've ever seen.

B said that I should drop out of school and move in with him and his mom. When I told him that I was thinking of not having the baby, he shook me violently and refused to help me pay for an abortion; but still promised he’d come with me if I could get the cash myself. It was abusive, but I was oblivious. All I knew was that I didn’t want this baby, and I didn’t want to spend my first year of college pregnant.

I sold my textbooks for $350 , wore big clothes, and set the appointment during school break. But on that morning, the guy I expected to support me was a no-show.

My appointment was in 90 minutes and the clinic said patients had to have an adult with them. I had no choice but to wake up my mom—who I’d never even had the sex talk with—and confess the whole thing. She asked if I was sure this was the choice I wanted to make but didn’t scold me, yell, or try to change my mind. If she’d used the word “disappointed” I think I would’ve died on the spot.

Protesters outside the doctor’s office yelled “Murderer” and other nasty things as my mother helped me inside. I attended a mandatory counseling session with other girls who looked about my age, where we heard about our other options and what we could expect from the procedure. For a minute, I felt like running out of there, but then I thought about actually having a baby and decided to go through with the abortion.

In another room, the doctor made small talk while the anesthesiologist gave me medicine so I’d fall asleep. I counted backwards from ten and woke up no longer pregnant.

B called the next day to apologize and begged to see me. I wish that I could say I didn’t take him back but that’s another story.

I went back to school and resumed my studies, feeling relieved. Sometimes now, when I see someone the age my child would have been, I think of that day. Still, I wouldn’t change my decision and I don’t have any regrets. Mainly, I’m so grateful my mom was there for me at a time when I really needed her.

GL Wood

It might seem like Dev is brand new to the music scene, but the truth is you’ve probably heard about the super cool gURL even before she came out with songs like “Bass Down Low” or “In the Dark.” Dev’s been featured on tracks like Far East Movement‘s “Like a G6″ and Demi Lovato‘s  current single,”Who’s That Boy.”

But it wasn’t until Dev revealed she was pregnant out of wedlock that the entertainment world really started buzzing. We sat down with Dev to talk about this major reveal, get the scoop on her gURL-powered album, and hear all she had to say about being a gURL.

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gURL: Congrats on your pregnancy. How did you and your fiance feel when you first found out?
Dev: Thank you! We were actually really excited. We knew it was bound to happen, so we were both thrilled. It was kind of interesting timing because I was on tour with Usher. But yeah, we’re both really happy.

gURL: How did your parents feel about the pregnancy considering you’re pretty young?
Dev: They were really excited and really supportive. They know how much we’re in love and how much we support each other. He’s the best guy, I really lucked out. It’s kinda strange.

gURL: If you had gotten pregnant as a teen, would you have gotten in trouble?
Dev: Probably not. My parents are really like ride or die, which is kind of cool and really weird at the same time. They have my back for absolutely everything. I’m really fortunate to have them. And even though I’m only 22, I’ve been living on my own and have my own career and life, so it doesn’t really seem like I’m as young as I am.

gURL: What advice would you give teen gURLs who are actually trying and hoping to get pregnant?
Dev: Oh jeez. I hope they have a good job and lots of help. I mean, I really can’t give too much advice except, be as loving as possible. I think everybody’s different and the most important thing at the end of the day is really making sure they have a loving place to come home to.

gURL: We love that advice. What would you say is your favorite about being a gURL?
Dev: I love that we have the power to sort of do what we want; we can say whatever we want, dress however we want depending on the day or our mood. Anything goes. gURLs have this really cool feminine power to be a complete boss, which is really awesome. Boys like to think they’re bosses, but really, we’re the bosses.

gURL: Ok, and your least favorite?
Dev: Having my period. As TMI as that is, that’s like the whackest thing.

gURL: You dropped out of college as a freshman. Do you have any regrets?
Dev: I’ve been very fortunate to be a part of huge songs and play massive shows and meet amazing artists. But I do miss school. I do.  I was really good in school and I really enjoyed it, and I think it’s very important for kids to have education and to learn.  I do miss it and hopefully I’ll be able to go back one day and just for my own sort of thing. But no, I guess I can’t really say I regret anything.

gURL: We love that attitude. Okay, so let’s talk music. Your very first album, The Night the Sun Came Up, is coming out on November 1. What can we expect?
Dev: You can expect a lot of personal stories, even on the uptempo tracks. I tried to keep this album useful and as a reflection on my journey to becoming a musician. Hopefully a lot of people will see there’s more to me. The world thinks they know me because they’ve heard a song, but they really don’t. This is my chance to introduce myself.

gURL: You’ve collaborated with some pretty big names like Timbaland, Demi Lovato, David Guetta and even Far East Movement. Who else would you love to collaborate with?
Dev: I would love to collaborate with Karen O from the Yeah Yeah Yeahs. I think that, as a female, she just stands for a lot and is pretty badass and I think that we could make a really powerful song together. I would love that.

Watch Dev’s “In the Dark” video now…

Editor’s Note: After this interview went live, we got word that Dev’s album has now been pushed back to January 10, 2012.

WDYT, gURLs? Do you like Dev? Think she’s too young to be pregnant? Would you love to see a collaboration with her and Karen O? Tell us your thoughts below.

Farrah got real with us!

The stars of MTV’s Teen Mom  sat down with gURL to chat about the new season, having sex as a teen, and how their now-toddlers are testing the boundaries. Some people say raising a child is easy? They say think again.

Watch the video below:

The new season of Teen Mom airs Tuesdays at 10 on MTV! What do you think? Are you gURLs excited about the new season of Teen Mom? Can you relate to their stories? Discuss!

All eyes on Bristol... again.

When Bristol Plain shared the story of the first time she had sex, it definitely sounded pretty traumatic. She says she was drunk and that she didn’t remember  her and then-boyfriend Levi Johnston doing the deed. Since the definition of rape is having sex with someone who doesn’t consent, people started to question if the gURL was actually raped.

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To clear the air, Bristol told Good Morning America, “[Stolen] is what it felt like. I’m not accusing Levi of date rape or rape at all but I am just looking back with my adult eyes that I have now, and just thinking ‘that was a foolish decision.’ I should have never been underage drinking, and I should have never gotten myself into a situation like that.”

What do you think? Is Bristol’s wording sketchy? Would you use the term “date rape” for her experience? Is it anyone’s business? Watch the video below and tell us in the comments.

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Amber's gonna be okay!

After her attempted suicide, we can’t say we’re very surprised to hear that Teen Mom star Amber Portwood is going to rehab. But we are really relieved to hear that the reality star is getting herself help and not ignoring her problems.

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Teen.com reports that Amber has commented on the situation saying, “I am going to rehab for anger control issues and depression. I’m on medication at the moment and to just help me relax. I’m in a vulnerable state right now and I know people want a lot of answers.”

Amber appeared to attempt suicide a few weeks ago when two cops found her unconscious in her house with a rope loosely tied around her neck. She’s been in a stable condition since then, and hopefully rehab will be the best thing for her. We hope she gets better and comes out stronger (a la Demi Lovato), for herself and baby Leah.

Got any words of support for Amber and gURLs in her position? Have you been there? Talk about it below.

more ways to get gURLy:

• Pearls of wisdom, survey q’s, polls, quotes to live by — it’s all on gURL.com’s Twitter. Follow us!
• Luv gURL? Then ‘Like’ us, too! Let’s be friends on Facebook and you’ll get first looks at stories!
• Can’t get enough of gURL.com? We don’t blame you. Sign up for our weekly newsletter!
• Let’s talk. Shout Out advice, music, politics, poetry, your style and MORE!
• Your hook on hooking up: gURL’s sex, health & relationships blog.
• Need some advice, quick? Ask Heather anything; she answers three q’s, daily!
• Bored? Take new quizzes and play gURL games