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Looking for a new honey this holiday? Well, according to the findings of a new four-part study, playing hard to get seems to be a strategy that works if you’re in the market for a relationship.

The study looked at college students, and found that male students looking to enter a relationship were more into girls that put up a hard-to-get front. The female students looking for relationships were like Goldilocks – they wanted a guy who played hard to get; not too much, not too little, but a “jusssstttt right” amount.

When it came for a casual hook-up though, a hard-to-get gal was not what the guys were going for, whereas women were more interested in casually hooking up with a guy who was more of a challenge to get. Eesh, relationships are a confusing game.

One experiment in the study tackled the “why” these college students played hard to get, finding that they were trying to make themselves more desirable to the object of their affection (always want what you can’t have, right?) and to get a sense of their suitor’s commitment to them.

So what about the “how?” A different experiment in the study found that common hard-to-get strategies among the group of students surveyed included “acting confident” and “talking to others.” Overall though, women were more likely to play hard to get, and according to the survey, the ladies did things like “not call” and “not talk a lot” more than the gents. Anyone guilty of these?

Now, just because this study found evidence that playing hard to get could work in your favor if you’re looking to lock down a guy, I thought up a couple things that I think may be considered taking “hard to get” just a litttttle too far:

1. Changing every single one of your contacts – cell phones, emails, profiles, etc. – so the person can’t get in touch with you at all.

2.Legally changing your name so he REALLY has to work to track you down.

3. Physically hiding in completely secluded places. You know, like a game of hide and seek, but he is entirely unaware that he is the seeker.

4. Taking a vow of silence. Even if he asks you a question, just stare blankly back.

5. Transferring schools. Or moving across the country… or to another country!

Whether you want to play hard to get or not, just make sure that when it comes to relationships, you’re doing what feels right for you. Different things feel right to different people, so going with what is best for you is most important!

What do you think about playing hard to get? Has playing hard to get worked for you before? How do you feel when the person you are interested in seems to be playing hard to get? Tell us in the comments!

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How annoying is it when a guy doesn’t want to use a condom? It’s not even just annoying, it’s actually a really douchebag move. But maybe there’s a reason he doesn’t want to protect his junk: it could be because it just doesn’t fit him.

I know that might sound super lame, but apparently it’s true. A new study out of Hunter College has discovered that the bigger the penis, the more likely a dude is not going to want to wear a condom. It sort of makes sense… if the condom doesn’t fit and is too tight, obviously he’s not going to want to put it on. Do I enjoy putting on tights that are too small? No (that’s the only comparable thing I can think of?), I don’t. So what’s the most obvious solution? Buy condoms that fit.

This study proves that a condom that’s too small is not only annoying, it’s also potentially dangerous. The lead author of the study, Dr. Christian Grov says that a “standard one-size-fits-all condoms might be inadvertently encouraging men to engage in unprotected sex if they’re frustrated with ill-fitting prophylactics.”

Wait, so why don’t they just buy Magnums? What I’m getting from this study is that bigger condoms are more difficult to find – less than 40 percent of the dudes surveyed said it was “easy” to find condoms that fit them. And also, as our buddies over at Global Grind have previously pointed out, Trojan Magnums aren’t necessarily larger than the average condom.

Even still, I find this “condoms are too small for me” argument a lame one. There are larger sized condoms out there dudes (look at this Google search for them!), and if you feel like a regular one simply isn’t big enough for you, than go out and buy a bigger one! I don’t have a penis so I can’t say for sure, but it doesn’t sound that difficult to me. Maybe these larger condoms aren’t as readily available to you as a “normal” sized condom is, but they’re still available. Order them online! Go out of our way to buy one! Or don’t, and have unsafe, unprotected sex… if you can find a chick who will let you.

Moral of the story? Not using a condom is not okay. If your man is complaining about the fit of his condoms, then help him find one that fits more comfortably. There are tons of different condoms out there and a complaint about how they fit just isn’t an acceptable excuse not to wear one.

Have you ever heard a guy complain about the way condoms fit? What would you say if a guy told you he refused to wear a condom? Tell us in the comments.

Do friends with benefits have safer sex?

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First off, drink tons of water. If you get dehydrated, your lips will almost definitely get chapped. If they’re already chapped, use a dry wash cloth and gently rub it across your lips, back and forth, to remove some of the dry skin. When you’re done, put a thick balm, like Aquaphor, over your lips. Let that soak in completely before putting on your lipstick.

For the most kissable lips, avoid sticky lip glosses and drying long-wearing lipsticks. Try a cream lipstick instead that has moisturizers in it. Heck, for kissable and delicious lips, try wearing a little strawberry lip balm. Yum!

Who’s the most kissable person you can think of? Tell us in the comments!

What’s So Special About A French Kiss?

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Well once I got kissed I realized that wasn’t actually the case for me. I couldn’t shake all those movie kisses and I started to wonder if maybe I was just the worst at kissing ever. However, as I continued to watch more movies and TV, I began to realize that there’s a whole bunch of people in the entertainment world who I definitely think are worse at kissing than me. I mean, let me present some of the gnarly mouth and tongue action that’s going on.

Mary Katherine Gallagher in Superstar

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I once recreated this moment to be funny (yeah, I don’t know) and the kiss was not pleasant my friends.
 
 
 
Britta Perry and Jeff Winger in Community

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Mmmmmmm. The fact that this happened mid-class only adds to the awfulness.
 
 
 
Pauly D and Deena on Jersey Shore

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Yikes. I think that’s a kiss?
 
 
 
Charlotte and Brad on Sex And The City

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There’s a reason why his IMDB credit is “Brad the Bad Kisser.”
 
 
 
Liz Lemon and Jack Donaghy in 30 Rock

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Extended closed mouth kiss + partial eye roll + grimacing face = a kiss I think we all can do much better than.
 
 
 
Johnny Depp in Cry Baby

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Okay, so I haven’t seen this movie but based on this GIF kiss selection, I’m really not feeling the tongue stylings of the usually very appealing Mr. Depp.
 
 
 
Harry Potter in the Harry Potter movies

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Ginny all into it. Harry… just kinda standing there. I do cut him some slack though for having other things on his mind at this moment like saving the wizarding world.
 
 
 
Ron Swanson on Parks & Recreation

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Okay now, so I’m not saying he needs to kiss a dog like he would a fellow human, but who has such a grumpy face when an adorable puppy is giving you kisses??? That’s bad kissing etiquette in my book (and my dog told me she agrees).

In all seriousness, the important thing to remember is that kissing can be fun and if you and your kissing buddy are enjoying it, don’t stress yourself out! If you are planning to replicate any of the kisses above, just make sure the person on the receiving end of this kiss is cool with it – an unexpected tongue bath on their face may not exactly be their idea of a good time.

Have you ever been part of a really bad kiss? What is the worst kiss you’ve ever seen in a movie? Have you ever been grossed out by someone’s kissing in real life? Tell us in the comments!

So What’s So Special About A French Kiss?

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The French kiss is basically just an open-mouthed kiss where either your tongue or the other persons tongue touches the other person’s lips or goes inside their mouth. Having just written out that definition, I have to say, a French kiss sounds pretty gross when you talk about it–but it can be great when you’re doing it (kind of like eating peanut butter straight out of the jar with a plastic spoon, you know?).

The main tricks to French kissing I think are that you shouldn’t be too forceful, you shouldn’t go too fast, and if you notice the other person doesn’t seem into it? Stop!

And . . . if you’re wondering if the French kiss is called a French kiss in France? It’s not. It’s just called “embrasser avec la langue” or literally “kiss with tongue.” I prefer our version, personally. It makes me think of croissants and mysterious men in berets. Oui, oui!

Have you ever had a French kiss? Ever had a BAD French kiss? Tell us about it in the comments!

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What do guys really think about a girl’s body? When you strip down for some serious hooking up, what is going on in your guy’s head? Are you and your guy even focused on the same parts of your body? We’ve been wondering these questions for a while, so we sent Kate and Mari to the infamous red couch to get us some answers about what dudes really think about the female body. And as usual, these two didn’t disappoint. Lots of info on what dudes really think of your body when you hit play!

Were you surprised by his answer? Do you care what guys think about your body? Tell us in the comments!

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I got paid to do this all day!

“I’m only doing this if I’m the one doing the kissing,” I said firmly. “No models smooching and me narrating.”

Now, this is a classic example of me opening my big mouth without really thinking things through. In my little pea brain I was like “Hey, I like kissing! And I like being on camera! How could this possibly be a bad idea?!”

A week or so later the producer emailed me a pic of my future kissing partner, Mike. A model/actor/comedian, he looked like James Franco (who I have, shall we say, experience with–but that’s a tale for another time!) and the HowCast people said Mike was hilarious and charming and that we would have great chemistry together.

Cut to the morning of filming. I had 40 different kissing topics lined up to cover via 2-3 minute videos. I had a gorgeous set. I had a very competent crew. I even had a sick blow out and great wardrobe. And you know what else I had? A panic attack.

It’s not exactly commonplace to meet a guy (even one as foxy as Mike), shake hands then sit down and French on camera for 10 hours. It’s weird. It makes you feel like a porn star. And if you’re me, it makes you have a nervous breakdown.

Post panic attack, it all worked out.

My head was swimming with all the ways this could be a disaster.

“Um, are you OK?” said poor Mike, noticing me hyperventilate and twitch as I tried to put on my lip gloss. He, meanwhile, seemed cool as a cucumber.

“I’m freaking out,” I hissed as the set lights clicked on. Without a word, Mike took my hand and lead me into the wardrobe room.

“I get it,” he said, wrapping his arms around my waist. “We can’t kiss for the first time in front of everyone.”

Suddenly his hand was on my cheek and his lips on mine and like reverse CPR, he seemed to inhale all the panic right out of me. But he wasn’t  a good kisser–he was a fantastic kisser. Like, maybe the best ever. After our private kiss, my white-knuckled terror melted away and we had a BLAST filming the videos. It’s weird how our chemistry ignited; by the end of the day, we were holding hands and making out between takes! I began to understand how and why so many celebs end up dating their costars!

I could go on but really, isn’t a how-to video worth 1,000 words? It kinda freaks me out to watch the videos, but y’all should def check out a few more of them–all 32 kissin’ vids here!

Here’s my fave from the shoot:

Would you guys ever sign up for something like this? How nervous are you before a first kiss? Totally grossed out by PDA? Let me know in the comments.

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If you’ve ever had a mediocre (or worse) hook up, you’re probably wondering how to have better sex next time. Sometimes you just need to kick that particular partner to the curb, but not always: There’s a couple sex secret that can not only improve your sex life, but also your relationship. Want to know how to have better sex and be closer with your partner? The trick involves your lips and oral skills.

We’re not talking about oral sex. We’re talking about talking.

Research says that talking about sex is how to have better sex. And it makes perfect sense.

A study reported that people who were comfortable talking about sex in general are more likely to talk about sex during the act, which can lead to a happier hook up. Think about it: If you’re nervous to talk about sex in normal conversation, you may be a little hesitant to tell a guy what feels good in bed (“Yes that! No, a little to the left!”) while you’re actually in bed.

Fair enough, but you’re probably like, “Uh, how exactly did they find all this junk out?” Turns out the research was less invasive than you’d think. No one was lurking in anyone’s bedroom closets or anything. The researchers rounded up a little more than 200 people from colleges and online sites and gave them surveys. (It didn’t say whether they’re anonymous, but we’re guessing they are). Volunteers were asked to rate how much they agreed with statements like “I feel nervous when I think about talking with my partner about the sexual aspects of our relationship,” and “I feel anxious when I think about telling my partner what I dislike during sex.” Losing those jitters are the key to better sex!

According the new research, the more nervous you are to talk about sex, the less likely you are to have a high quality hook up. “Even if you just have a little bit of anxiety about the communication, that affects whether you’re communicating or not, but it also directly affected their satisfaction,” one researcher said. She explained further that nervousness when talking about sex while doing the deed “might be kind of taking them out of the moment and therefore reducing the overall satisfaction they experience during their encounters.”

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An idea that’s just as good, if not better? Only have sex with people you’re comfortable talking about sex with. Because if you feel awkward talking about sex with someone, the sex isn’t going to be that great. When you’re with a partner you trust and can let your guard down with, you’re more likely to have better sex, because you’ll be able to actually enjoy it and improve it instead of worrying that you may offend or freak them out when you say what you want.

Remember, guys aren’t mind readers–if they were, none of this would be an issue! Your mouth is good for a lot of things that make your partner happy during a hook up. Using it to speak up will lead to better sex for you!

Do you think talking about sex is how to have better sex? Are you nervous to talk about sex with your partner? How do you communicate about sex? Tell us in the comments!

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