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It started with her eating less and pushing food around on her plate at lunch. Then she started skipping lunch altogether, telling our group that she had to study or needed to catch up on her homework. Something just wasn’t right.

She began looking a little thinner, but nothing to be concerned about. People would ask if she lost weight, which would make her entire day. But to her friends, it was concerning.

Suddenly, she was skipping class or stopped coming to school altogether. When she did show up, she was wearing huge sweatshirts and jackets even when it was hot out. She wouldn’t return phone calls and would lash out when I asked what was going on with her. I knew I had to do something about it.

I went to my school’s guidance counselor to ask what I should do. I explained that my friend had been skipping lunch and was looking less than healthy. The counselor told me that unfortunately, the only thing I could do was to just be there for her. She said if I was really that concerned, then I should talk to her parents but that I should be prepared that my friend probably would blame me.

It turned out that another friend had already tried that. And her parents, unfortunately, were in complete denial about the whole thing. They ended up confronting her, but she freaked out. When she found out that we had brought it to their attention, she abandoned us as her friends even though we were trying to help.

A few weeks later, my friend ended up being taken to the hospital because her body was rejecting food. She was sent to rehab for pretty much the remainder of the school year. As hard as it was to see what happened to her, we were all so glad that she was getting the help she needed.

She made it through and now she’s back to her healthy self. Our friendship, however, didn’t quite make it. Every time I’ve seen her since then, we’re cordial and nice to each other. But we’re not friends anymore. It hurts because as her friends, we wanted to help her. I wish that our friendship had survived, but I’m so glad that she’s healthy and thriving. She seems really happy, and that’s honestly all I can ask for.

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Anyway, I’m kicking myself for not getting his number because I would have gotten the ball rolling by now. It’s complete torture waiting for your crush to text you. I keep checking my phone every five seconds to see if I have a text. I even turned it off and back on because I thought there might be something wrong with my signal because I’m being that girl.

I’m fully aware that I need to chill out. Really, if we hit it off as well as I thought we did (I have friends who can vouch for that too!) then he will text me. Right? Right.

So here are 6 things you should NOT do when you’re waiting for your crush to text you.

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Don't Compulsively "Like" Everything He Does

Seriously, take your finger off the like button. Don't double tap that Instagram pic. Avoid RTing every funny thing he tweets. Just be normal, and don't abuse social media.

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Don't Shut Yourself Off

Just because you have it bad for your crush doesn't mean someone else isn't interested! While you're waiting around for your crush to get it together, don't shut yourself off to other people!

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Don't Harass His Friends

Don't start bothering his friends to give you info about if your crush likes you or not. Have normal interactions!

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Don't Try To Run Into Him

If you run into him naturally, great! But don't try to run into him on purpose, especially in places where you wouldn't normally be.

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Stop Checking The Phone

You will drive yourself crazy, like me. Put the phone down and go do stuff. If he texts you, it'll still be there when you get back.

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Don't Stalk Him

Do yourself a favor and stop looking at his Facebook profile. Stop re-watching his Vines over and over. Just relax and try not to cyber-stalk so much.

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If there’s one thing girls can always bond about, it’s an embarrassing hookup story. Trust us: we all have them. So don’t be shy! Read this OMG reader hook-up confession, and then send your own to confession@gurl.com

Okay, so a few months ago, I started hanging out with this guy. We were hooking up for a while and then we kind of just stopped out of nowhere. Things were never serious between us, we just hung out once in a while. A few months later, I started actually dating this other guy. One night, I brought him to a party. I didn’t know that my old hookup buddy would be there, but he was and what did I find out? My new BF and my old hookup are COUSINS. Awkwardly funny, right? Well, it gets weirder.

A few months later, my BF and I broke up. I then became best friends with his sister because she was so cool. We got really close and started hanging out all the time. It was sort of awkward to be friends with my ex’s sister, but whatever. One night, we went to a party together and at the end of the night, we ended up hooking up! So I’ve hooked up with my ex, his sister and his cousin. Nothing like keeping it in the family! 

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What can you do with these nicknames? Um, I don’t know. Start using them, maybe? Or just keep them in the back of your mind for the next time you feel like giggling. Check out these awesomely crazy names for oral sex:

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Bikini Burger

Okay, I get the burger part, but... where does the 'bikini' part come from?

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Kneel At The Altar

Ummm... how did this nickname happen? Is a vagina equivalent to an altar? Are they worshipping it? Okay, I can handle that.

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Have A Box Lunch

Get it? Because box is another name for vagina. And you eat it. Get it?

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Red Wings

This slang phrase refers to when a dude gives a girl oral sex when she has her period. He earns his red wings!

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Cherry Flip

You might say "pop your cheery" in reference to losing your virginity, but for oral sex, you would say "cherry flip." Who knew cherries could have so many meanings?

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Chickenhead

Okay, this doesn't refer to cunnilingus - it refers to giving a guy oral sex. Think about how a chicken moves it's head. Get it now?

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Digging For Clams

Honestly, I hate when people call a vagina a clam. For some reason, it grosses me out. But if you're into it, here's this nickname!

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Egg McMuff

What a dirty little play on the oh-so-popular Egg McMuffin. You'll never look at this breakfast sandwich the same way again.

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Have A Furburger

Am I the only one who thinks of a moldy burger when they hear this phrase? I can't be, right?

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Gorilla In The Washing Machine

Okay, this one just sounds horribly violent. Stop that!

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Eating From The Honey Pot

Aw. Whoever made this one up must be trying to say that a vagina is pretty sweet to eat.

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Eat A Peach

And the food references continue. Do you think I could write a list of slang words for oral sex and NOT include at least one peach one?

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Ready Brek

I couldn't even think of a picture to use with this because I don't understand what this means. But according to Urban Dictionary, it means the way a vagina tastes. Okay...

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Playing In The Sandbox

Um, ouch. This one sounds painful.

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Cunning Linguist

Cunnilingus. Cunning Linguist. GET IT?!

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Which of these slang words or phrases is your favorite? Do you use any of these? Which is the weirdest? What slang words or phrases am I missing? Tell me in the comments!

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jasmiine23 said:

“I met this guy last March. We went out on a few dates and then had sex within a couple weeks of meeting. (I wasn’t looking for anything because I had just ended w someone). About 2 weeks later, I went home for summer break but we kept in contact.

When I got back, we still had sex but the dates stopped. I started to want more, but I never directly said it. I dropped hints saying things like, “lets go out some time.” Etc. He said ok, but we never did. We’d have sex & he’d leave right after he showered. One night he fell asleep & I woke up in the mid of the night & I guess maybe he thought I was gonna ask him to leave so he rushed out. I wasn’t though. I basically think he might be either a jerk or scared of rejection. I get the most mixed signals.

We were getting anywhere so I tried to end the friendship completely. But he kept contacting me so that failed. Then a few months ago I got into a relationship & I called it off. He texted me 3 weeks ago & I told him I just didn’t want to be friends anymore. But last night, he called me (which was a major shock to me. He only used to text me & that bothered me) & said he missed me, etc. It’s crazy because I’m single now & I was thinking about him the entire week before he called.”

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So, what is it really like to lose your virginity? You probably shouldn’t expect a lovey-dovey, ooey-gooey romantic scene from a movie – instead, it might go something like this. Here’s what it’s like to have sex for the first time, as explained in GIFs:

You finally decide that you’re ready to “do it.” 

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You tell your boyfriend and he’s all: 

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You two try to figure out where you guys can do it without getting caught or in trouble. 

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Finally, you plan the perfect night to do it. 

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You start to get nervous… what is sex really like? Is it going to hurt?

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You look it up on the Internet. OH GOD NO. It seems terrifying. 

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So you ask a more experienced friend for help. 

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Nothing calms your nerves. Why is losing your virginity SUCH a big deal? 

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The night is here. You and your boyfriend try to act like it’s no big deal, but secretly, you’re both a little anxious. 

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Condoms are hard!

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You guys start hooking up and things feel a little… awkward. 

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Okay, ouch! Seriously, OW! Is it always like this?! 

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What goes where? How does this work? What… what is happening?!

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You can’t help wondering what you look like in this position. 

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Thankfully, things improve as it goes on. 

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Afterwards, you’re both a little speechless. You finally lost your virginity! 

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But… it wasn’t, like, movie romantic. It was just… nice. A little awkward, but nice. 

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You don’t even feel that different. Is there something wrong with you?

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NOPE. Congrats! Cuddle time! 

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And I saw a penis.

A guy sexted me a picture of his penis. Like he looked down and thought, “She would really like this,” took a picture and hit the send button.

Well, I did not. It’s not that I don’t like penises. I’m not scared of them, and they don’t offend me. I just don’t want pictures of them on reserve in my phone! I don’t want to open a text to be confronted with that!

Now, I’m not against sending steamy texts and talking dirty. That’s all gravy. You text what you want. But you have to be sure the person you’re talking to is down for that. A guy has never sent me a picture of his junk before. Never. Not even boyfriends. I really didn’t know what to do.

I deleted the picture immediately and responded with “Um, I’m not really into that.” And left it alone. I think I may have deflated his ego a bit, but I don’t care. It’s not like we were sexting and it escalated into pictures. No. I was completely unsuspecting.

Everyone likes different things. I am just one of those people who does not like getting pictures of penises. It doesn’t do anything for me, and I’d prefer to not have nude pictures hanging out (pun intended) in my phone.

I could tell he was trying to steer the conversation back to normal, but I don’t think I’ll be talking to him anymore. I mean, what are you supposed to do in that situation?

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Surprisingly I’m not a loser.

You know that movie Never Been Kissed? It’s the one where Drew Berrymore is a journalist who has never been in a relationship and is assigned to go undercover as a high school student to report on the lives of teens living that tough late ’90s suburbia life.

Well, aside from all of that undercover junk, I’ve realized that the older I get, the more I start to relate to Drew’s character…but a little less thirsty.

So I’m going to tell it to you straight: I’m 22-years old and I’ve never been kissed. I’ve never slept with anyone. I’ve never been on a date.

And as much as I would love to have experienced all of those things, let me let you in on a little secret: It’s not the end of the world. Seriously. It’s not.

If you feel like you’re some big ol’ loser because you’ve never been kissed, or never performed oral sex in a school bathroom stall, or haven’t reached any of those touching romantic milestones yet, know this: Milestones are stupid and there is always time. Your love life isn’t a race and you’re probably awesome.

Your sexual prowess (or lack thereof) has no bearing on how desirable you are. This is something that I’ve had to learn. It wasn’t until college that I was asked out by a few guys…all of whom I turned down. It wasn’t until college that I had mutual romantic interests, but time, place and that fickle little thing called life got in the way. Things happen, moments are lost and sometimes neither things nor moments are going on and you can feel pretty dejected. Believe me, I’ve been there. I know how it feels to feel left out when your friends share their crazy hookup experiences right in front of you. I know how it feels to wonder why everyone manages to hookup or date while you’re left in the dust, even when you put yourself out there. It can really suck. It just doesn’t make sense, right?

You’re right, it doesn’t make sense. Life doesn’t make sense, and love is particularly senseless.

Yeah, it’s a little funny (ok, weird) that there are a ton of 15-year-old girls out there who are more sexually experienced than I am–and more power to them for experiencing all the awesome things that romance has to offer. But it’s really okay not to have experienced those things yet. You’re really not as alone as you think you are, honestly.

I’m very aware of the possibility that I come across as a massive loser confessing all of this, but I honestly don’t care. Sure, I’d like for my current status to change, but I’m really not agonizing over it; and any of you who are in the same situation shouldn’t worry about it either!

Of course I have moments when I feel like I’m going to be forever alone, and I’m admittedly self-conscious about how a future boyfriend or hookup would react to this information, but those moments are pretty rare and fleeting. I know that something is going to come along, so what’s the point of feeling sorry for myself? I’m funny, I’m smart and I have an awesome sense of style. I have amazing friends and I’m a pretty happy person.

Look, I may not have been kissed yet, but my awesomeness isn’t determined by whether or not I’ve pulled tongue with some dude when I was in 9th grade. And neither is yours.

And if you’ve never been kissed and don’t feel at all comforted by my words of wisdom, at least you know that somewhere out there there is a chick who managed to graduate college without getting laid. There’s still hope for you.

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Yesterday it was reported that 15-year-old Paris Jackson, daughter of Michael Jackson, was hospitalized for attempting to commit suicide. It’s so sad and horrible to see such a young girl going through something so tough. I think this kind of situation always brings up questions such as: how do you deal when a friend or a boyfriend/girlfriend is suicidal? Imagine if your significant other felt the way Paris does – what would you do?

Well, I know what I would do, because I already went through this. A few years ago, I dated a guy who was suicidal. It was scary, very upsetting and really confusing. I know I’m not the only one who has gone through something like this, so I wanted to share my story with you guys so you can see that, if this happens to you, you’re not alone.

I dated my ex, let’s call him C, for almost five years and the entire time we knew each other, he was suicidal and very depressed. I knew this about him before we started dating, yet I went into the relationship anyway thinking that I could help him get better. I was wrong.

Things didn’t start out badly. It wasn’t until our first big fight that I really saw how many problems C had. He did something that really hurt my feelings and we were having a huge argument over the phone late at night. It was just a regular bad fight until I threatened to break up with him - that’s when C lost it. His voice changed completely and became very emotionless and monotone. He said something like, “Go ahead, break up with me. It’s just another reason for me to kill myself.”

Obviously, I freaked out and started panicking. I was 15-years-old and my first love was telling me all about how much he wanted to his end his life. He told me he was in the bathroom with a razor blade and he could end things right then and there. I was terrified and crying hysterically. I promised him I wouldn’t break up with him, but it didn’t seem to matter – he just kept going on about how miserable he was. Finally, I woke my mom up to talk to him and calm him down because I was so scared that he was going to do something. It was a horrible experience.

The next morning, C acted like nothing had happened, even though I was still shaken. When I brought it up, he brushed it off like it was no big deal. He seemed fine, so I let it go. Maybe he was just upset from the fight? Except I was wrong. That sort of thing started happening more and more, until it was to the point where I couldn’t say anything to C without him threatening to kill himself. While some may call this a manipulation tactic, I know that C genuinely had depression issues he needed to work out – so while I was aware that he was manipulating and controlling me by making me feel guilty, I also felt like I couldn’t take the chance of not taking him seriously. Imagine if he went through with it? I would never be able to forgive myself.

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After a few years of this, I had fully committed myself to keeping C happy at all times. Except it didn’t work. These suicidal episodes got worse and worse. A few times, I caught him with cuts on his arms. Twice, I called his house in a panic to tell his mom I was worried about him (only twice because she didn’t listen to me). I begged him to go to therapy, but he refused. It didn’t matter what happened, whether he did something wrong or I did – he always turned a fight around to make me end up feeling sorry for him.

Of course, all of this took a toll on me. I went from a happy-go-lucky teenager to someone who was constantly stressed out and scared. I was also miserable because C brought me down. It’s hard to be happy when you’re constantly with someone who is severely depressed and it’s impossible to live your own life when it becomes centered around keeping one person happy. I didn’t do things for myself – I did things to keep C from thinking about suicide.

When I was finally able to pull myself away from our relationship, things got worse. C started seriously cutting himself, overdosing on prescription pills and using other illegal substances to not only numb his pain, but also to get my attention. But I had finally come to the point where I realized that I needed to start focusing on myself. I had finally realized that my life could not revolve around making C happy because C had to make himself happy. It sounds selfish, but I had to turn my back on C. I loved him and cared about him so much, but he was controlling every aspect of my life.

It wasn’t for years afterwards that I realized that if C had killed himself, it wouldn’t have been my fault. He had (has) serious depression issues and I, as a teenager trying to figure out my own emotions, was not equipped to handle them. I think that’s the most important thing I learned from this entire situation: it’s not your fault. If your boyfriend or girlfriend is this depressed and wants to commit suicide, it’s not your fault. You can’t handle it on your own. You need to get outside help for this person, or they need to get it themselves. I tried to take on C’s issues on my own and felt like I had failed when I couldn’t make him happy. I see other girls go through the same thing and I just want to hug them and tell them they need to take a step back.

So, what do you do if your boyfriend or girlfriend is suicidal? Get them help if you can. Be there for them if they need to talk. Show them that you love and care about them. But don’t make it your own personal mission to help them get better. In cases like these, serious help is needed. When C would tell me he was suicidal and I would cry and beg him not to do it, it didn’t make things better – in fact, I think it made things worse. Just remember: you can help up until a certain point and then it’s up to them.

Have you ever dealt with a suicidal boyfriend or girlfriend or friend? What did you do? Have you ever been in my situation? Tell me in the comments.

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