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It started with her eating less and pushing food around on her plate at lunch. Then she started skipping lunch altogether, telling our group that she had to study or needed to catch up on her homework. Something just wasn’t right.

She began looking a little thinner, but nothing to be concerned about. People would ask if she lost weight, which would make her entire day. But to her friends, it was concerning.

Suddenly, she was skipping class or stopped coming to school altogether. When she did show up, she was wearing huge sweatshirts and jackets even when it was hot out. She wouldn’t return phone calls and would lash out when I asked what was going on with her. I knew I had to do something about it.

I went to my school’s guidance counselor to ask what I should do. I explained that my friend had been skipping lunch and was looking less than healthy. The counselor told me that unfortunately, the only thing I could do was to just be there for her. She said if I was really that concerned, then I should talk to her parents but that I should be prepared that my friend probably would blame me.

It turned out that another friend had already tried that. And her parents, unfortunately, were in complete denial about the whole thing. They ended up confronting her, but she freaked out. When she found out that we had brought it to their attention, she abandoned us as her friends even though we were trying to help.

A few weeks later, my friend ended up being taken to the hospital because her body was rejecting food. She was sent to rehab for pretty much the remainder of the school year. As hard as it was to see what happened to her, we were all so glad that she was getting the help she needed.

She made it through and now she’s back to her healthy self. Our friendship, however, didn’t quite make it. Every time I’ve seen her since then, we’re cordial and nice to each other. But we’re not friends anymore. It hurts because as her friends, we wanted to help her. I wish that our friendship had survived, but I’m so glad that she’s healthy and thriving. She seems really happy, and that’s honestly all I can ask for.

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Anyway, I’m kicking myself for not getting his number because I would have gotten the ball rolling by now. It’s complete torture waiting for your crush to text you. I keep checking my phone every five seconds to see if I have a text. I even turned it off and back on because I thought there might be something wrong with my signal because I’m being that girl.

I’m fully aware that I need to chill out. Really, if we hit it off as well as I thought we did (I have friends who can vouch for that too!) then he will text me. Right? Right.

So here are 6 things you should NOT do when you’re waiting for your crush to text you.

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Don't Compulsively "Like" Everything He Does

Seriously, take your finger off the like button. Don't double tap that Instagram pic. Avoid RTing every funny thing he tweets. Just be normal, and don't abuse social media.

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Don't Shut Yourself Off

Just because you have it bad for your crush doesn't mean someone else isn't interested! While you're waiting around for your crush to get it together, don't shut yourself off to other people!

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Don't Harass His Friends

Don't start bothering his friends to give you info about if your crush likes you or not. Have normal interactions!

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Don't Try To Run Into Him

If you run into him naturally, great! But don't try to run into him on purpose, especially in places where you wouldn't normally be.

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Stop Checking The Phone

You will drive yourself crazy, like me. Put the phone down and go do stuff. If he texts you, it'll still be there when you get back.

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Don't Stalk Him

Do yourself a favor and stop looking at his Facebook profile. Stop re-watching his Vines over and over. Just relax and try not to cyber-stalk so much.

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If there’s one thing girls can always bond about, it’s an embarrassing hookup story. Trust us: we all have them. So don’t be shy! Read this OMG reader hook-up confession, and then send your own to confession@gurl.com

Okay, so a few months ago, I started hanging out with this guy. We were hooking up for a while and then we kind of just stopped out of nowhere. Things were never serious between us, we just hung out once in a while. A few months later, I started actually dating this other guy. One night, I brought him to a party. I didn’t know that my old hookup buddy would be there, but he was and what did I find out? My new BF and my old hookup are COUSINS. Awkwardly funny, right? Well, it gets weirder.

A few months later, my BF and I broke up. I then became best friends with his sister because she was so cool. We got really close and started hanging out all the time. It was sort of awkward to be friends with my ex’s sister, but whatever. One night, we went to a party together and at the end of the night, we ended up hooking up! So I’ve hooked up with my ex, his sister and his cousin. Nothing like keeping it in the family! 

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Ugh, I know the feeling and I know how much it stinks. Getting over someone is hard enough as it is – but getting over someone you have to see and interact with all the time is even more difficult. It’s also a confusing feeling because you never really had a relationship with this person, so you don’t really know how you’re supposed to feel.

The best way to get over a crush, or anyone really, is to stop thinking about the person. This is way, wayyyy easier said than done. To do this, cut off contact as much as possible. This doesn’t mean you need to completely ignore him if he tries to talk to you (although you can do that if you want), but don’t go out of your way to talk to him. In fact, go out of your way not to talk to him. Do you sit near him in class? Try to move your seat, if possible. Are you friends with him on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram? I strongly suggest deleting him or, at the very least, blocking him. You’re never going to get over someone if you continue to see their regular updates via social media.

Using the buddy system to get over someone can help as well. Let your best friend know that you’re ready to get over this dude and she shouldn’t let you talk about him or try to talk to him. She can stop you whenever you bring up his name, she can say encouraging things to make you feel better and she can convince you not to approach him if you want to. Plus, you can lean on her when you’re feeling sad.

Another way to get over a crush? Start crushing on someone else! Be open to meeting new people and getting to know other guys – you probably didn’t notice them when you were busy crushing on this person, but their out there, I promise. Or, on the flip side, just focus on yourself for a while. Put all of your energy and time into doing something that will make you happy, like a hobby or a sport. Focusing on yourself not only makes you better, but it also makes you happier and before you know it, you’ll forget about that loser who doesn’t like you back.

I’ll be honest with you, though: it’s probably not going to take just a week or two to get over this crush. It can take a long time to stop liking someone and that’s okay. You shouldn’t feel pathetic about that! As corny as this phrase sounds, time really does heal all wounds. If you stick with these tips and avoid your crush as much as possible, you’ll go to bed one day realizing you didn’t even think about him once during the day – and it will feel great.

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What can you do with these nicknames? Um, I don’t know. Start using them, maybe? Or just keep them in the back of your mind for the next time you feel like giggling. Check out these awesomely crazy names for oral sex:

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Bikini Burger

Okay, I get the burger part, but... where does the 'bikini' part come from?

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Kneel At The Altar

Ummm... how did this nickname happen? Is a vagina equivalent to an altar? Are they worshipping it? Okay, I can handle that.

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Have A Box Lunch

Get it? Because box is another name for vagina. And you eat it. Get it?

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Red Wings

This slang phrase refers to when a dude gives a girl oral sex when she has her period. He earns his red wings!

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Cherry Flip

You might say "pop your cheery" in reference to losing your virginity, but for oral sex, you would say "cherry flip." Who knew cherries could have so many meanings?

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Chickenhead

Okay, this doesn't refer to cunnilingus - it refers to giving a guy oral sex. Think about how a chicken moves it's head. Get it now?

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Digging For Clams

Honestly, I hate when people call a vagina a clam. For some reason, it grosses me out. But if you're into it, here's this nickname!

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Egg McMuff

What a dirty little play on the oh-so-popular Egg McMuffin. You'll never look at this breakfast sandwich the same way again.

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Have A Furburger

Am I the only one who thinks of a moldy burger when they hear this phrase? I can't be, right?

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Gorilla In The Washing Machine

Okay, this one just sounds horribly violent. Stop that!

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Eating From The Honey Pot

Aw. Whoever made this one up must be trying to say that a vagina is pretty sweet to eat.

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Eat A Peach

And the food references continue. Do you think I could write a list of slang words for oral sex and NOT include at least one peach one?

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Ready Brek

I couldn't even think of a picture to use with this because I don't understand what this means. But according to Urban Dictionary, it means the way a vagina tastes. Okay...

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Playing In The Sandbox

Um, ouch. This one sounds painful.

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Cunning Linguist

Cunnilingus. Cunning Linguist. GET IT?!

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Which of these slang words or phrases is your favorite? Do you use any of these? Which is the weirdest? What slang words or phrases am I missing? Tell me in the comments!

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jasmiine23 said:

“I met this guy last March. We went out on a few dates and then had sex within a couple weeks of meeting. (I wasn’t looking for anything because I had just ended w someone). About 2 weeks later, I went home for summer break but we kept in contact.

When I got back, we still had sex but the dates stopped. I started to want more, but I never directly said it. I dropped hints saying things like, “lets go out some time.” Etc. He said ok, but we never did. We’d have sex & he’d leave right after he showered. One night he fell asleep & I woke up in the mid of the night & I guess maybe he thought I was gonna ask him to leave so he rushed out. I wasn’t though. I basically think he might be either a jerk or scared of rejection. I get the most mixed signals.

We were getting anywhere so I tried to end the friendship completely. But he kept contacting me so that failed. Then a few months ago I got into a relationship & I called it off. He texted me 3 weeks ago & I told him I just didn’t want to be friends anymore. But last night, he called me (which was a major shock to me. He only used to text me & that bothered me) & said he missed me, etc. It’s crazy because I’m single now & I was thinking about him the entire week before he called.”

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When we have a crush on someone, it can be hard to see them for who they really are, especially if that person is a player. Players are sweet-talkers. They’re a little manipulative and they know how to get a girl to fall hard. They also usually know how to lie like a pro. Dating one kind of, well, sucks. So before you start to fall too hard for this dude, figure out whether or not he’s a player. Luckily, you have this handy guide to help you. Check out these 10 signs that he’s a player:

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Your Relationship Is All About Hooking Up

This is probably the biggest sign there is that a dude is a player. If he's all about hooking up, that could definitely mean that he's just using you for sex or a steamy makeout sesh. If he never asks you out on a date, test him. The next time he asks if you want to hang out, say, "how about we go see a movie/grab something to eat?" If his response is something like, "I'd rather just hang with you at my place :)" or there's no response at all, that shows that he just wants to hook up. If a dude really likes you, he'll want to get to know you and he'll want to impress you - meaning he'll want to take you out and show off.

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He's ALWAYS Busy

Sure, there are some guys out there who work a lot or have a lot of school stuff going on and they genuinely don't have much free time. But in general, if a guy really likes you, he will make time for you or at least make a serious effort to make time for you. If a dude is all like, "Oh, I'm busy all weekend, how about Tuesday night?" every single week and you know he's not that busy, get rid of him, fast.

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He Only Texts You At Night

Another telltale sign of a player? He's only interested in hanging out at night or at weird times and only for a little while. That's because he either only wants to hook up or he is trying to juggle a few different girls on a tight schedule. Also, if he ONLY hangs with you on Thursdays, that could mean that you're just his Thursday girl... which is lame.

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Girls Are All Over His Facebook

Time for a little bit of Facebook stalking! Check out who this dude is friends with. Does he have over 1500 friends who are all attractive females? Warning! Does he have 85 likes on his latest profile picture? Warning! Are girls falling all over themselves commenting about how cute he is or trying to one-up each other with inside jokes? Yup, you guessed it - warning! If a dude's Facebook is all about other chicks, there's a good chance you're not the only one doing stuff with him.

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He Never Talks About Himself Or Cares About Your Feelings

When a guy likes you, he wants to get to know you and he also wants you to get to know him. He'll tell you stuff about his life and his past and maybe even open up to you - and he'll ask you questions as well. If he's not doing that and your conversation is limited to what happened at school that day or you two just watch TV without really talking much, that probably means it's because he doesn't really care.

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His Phone Is Always Blowing Up

This is similar to the Facebook thing, but this time, no stalking. Don't look at his phone - rude. Instead, pay attention to how often it goes off when you guys are together. If he's talking to other girls, it's not like they're going to avoid texting him when he's with you - because they don't know to do that, most likely. If he's constantly getting texts he keeps private or phone calls he ignores, it could be a sign that those are other ladies calling him.

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He's A Big Sweet-Talker

Players become players for a reason - they're smooth, they know how to flirt and they know how to get a girl to fall for him. Therefore, they're usually big sweet talkers. You know what I'm talking about: they know all the right things to say at all the right times and their compliments make your whole body blush. Don't fall for it, girl! If he's a sweet-talker but nothing else, that's a bad sign.

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Other Girls Have Warned You

Have any other girls warned you about him being a player? It's easy to brush off those warnings as mere jealousy or manipulative tactics to try to keep you away from a guy you like, but usually, you should pay attention. If a girl you generally get along with says something like, "watch out for that guy," there's probably a reason. Maybe he played her or her friend or someone she knows. She's probably trying to look out for you and you should probably listen to her. Of course, look into her claims, but don't ignore them completely.

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You've Never Met His Friends

If a dude is into you, he'll be excited to introduce you to his friends and show you off. If he's a player, he obviously doesn't need his friends getting attached to you or anything like that. And he doesn't need to risk bringing you around only to have them say something they shouldn't. If you haven't met them yet, ask if you can. If he avoids it like the plague, you'll know something is up.

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You Don't Trust Him

In the end, go with your gut. You know this guy, not me. If something inside of you is telling you not to trust him, there's probably a good reason why. Listen to yourself!

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Good news: it’s totally, totally fine to masturbate while you’re on your period. If you’re comfortable with it, it’s not gross and as long as you’re clean about things, it’s not unhealthy.

In fact, masturbating during your period is probably a big benefit to you. When you have your period, all of these crazy hormonal things are happening to your body and these hormones can make you even more in the mood, if you catch my drift. So, you probably feel extra, um, cravings to masturbate during this time anyway. Masturbation can also help relieve painful cramps from your period. And if you have mood swings, pleasuring yourself has been proven to make you feel happy and to help get rid of stress (read more about what masturbation does here). I see nothing but good things here!

I mean, yes, a masturbation session during your period may end up being more messy than masturbating when you’re not on your period. There’s blood down there so that makes sense, right? I would suggest laying down a few old towels before you get busy and, of course, washing your hands when you’re done. If you don’t feel like cleaning anything up, you can also try sitting on the toilet so things are more manageable.

As for how to do it, try stimulating your clitoris rather than doing anything vaginally. If you masturbate by stimulating your clitoris, you can keep a tampon in, which will help with the mess. If you don’t want to stick your fingers in there, you can try using sex toys, but make sure you don’t already have a tampon in your vagina – in fact, if you plan on putting anything inside of your vagina, make sure there is no tampon in there at all.

So, yes, masturbating while on your period is perfectly fine and totally normal. Don’t let anyone make you feel weird about doing it (you don’t even have to tell anyone!). This is your body and there’s nothing wrong with exploring it, even if things get a little messy. After all, this is just your blood we’re talking about here. No big deal!

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Heather

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So, what is it really like to lose your virginity? You probably shouldn’t expect a lovey-dovey, ooey-gooey romantic scene from a movie – instead, it might go something like this. Here’s what it’s like to have sex for the first time, as explained in GIFs:

You finally decide that you’re ready to “do it.” 

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You tell your boyfriend and he’s all: 

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You two try to figure out where you guys can do it without getting caught or in trouble. 

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Finally, you plan the perfect night to do it. 

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You start to get nervous… what is sex really like? Is it going to hurt?

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You look it up on the Internet. OH GOD NO. It seems terrifying. 

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So you ask a more experienced friend for help. 

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Nothing calms your nerves. Why is losing your virginity SUCH a big deal? 

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The night is here. You and your boyfriend try to act like it’s no big deal, but secretly, you’re both a little anxious. 

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Condoms are hard!

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You guys start hooking up and things feel a little… awkward. 

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Okay, ouch! Seriously, OW! Is it always like this?! 

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What goes where? How does this work? What… what is happening?!

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You can’t help wondering what you look like in this position. 

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Thankfully, things improve as it goes on. 

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Afterwards, you’re both a little speechless. You finally lost your virginity! 

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But… it wasn’t, like, movie romantic. It was just… nice. A little awkward, but nice. 

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You don’t even feel that different. Is there something wrong with you?

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NOPE. Congrats! Cuddle time! 

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