There’s something thrilling about being in a new relationship. Everything is fresh and exciting while you’re getting to know an awesome person. The novelty of it all will eventually wear off, but that does not mean your relationship will turn dull. There are special things that come with being in a long-term relationship.
When you’re in a long-term relationship, you’ve invested time, energy, and love into building something great. What you and bae share is certainly unique, but there are some common things that most people in long-term relationships will be able to relate to.
Have a gander at 15 things that happen when you’re in a long-term relationship.
1. You no longer feel like you *need* to impress bae.
You’ve got bae and you feel fairly secure he/she isn’t going anywhere. That means you no longer feel that you have to wear a cute dress, heels, and wash your hair before seeing bae. You’re cool to show up in sweats and rocking three-day hair. You know bae will love you just the same. (You knew in the back of your mind before bae wouldn’t care whether you were in a dress or sweats, but you have more confidence in the fact now.)
2. You can talk about everything and anything.
Remember when the idea of talking about poop, periods, and things in people’s teeth would have you dying inside? Not anymore. There’s literally no topic that’s too weird, too gross, or too random to talk to bae about. By now, you’ve probably talked about everything at least once.
3. You will know what your SO is going to say before he/she says it.
You might not have considered yourself much of a mind reader before, but you will feel that you can read bae’s mind. And your SO will likely be able to read yours to. You will still ask the question even though you’re 99 percent what the response will be. Sometimes, you just ask the question to prove you’re right.
4. You and bae will have your own language.
When people are with you and your partner, they might be scratching their heads because they will have no clue what you and bae are saying. You’re not the only couple who develops their own codes, slang, and names. It seems like most couples do it without realizing it. They only realize what they’ve done when friends and family give them blank looks.
5. You can have a sex routine down pat.
You know bae’s body and bae knows yours. You can have sex on autopilot without thinking. It’s like a choreographed dance at this point, and it’s not necessarily a bad thing. When you’re tried but still turned on, you can bust out the tried-and-true routine. Of course, you will still find plenty of opportunities to *switch things up*.
6. You say “we” when talking about yourself.
Yep, you’ve become that person who automatically says “we” and “our.” I guarantee you don’t even realize you’re doing it. Try to pay attention when someone is asking you personal questions. I bet you’ll say “we” even if bae isn’t with you. Hey, it happens.
7. Bae’s “cute” quirks might not seem as cute.
Remember when you thought bae’s little habits were so adorable? What do you think about them now? I bet there was an eye roll there. The more time we spend with someone, the more we might start to realize that different things were originally thought were endearing are actually quite annoying. It shows we see all sides of a person rather than some idealized version. Acknowledging bae isn’t 100 percent perfect is okay. It shows the realistic side of a long-term relationship.
8. You will go through changes.
Relationships evolve and so do people. You will evolve with your relationship. Sometimes, you might wonder whether you’re changing the way you’re supposed to be with your relationship or whether you’re going in a different direction. Sometimes, you will panic and other times you will feel confident in the way things are going. That’s life.
9. You will know the meaning behind bae’s every blink, shoulder shrug, and finger tap.
Not only will you be able to read your SO’s thoughts, you will be able to read bae’s body language. It’s a very useful skill because it can sometimes be more telling than listening to what’s coming out of bae’s mouth. You will know angry bae from stressed bae from sad bae just by the way the mouth is set and the shoulders are dipped.
10. You will be able to tell some of bae’s stories better than bae.
You’ve heard the stories so many times that you could write a book with them all. In fact, sometimes you’re the one recounting bae’s stories. If you’re not leading the discussion, you’re interjecting with really funny details your SO left out. And your SO does the same for you.
11. You have private jokes that have become epic things.
What started out as a small private joke has ballooned into something you can’t even explain. What makes it special is that you and bae still find it funny at the 5,223rd time as you did the first. No one else will have a clue what you’re talking about, but you won’t care. It’s the joke between you two and it’s hilarious.
12. You will still be delightfully surprised when you discover something new about bae.
Even though you might think you know all there is to know about bae, you will still discover new things about him/her. The beauty of the situation is you will get the same giddiness you experienced when you were first getting to know bae. It won’t get old.
13. Silences will no longer seem awkward.
Think back to those first date silences — if you can even remember them. Don’t they seem quaint now? You and bae are comfortable enough with each other that you don’t need to fill every silence with words. You can be content in mutual silence and not doing anything. For some, it’s bliss.
14. You will stress whether you can survive beyond the honeymoon phase.
Going from the honeymoon phase into a steady long-term relationship can be difficult. Many people stress that they’re going to break up with their partners during it. There’s concern about losing interest on all sides and whether you have what it takes to make it for the long haul. You’re not alone. It’s part of relationship development.
15. Most of your stories will involve bae.
…And you will bring up your SO at almost every opportunity. It’s only a matter of time before you become one of those girls who always talks about her significant other. I know that you don’t mean to be one, but it’s natural. You love your SO, you’re proud of him/her, and you spend the majority of time with him/her so of course most of your stories are going to involve bae.
How has your relationship changed over time? Let us know in the comments!
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