The beginning of a new relationship is thrilling. There are the usual butterflies and worries about whether your new bae feels the same way about you, but it’s part of the excitement of a fresh beginning. When we’re in a new relationship, we cannot help but think this is the start of something great. After all, why would we have gotten into the situation if we didn’t see major potential? Alas, there are times when we might be optimistic in a relationship, but we fail to see that it’s actually not the best thing for us.
Sometimes we’re so overcome with the fresh, new feelings that we overlook or don’t actually realize that are some red flags in the situation. Occasionally, we can get so caught up with a new bae’s good qualities that we ignore the bad ones. Other times, we’re so enthralled with the idea of a relationship that we fail to consider whether the new person is actually a good match for us. Here are six signs that your new boyfriend or girlfriend might not actually be right for you.
You Feel Like You Cannot Be Your True SelfIf you're in a new relationship, it's understandable that you want to show your best side. You might not want bae to know about your little quirks and habits quite yet. With time you should open up and feel comfortable letting it all hang out. Think about what's going on. If you feel like you have to mask parts of your personality or you have to be a different person when you're around bae, it's an issue. You should ask yourself why you feel you cannot be yourself around your new SO. Image source: Instagram/_bahariko_
You Don't Feel That SparkA romantic relationship needs to have a spark. You might be trying to kid yourself in thinking that you just haven't had enough time for it to develop yet. Consider whether there's any sizzle there. Perhaps it's there, but it might be faint. That may or may not be enough to sustain your relationship. If there's nothing, it's likely that bae is better off as a friend. Image source: Instagram/christianmarigo
You Feel Overwhelmed At The Idea Of Making Things OfficialWhen you and bae talk about taking your relationship to the next level, do you get overwhelmed at the idea? Do you almost feel trapped? If so, you need to take an honest look at your relationship. It might not be that you're afraid of commitment. The reality could be that deep down you know that you and bae aren't right for each other. Image source: Instagram/veresanik
You're The One Putting In All Of The WorkWho is the one who makes plans and texts the other person? If it's always you, you need to consider what the deal is. Even is bae isn't a big communicator, he/she is an equal in this relationship. If you're the one putting in all the time and effort and he/she isn't, it might indicate that your SO doesn't feel as strongly about this relationship as you do. Image source: Instagram/__alyon_ka__
You Get Defensive About Why You Should Be TogetherWhen you talk about your relationship with your significant other, friends, or family, do you sometimes get on the defensive about why you and bae should be together? Be honest here. You should really ask yourself why you feel the need to defend your relationship. It could be that deep down you know that it's not the perfect match. Image source: Instagram/sammie291
There's Humor Missing From Your RelationshipMaybe you have plenty of fire in your relationship, but what about humor? You might think that humor isn't that important as long as you have a hot connection, but it is. Humor is the thing that can help you to bond and get through tough times. If your relationship doesn't have it, you and bae might find yourselves fighting more because you can't brush things off or joke. Image source: Instagram/kaymomo_
What signs do you look for to let you know someone is a good match for you? Let us know in the comments!
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