Here’s Why Your Crushes Keep Rejecting You

Everybody has to deal with rejection at some point. Unfortunately, it’s one of those things that we all have to experience in life, just like puberty and discovering your fave TV show didn’t tape despite you setting it up to record. Argh. I will spare you the TV rant for today and focus on rejection.

Rejecting someone is the lesser of two evils, but there will still be times when you are the one getting rejected by your crushes. And there will likely be times where it seems like the only thing that’s happening to you is getting rejected. The first thing I want you to do is pick yourself up — as difficult as it may be — and keep going.

If you’re up to analyzing the situation, it could actually be helpful. You might notice a pattern that you’re doing with all of your crushes that you never realized before. Or, maybe it’s the way that you’re speaking to them that’s not clear so you end up getting rejected. If you’re unsure of where you’re going wrong, here are some reasons why you crushes keep rejecting you.

Your Crushes Aren't Into You

Let's get what is probably the worst option out of the way at the beginning. There is a possibility that your crushes just don't have feelings for you which is obviously why they're rejecting you. I know that the heart wants what the heart wants, but try to see if there are any common factors between your crushes that could be the reason for the constant rejection. For example, do you tend to crush on people who just came out of relationships? Do you go after bad boys or party people?

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You Aren't Making Your Feelings Clear

Sometimes, people just don't get hints. In some casses, you have to bluntly spell it out. Instead of saying something like, "What do you think would happen if the two of us ever got together?" be bold and say something like, "I like you and was wondering if you wanted to go on a date on Friday?" I know that it's super scary, but at least it makes your feeling very clear. No matter your crush's response, it will be very clear what his/her feelings are, too.

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Your Crushes Don't Know The Type Of Relationship You Want

Have you revealed your feelings to someone, and then...nothing? Consider why that was. Did you give your love confession then basically leave the ball in your crush's court? They could actually be confused AF about what you want. Maybe your crushes have feelings for you, but they don't know whether you want a serious relationship, a fling, or a friends with benefits thing. And if you don't make any further moves, they might decide not to pursue it either since they doesn't know what direction you're going.

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You Crushes Are Mistaking Your Hints To Be For Someone Else

Oh, man. This is classic Kindergarten crush confusion that happens to everyone. Your crush might think that all of your carefully thought out hints are for one of your friends. If you have continually dropped clues and then you reveal it's actually you that has the crush, it can majorly throw someone off. Your crush might be wondering what the heck happened and think this is a complicated love triangle and want no part of it. Of course, most of this thought process goes on in people's heads so we miss it. That's why it's essential that you make it clear the feelings are yours.

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They Don't See You As The Right Type

This one can be tough because it makes you take a good, hard look at yourself. The reason your crushes keep rejecting you could be because of some trait that they don't think would work well in a relationship. Maybe you're a nag, too much of a party girl, you're too loud, too quiet, too flaky. Who knows?! If you keep crushing on the same type of person, they could all feel the way about a certain trait hence the brush offs.

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You're Coming Off As Creepy

You know how I was talking about how there could be something about you that your crushes find a bit off-putting? This is definitely one thing. I know you're not actually a creepy person, but maybe your actions are coming off as creepy. Sometimes, being nice and attentive could be misinterpreted wrong. Try to take a step back and see if it helps. Also, avoid bringing up some random thing your crush did eight Tuesdays ago that he/she didn't realize. That's the sort of stuff that usually spooks people.

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How do you deal with being rejected? Let us know in the comments!

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