The new year is all about new exciting hopes and dreams. So, I’m probably going to sound like a big Debbie Downer here, but I’m going to say it anyways because it could be exactly what you need to hear. As we know, with the good stuff, there is often bad stuff. I hope that a lot of amazing things happen to you in 2018. But, there might be some not-so-great stuff happening, and that could involve your relationship.
If you’re here, you might have seen some cracks in your relationship starting to form over the holidays. The Christmas season is a stressful time that can test even the best relationships. It’s also the thing that can finish a floundering relationship. If you made it through the gift-giving and the family gatherings and you’re wondering if you could survive anything else with your SO, start clicking to see seven signs that your relationship probably isn’t going to last in 2018.
You Are Second Guessing Your DecisionsDo you find yourself analyzing your previous decisions in your relationship? Obviously, if you're questioning whether you should have gotten into a relationship with your SO, that is a big red flag. There are also some subtler clues like thinking about whether it was wise for you to trust bae with something, whether you're seeing each other too much, whether you should have agreed to be exclusive, or whether you really meant it when you said *I love you.* Image source: Getty
You Don't Fully Trust Your SOBe honest with yourself here: How much do you really trust bae? Are you cool if he/she doesn't text you back right away? Or, are you a bit panicky when you don't hear from bae for a few days? You don't necessarily have to trust bae with your email passwords and bank details, but you should be able to put some faith in him/her. If you don't feel comfortable about it, you should ask yourself why. If you've been going out for a while, something could be going on that you have been avoiding acknowledging. Image source: Getty
Bae Seems More DistantIt's not only your emotions you need to consider. You also need to consider bae's feelings. Do you feel a connection with bae or do you sometimes feel like your SO isn't present? If you're feeling like something is off, but you cannot put your finger on it, something could be up. Speaking to bae about it could correct it, but it could also lead to some heavy stuff, and possibly a breakup. Image source: Getty
You're Not Sure Where This Relationship Is GoingHave you and bae talked about your hopes, dreams, and goals? It doesn't need to be anything major like buy a house, get married, and have kids, obvs. But, are you on the same page with things for the next few months, or even a year? If you're just going with the flow, that can work for the first bit. However, you don't want to wait until you're too invested in something to realize that you have different ideas about what's happening. Image source: Getty
You Find Yourself Missing Your Independence MoreDo you find yourself thinking about your single days? And do you feel a bit envious about your friends who are flying solo? If you find yourself thinking back to the times when you were on your own, you could make decisions for yourself, and you liked doing your own thing, you should ask yourself why you're feeling that way. It's natural to sometimes daydream about being in an alternate universe, but it's different if you find yourself constantly feeling this way. Could things be going on in your relationship that you don't want to acknowledge so you're looking for an alternative? Image source: Getty
You Are Trying To Rekindle The SparkDo you think back to when you and bae first got together and get a bit sad? Was it super-hot and/or you felt yourself daydreaming all the time? Now, do you feel that you've lost a bit of that *magic?* Every relationship has a honeymoon phase and it eventually ends. The make-it-or-break-it factor will be whether you're able to move beyond it. Are you still intrigued with getting to know bae on different levels? Or, do you miss those lusty days from the beginning and want them back? If it's more of the second one, you might find yourself struggling to keep the relationship afloat. Image source: Getty
It's All About The PhysicalWhen you're with bae, what do you normally do? Is most of your time together spent hooking up? What about the emotional side of things? If your relationship with bae is pretty much a friends with benefits thing, you have to realize that this will probably not go long-term. There will probably reach a point where someone will want more, or someone will want a change in the situation, and the other person won't be down. Image source: Getty
What were the other signs that you and your ex were headed for a breakup? Let us know in the comments!
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