It’s the holidays, which means that people are *supposed* to be feeling merry. However, the stress of the Christmas season can sometimes have the opposite effect. Instead of feeling jolly and bright, you could be feeling anxious or even lonely. Or, maybe you were feeling a bit isolated before and seeing all of these supposedly happy people walking around the mall in ugly Christmas sweaters has enhanced your feelings.
First of all, I’m sorry that you’re feeling that way. I also want you to know that you’re not alone. It might not seem like it now, but almost all of us have, or will experience similar, feelings. What’s more, there are some things that you can do to hopefully combat the feelings.
I also want you to know that if you try some of them and you’re still feeling down, or your feelings worsen, and you start feeling depressed, there are lots of people out there who can help. Speaking up enables you to get help—and there’s nothing wrong with anyone for getting help and being proactive.
On that note, have a look at seven things to do if you’re feeling lonely RN.
Know That It's Okay To Not Feel Okay SometimesWe are humans and we have a lot of complex emotions. No one is going to feel happy every single day of the year. It just doesn't work that way. Everyone will go through darker periods. If you're feeling down and lonely, know that it's alright. What's more, you also don't have to pretend to be happy. When people ask how you're feeling, be honest. Faking being positive is exhausting. Plus, people can help if they know you're down. Just be aware that if you're feeling down for a while, you might want to consider talking to someone to get more help. Image source: Getty
Try Connecting To People In The Real WorldOnline connections are great, but face-to-face connections can have the most impact. Often in today's tech times, we can lose sight about how important that real life connection is. We often are so busy that we sometimes forget about it. That's why it's important to carve out some time where you can meet up with people. Try to arrange a group dinner, movie night, or even go on a jog with someone. Image source: Getty
Join A Club Or Organized ActivityAre you feeling lonely because you feel like you don't have a connection with people? Try joining a club or activity. You'll be surrounded by people who likely have the same interests as you which can help form a connection. Since the coordinators organize everything, there's less pressure than if you were trying to do it yourself. Image source: Getty
Try VolunteeringVolunteering has many benefits. Not only do you get to help others, you end up helping yourself. First, you'll hopefully be able to brighten someone's day with your work. Secondly, you'll be surrounded by people who are all working together for the same thing. That can make you feel a real connection, even if you're with strangers. Image source: Getty
Spend Time With AnimalsAnimals can bring joy as much as human interaction. If you have a pet, make a conscious decision to spend time with it. When you're cuddling next to your furry or slithery pal, it can help boost your mood. If you don't have pets, you could hang out with someone who does, visit a shelter, or even take a trip to the zoo. Don't underestimate a cat video when you're stuck and want some cute critters in your life ASAP. Image source: Getty
Be Conscious About Your Social Media ChoicesOne of the negative things about social media is that it makes it seem like everyone is living these *perfect* lives. Even if we know it's not accurate, it makes those of us who are feeling lonely feel even more left out. I know that when I'm sitting at home and I see everyone's happy vacation posts on Insta, it can affect me. That's why it can be helpful to analyze your social media habits and decide whether they're making you happy or whether they're contributing to your feelings of loneliness. Social media can be a great way to connect to people, but if the so-called perfection is making you feel down, a social media hiatus could actually help. Image source: Getty
Talk to SomeoneIf you're feeling lonely, talking to someone can help. Often, it doesn't even matter who it's with. Any sort of connection from a relative to a friend to even a stranger can make a world of difference. If you've been feeling lonely for a length of time, talking to a professional about your feelings can also help. They might be able to pinpoint the root of the loneliness and help you better work through it. Image source: Getty
What do you do when you’re feeling down? Let us know in the comments!
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