10 Good New Year’s Resolutions You Should Actually Make If You’re Single

As soon as we’re done buying our Christmas presents, our thoughts turn to the new year. That usually involves making New Year’s Eve plans, figuring out how to buy a NYE outfit when you’re broke, and thinking up New Year’s resolutions you’ll actually follow. You might be groaning at the thought of making resolutions, but New Year’s resolutions can actually help you have an amazing year, especially if you’re single.

There are some New Year’s resolutions you definitely do not want to make if you’re single, but there are some that can help you be happier and less stressed in the new year. Don’t roll your eyes at me. I know you might not fully believe me yet, but hopefully you will see that having the right attitude can totally change how you’re feeling. Rather than being so focused on #relationshipgoals resolutions, focus on embracing your single status right now and owning it. Have a look at 10 good New Year’s resolutions you should actually make if you’re single.


Focus On Your Other Relationships

Sometimes, we're so focused on our single status that we can lose sight of the amazing relationships we already have. Having a resolution to pay more attention to friends and family will benefit everyone. You'll realize that you already have some stellar people in your life and you'll strengthen those relationships by spending more time with them. And they'll probably be stoked to spend more time with you.

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Stop Focusing On Your Ex

It's time to be honest with yourself: Is part of the reason that you're hating your single status is because you still have feelings for your ex? Are you still hoping that you'll get back together? Girl, this thought process is doing you no favors. I know that it's hard and it will take time, but you will be much better if you stop focusing on your ex as much. A lot of the other relationships on the list can help with that.

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Stop Comparing Yourself To Your Friends

We are humans which means that we're basically pre-programmed to compare ourselves to others. If we recognize it, we can hopefully stop doing it. Comparing yourself to your friends in relationships isn't helping anyone. They're their own people, just like you are. Everyone has different stories. Plus, what you see on the outside might be very different from what's actually going on. So, if you find yourself looking enviously at your friends with SO's, make a conscious choice to try and stop it.

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Try Something New

Whether you're single or in a relationship, it's a good idea to have resolutions that aren't related to love. After all, there are other aspects to our lives. One great resolution everyone should have is to try something new. It's a good one for single ladies to make because it focuses the attention on something else and could help you find a new passion. It could be trying a new hobby, overcoming a fear, traveling, or doing something completely random just cuz.

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To Have Fun

This should actually be one of everyone's New Year's resolutions. It's so simple, but it's a great one. *Fun* can be interpreted in any number of ways to suit you. I don't want you to limit it to dating and relationships. I mean have fun, in general. Look for opportunities to do things you enjoy, celebrate hanging out with friends and family, make more Netflix and chill days. You see what I mean.

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To Stop Caring What Your Relationship Status Is

I know that it's easier said than done. But, if you're stressing about being single, having a resolution like *find a bae* is only going to make you feel more pressure. When you stop caring whether you're single, taken, it's complicated, or whatever, you can hopefully enjoy the moment. Remember, you're fabulous whether you're flying solo or attached.

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Have More Girls Nights

...or girls brunches, shopping trips, chilling sessions. The point of this resolution is to make a conscious choice to spend more time with the lovely ladies in your life. You might be stressing about being single because you don't see enough of your friends so this resolution can help with that. Furthermore, when you're surrounded by people who you love, you'll appreciate what you have and be happier.

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Do Not Settle

I get that if you're single and you don't want to be, it can be tempting to jump into something if there's the slightest opportunity. As hard as it may be, I would like everyone to try and not settle for any old relationship. Why? It will probably just create more problems. Relationships take a lot of investment, so why have one with someone who you feel meh about? Hold out for someone who treats you like the queen that you are.

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Delete Those Dating Apps If They Make You Feel Like Crap

If you've been single for most of 2017, and you've spent a lot of your time flicking through dating apps, have they made you feel better or worse? If the answer is worse, make it a resolution to go off those apps. It could be permanently or you could just try a hiatus. The idea is to try it long enough for you to realize whether the apps makes your life better or worse. If you're not ready to say goodbye to Tinder and Bumble, at least make a New Year's resolution to stop talking to weirdos, jerks, or anyone else who doesn't recognize that you're flipping amazing.

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Build Up Your Confidence

You've probably heard that old line about how you need to love yourself before you love someone else. That is true in many ways. That's why it's important that you resolve to practice some more self-love in 2018. Focus on loving yourself no matter what your relationship status. When you feel good about who you are, it makes a world of difference in all of your decisions. Trust.

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What New Year’s resolutions are you making this year? Let us know in the comments!

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