8 Surprising Reasons Why Threesomes Are Overrated

Threesomes have taken on this status where they’re considered as magical as unicorns. They’re often the ~*ultimate*~ fantasy for dudes, but the fantasy is often a lot more exciting than actually hooking up with two people at once. In reality, threesomes can actually be overrated.

If you’re considering having a threesome, there are some cold hard truths that you will want to know before you do the deed.  What you (and your SO) are imagining could be the stuff of dreams and porn. That’s why it’s important to make sure you’re being realistic about what could go down. Furthermore, you will also want to consider all options — and that includes the chance that you might not enjoy it.

To help you get prepared for a potential threesome, here are eight reasons why threesomes are overrated. Even if you’re not planning on getting nasty with two other people in the near future, read on to find out the real deal about threesomes.


The Chances Of Getting Kicked Are Likely

It's cramped with two people on an extra-large bed. When you add in another person, it can seem like there are limbs coming out at every direction. People will try to be conscious about where their bodies are going, but that can be difficult to do when you get an unexpected cramp in your leg or pain in your neck. It's also less of a priority when you're in the middle of an orgasm.

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You'll Find The Whole Thing Exhausting

Even if you're pretty fit, you will probably be drained at the end of a threesome. Even a quickie threesome is tiring. It's not just the physical act that will tire you out. It's the planning, the arranging of limbs, and the worry about not rolling off the bed. You know that feeling you get after you write an exam? You might feel similar after a threesome — except your legs will be sorer.

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You Spend The Most Time Trying To Get Into Position

In truth, a lot of time in a threesome isn't the actually sexy stuff. It's trying to get into position so you can do the sexy stuff. With three bodies to configure, things can take time. And once you're in a position, you can find out that it might not work at all. There are also times where you can only hold a position for so long before your knees or arms will give out.

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You'll Be Confused For The Majority Of It

A lot of people have this idea that threesomes are going to be three times the hotness and three times the pleasure. In truth, the emotion that you could be feeling most of the time is confusion. Why? There are a lot of logistics about a threesome because there are lots of body parts to get into the right position. Plus, you will be constantly wondering whether you should join in, whether you should watch, or whether you should ask something.

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You Might Find Yourself Comparing

The bad thing about having an extra person in your threesome is that it inevitably leads to comparisons. Whether you're with girls, guys, or a combination of the two, it's natural for you to compare bodies and techniques. If you're with your SO and another person, you will also be comparing how bae responds to the other person versus you. And that can result in some complicated feelings.

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Just Organizing It Can Be A Challenge

Back up before getting into bed with people. You actually have to find the right people to have a threesome with. And that's tricky. The more people there are, the higher chances of someone spilling the juicy details. If it's you and bae looking for someone, you have to find someone who you're attracted to and who you trust. And if you're the one looking for a couple to join, you have to figure out how to approach the situation delicately.

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Feelings Can Be Complicated AF

Passion isn't the only thing that people experience during threesomes. If we're getting real here, people might not even experience passion in a threesome at all. We've already talked about confusion, but jealousy is another big emotion that you can experience. Sometimes, you can experience a combination all of those plus sadness, anger, pain, and even ecstasy. Heavy stuff, right?

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Someone Always Gets Left Out

Even if you have the best intentions for everyone to be included at all times, it isn't always possible. Sometimes things will just work out best for two people. Maybe that position is better for two people, maybe that extra pair of hands don't work, or maybe someone needs to come up for a breather. Then there are times where two people have such a connection that they completely forget about the third.

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Have you ever considered having a threesome? Let us know in the comments!

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