When it comes to masturbating, you probably like to think of it as a very private thing, and honestly, that’s exactly what it is. It’s 100 percent your business and nobody else’s. If you want to talk about your sexuality, you should! It’s a perfectly natural thing to express, and it can help normalize the idea that girls can actually be sexual too. But I’m going to tell you a little story: when I was younger, I had a friend who always talked about wanting to try masturbating, but she was too embarrassed and didn’t want her parents to find out, and was convinced they would. It sounds silly, but this is a very valid fear.
Of course, we were young and didn’t have any good advice, but if I could go back to my 13 year old friend group, I would say this: your parents probably already know or assume that you masturbate. GASP! I know. And it’s not a big deal at all. Let’s be honest, mostly everybody masturbates. If you don’t than that’s fine, but maybe you should consider doing it. But anyway, since everybody masturbates, it’s safe to assume that your parents know you do it. And…that might feel weird. But, odds are good even THEY do it too. I’m sorry! But it’s true.
At some point, your parents might want to have some sort of “being safe” sex talk, and the topic of masturbating might come up. And, you might want to die of embarrassment, but let me just tell you this, you don’t have to tell them anything you don’t want to. It’s really common to not want to tell people in your life things, including your parents. Even if they find out, they probably won’t care. If they do happen to find out and tell you to stop, you should tell them that masturbating is perfectly natural and safe.
The bottom line here is that your body is your body, and you don’t have to tell people anything you are uncomfortable with. If you are comfortable telling your parents, go for it! But you really don’t have to. You’re your own person, and your parents don’t control your body, you do. I know you might be scared that the will find out anyway, but you can probably assume that they already know. It happens! You’re going to be okay, I promise.