11 Things You Need To Know Before Giving Your First Blowjob

Okay, so you’ve decided that you’re ready to give someone a blowjob for the first time ever. Congrats! Cool! At this point, if you’re here, you’re probably a little freaked out, and to be honest, I don’t blame you! Giving oral sex to a dude can be intimidating, scary, and nerve-wracking. Someone’s genitals are about to be all up in your face and, uh, mouth (sorry to be crude). You’re getting up close and personal with an area that is often associated with grosser stuff (we don’t need to talk about it right now) and that might make you reconsider everything. But, if you feel comfortable and ready to go for it, you’ll be okay – as long as you read this first.

There are a few things you absolutely need to know before you give your first blowjob. You could just jump into this experience with no idea of what you’re doing, but you’re better off feeling a little more educated first. It will make you feel more confident and comfortable, and help things run more smoothly. You definitely don’t need to be an expert your first time – as they say, practice indeed makes perfect – but it’s nice to feel like you’re doing something right. Here are a few things you need to know before giving your first blowjob:


Decide Before Starting Whether You're Going To Spit Or Swallow, Let Him Know

As I am sure you probably already know, a good blowjob is going to result in the guy finishing. That's pretty much what you want, unless you're using it as foreplay. But, uh, what are you supposed to do with the stuff that comes out? Well, you have three options: you can let him do it in your mouth and spit it out, swallow it, or pull away right before he finishes so he can do that into a tissue or something. It's totally up to you, not him! But you should probably make the decision before you start. He might finish right away, and if he doesn't know what you want to do, he could end up doing the wrong thing, which might be, uh... not great. So, figure out what you're comfortable with and tell him how to end it so that you're both clear.

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Things Might Smell, And Yeah, The Hair Can Be Weird

The truth? His genital area might smell funky. I don't know! Some guys are super clean for the experience, others aren't. You can totally ask him to wash up right before it happens, though. Also, the hair down there might be kind of strange. Again, everyone is different - some dudes are super hairy, others aren't really. Some will shave, a lot won't. You kind of get used to the hair stuff - except if it gets in your mouth, which, unfortunately, can happen.

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Be Gentle With Your Teeth; But Don't Stress Over Braces

A lot of people freak out about what to do with your teeth, but it's really quite simple: don't bite, and try to just kind of... extend your lips so that your teeth aren't on it, if that makes sense (hard to explain!). It's like sucking an ice pop. Are you going to put your teeth on a cold ice pop? I hope not!

Also, don't freak about braces. Unless you're, like, purposely moving your mouth so your braces touch his junk, you're fine.

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It Might Not, Uh, Taste That Great

Have you decided to try swallowing? Cool. Just be warned: it doesn't always taste great. Every guy's junk tastes differently - it depends on their diet and lifestyle. Some girls don't mind the taste, others can't stand it. It's usually described as super salty and has a strange texture, and it's not for everyone.

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It's Actually A Lot Easier Than It Seems

Going down on a dude is so much easier than your nervous mind is making it out to be. You literally just need to put your mouth on the thing and move your mouth up and down! It's very basic, so don't put too much thought into it. I mean, there are other moves and positions you can try, but for your first time? Please don't worry about all of that. Once you're down there, you'll be surprised at how natural it starts to feel.

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Forget What You've Seen In Porn For Now

All of that being said, please stop thinking about anything you may have seen in porn or read in a magazine. Your first time (or first few times) giving a blowjob isn't the time to try out this stuff. Don't worry about trying to stare into his eyes. Don't like... lick it too much. Definitely don't feel like you need to gag yourself by trying to deep throat. Don't get crazy!

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But There Are Some Little Moves You Can Try

THAT said, there are a few little moves you can try if you really want to, and they're simple and easy enough to not freak out about. Like, instead of just going up and down, up and down, try changing the rhythm by going slow then fast. You can put your hand on the base and move that up and down along with your mouth. You can touch his balls a little if you want. You can bite very gently. Only do all of this if you feel comfortable!

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If He Tries Pushing Your Head Down, It's Totally Acceptable To Leave

Everyone knows that a guy who pushes your head down during a blowjob without your consent is a jerk. Sorry, it's true! If he puts his hand on your head and pushes it down, and you say, "don't do that," and he does it again, you have every right to get up and leave or scream at him. If you're into it, hey, that's totally fine! But please do not ever feel like you have to let him do it because it seems like you should.

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Jaw Pain Is Real!

Hey, sometimes a blowjob really can hurt your jaw! This is especially true if he's on the bigger side, and if it takes a while for him to finish. If it's really starting to bother you, take a break and use your hand down there for a little while... or just stop. The faster you go and the angle you're sitting at could also affect this.

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Keep Water Close By

Not to be weird, but when you're finished up with the blowjob, you might want some refreshing water... whether you swallowed or not. Keep it close by before you start so you can grab it when you're done.

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The Dude Is Going To Be Pretty Into It No Matter What

Honestly, guys really love blowjobs (most of them do, at least), and it's hard to totally mess one up. If it's your first time and his, he'll probably love it no matter what you do. Even if he's experienced with oral sex, he'll enjoy it as long as you don't hurt him.

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