7 Signs Your Relationship Is Moving Too Fast

We all want to end up in a happy fairytale relationship at some point, which is fine and normal. It’s just sometimes we can get carried away with the idea, and wind up moving too fast in our relationships. Just because your new boyfriend is the total opposite of your shitbag ex doesn’t mean that he’s The One™ for you – it just means he’s the opposite of your shitbag ex. Whenever you start a new relationship, you always need time to make sure the guy truly is someone you’re compatible with, which isn’t possible if you’re both rushing into things.

So how do you know if this relationship is moving too fast? Well, the fact that you clicked this article is an indication – if you’ve already got a hunch that the pedal is pushing ever-so closer towards the metal without any hint of hitting the brakes in sight, chances are good that yes, you’re both moving too fast. But if you’re confused or unsure, see if any of these seven signs have been happening between you and your new beau:


You Disagree On Dumb Stuff All The Time

Sure, you both have the same long-term goals, but at the same time you hate how he chews with his mouth open and find his personal hygiene habits repugnant; he hates that you can’t do simple math off the top of your head and thinks anyone who voted for Hillary in the last election is insane (aka, YOU.) You guys clearly aren’t compatible on any level other than the fact that you both want kids one day and want to settle down soon, and it’s clear to anyone with two eyes except the both of you. Is the big picture important? Of course – but you can’t live day-to-day without getting along on the petty stuff as well.

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Your Friends Are Freaking Out

Good friends are friends who call each other out on their bullshit, so when you told BFF Sally that you and Tom are in love and planning on getting engaged in the next month and her response was, “You’re kidding, right?” – yeah, it’s a bad idea. If your friends are the ones telling you that you should take things slower, don’t take it as an opportunity to label them “jealous” or “haters,” take it as a sign that 1. You have friends who care about you, and 2. You are indeed moving too fast, duh.

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You've Started Talking About Marriage

This is more geared towards the older ladies here (you can talk about marriage all you want when you’re dating in high school since the concept is hopefully so far-off that it doesn’t really impact anything), but if you’ve gone on three dates with a guy and you’re already discussing venues and ring styles then go ahead and pump your brakes. You both need time to get to know each other better and experience living together before you even THINK about getting hitched. You know how 50 percent of marriages in the United States fail? Yeah, you’re not going to be the exception if you let him get down on one knee three weeks in.

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You Trust Them For No Reason

Trust is something that has to be earned, and if you find yourself implicitly trusting this guy when he’s given you no reason to do so then it’s a pretty good sign you should slow things down. And if you’re thinking “Well he hasn’t given me a reason NOT to trust him,” look at it like this – if you trust him and he lets you down you’ll get hurt, but if you keep your guard up and make sure he’s worthy of your trust in the first place, the likelihood you’ll get hurt decreases dramatically. Don’t think of it as you not giving him a “chance,” think of it as making sure he’s worthy of your time before you go and sink hours on hours into him.

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You've Said 'I Love You' But You Still Don't Know A Lot About Him

Have you met his family? Do you know his middle name? What’s his favorite color? Alright alright, that last one isn’t that important, but if you’ve both said the infamous L-word and his mom has no idea you even exist, there’s a problem here. Generally speaking, if you’ve only been dating one to three months and already think you’re in love, you aren’t – it’s just the honeymoon phase. Granted, there are some exceptions…but for the life of me I can’t think of any, which means you probably don’t fall into that category yourself.

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You Had Just Gotten Out Of A Relationship When You Met This Person

Gurl take a break! You don’t NEED to always be dating someone; take some time to be single and work on yourself. If you find yourself jumping from relationship to relationship with barely a month in-between, you’re probably dating these guys for the wrong reasons, i.e. you don’t like being alone. Giving yourself some space between guys is a nice way of doing a system reset and figuring out what you really want from the other person. If the past few guys have all been basically the same dude with varying haircuts, maybe it’s time to step back and re-evaluate why you’re dating these people in the first place.

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You've Been Pressured Into Sex

You should only have sex with someone if you want to have sex with them, but if your partner is really pushing for it, then take it as a red flag. Sex comes at its own pace when the timing is right for you AND your guy, so if you find yourself trying to rush then chances are better than good that this isn’t the beginning of a healthy relationship. If this guy is truly the “one” then he won’t force you into anything you aren’t ready to do, and you won’t push yourself into pretending you aren’t uncomfortable just to make him happy.

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