Sex is supposed to be pleasurable. Scratch that. It’s supposed to be so mind-blowingly good that it would make your shoes fly off…if you were wearing shoes in bed, that is. Unfortunately, sex doesn’t always turn out that way. In fact, having sex that good can be once in a blue moon. Sometimes pain is actually more common than that amount of pleasure.
You might feel like you’re the only one dealing with pain during sex, but you’re not. And there’s nothing wrong with you if you experience pain down below even if you’re not a virgin. Pain can happen for various reasons. And it can range from a bit of uncomfortableness to being so bad that you have to stop what you’re doing.
You might want to visit your doctor to confirm that you don’t have any vaginal conditions that could be the cause, if the pain is severe. Whether it’s mild, moderate, or painful AF, you should also definitely look at your sex life. Chances are there isn’t something wrong down below, it’s what you’re doing. Whoops. To help make sex pleasurable again, have a look at seven tips on how to prevent pain during sex.
Don't Skip The ForeplayThere are a lot of reasons why foreplay is great. One of the big ones is that it helps you and bae loosen up in a lot of ways. Not only does it help you feel less nervous, it also, erm, helps you loosen up down there. If you go from one kiss to trying to put the P in the V, your vag probably won't be wet enough. This will make penetration harder and less-than-comfortable for you. Image source: Getty
Communicate, Communicate, CommunicateThe secret to good sex is all about communication. Bae might be super in tune with you, but he/she isn't a mind reader. And neither are you. Therefore, if you're experiencing pain during sex, you need to speak up. And you need to say something when it happens. Don't bite your lips and continue with it. You owe it to yourself to speak up. That way, bae can stop and adjust his/her technique accordingly. Image source: Getty
Talk To Bae About It BeforehandIt's important to open up to bae during sex if you feel pain, but it can also be helpful to talk to your SO about the discomfort down below beforehand. It's a lot easier to have a discussion about it when you're not turned on AF and you're trying to put the P in the V in the 10 minutes you have to yourselves. You can also encourage bae to reveal if there is anything he/she would like to see happen the next time you get it on. Image source: Getty
Use All Of The LubeDon't make the mistake of thinking that you don't need lube. While your vagina does plenty of natural lubricating, that sometimes isn't enough. Your vagina might not be operating at peak lube mode when you're nervous. And if you're stressing about pain, that will likely impact things down below. So, grab that bottle of lube and slather it on. It's better to have too much lube than not enough. Image source: Getty
Try Other PositionsDifferent positions have the peen entering the vag at different angles. When people experience pain, they can find a different position can make a world of difference. Avoid any of the *deep* positions for the time being to see if that helps with matters. Same goes for anything at different angles. Try classic missionary and see how that goes. Image source: Getty
Take It SlowSex is not a race. Yeah, I know you might be under time constraints, but that isn't helping matters. All of the back and forth could be what is leaving you tender down there. Slow things right down. First, focus on getting comfortable with bae just inside you. Once you're cool with that, you can try a bit of slow thrusting. Not only will it feel better, you'll also realize the benefits of a slow session. Image source: Getty
Don't Turn It Into A MarathonThink about how long you're having sex. Are you going for 15 minutes or are you and bae doing it again, and again, and again, and again? If you tend to be more like the second option, all of the sex could be causing your pain. As pleasurable as it may be at the time, it could be leaving you tender afterwards or the next day. So, try some shorter sessions and see if that improves things. If you still like long sex marathons, remember that there are other hot things you can do. Image source: Getty
What are your tips for preventing pain during sex? Let us know in the comments!
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