Some people use college as a time to focus on making lots and lots of amazing friends. For others, they use it as a time to experiment by dating new people that were outside of their high school type. You might be someone who still wants a relationship and doesn’t really get the appeal of hopping from one person (or bed) to the next.
First, I want to say that there’s nothing wrong with you for wanting to have steady relationships in college. It’s a personal choice just like it is to date multiple people. The second thing I want to say is that college relationships are different than high school ones so there are some slight adjustments you might want to try to help keep your relationship on track.
The good news is that the things you need to do aren’t drastic and they don’t require a lot of time. They’re all about being in tune with your situation, bae’s situation, and adapting to college life. Have a look at some easy tips on how to make your college relationships work.
Don't Worry About Other PeopleRemember that there are two of you in this relationship. Therefore, try not to be swayed by friends, family, roommates, or random drunken college students who proclaim that you don't have a *proper* college experience unless you're single and hooking up with random people every night. If you are happy being with bae, and bae is happy with you, that's all that matters. Image source: Getty
Try To Create Some Sort Of ScheduleI know that it might not be the sexiest thing, but some college couples benefit from having a schedule. i.e. Try making Friday date night when you know you don't have any class the next day. Or, have Wednesday be your phone call night so you can have a midweek boost. Sometimes, you might have to deviate from the schedule, or you might find out you're better off without it. That's alright. Just try to figure out something that works for you. Image source: Getty
Remember All Forms Of CommunicationObviously seeing bae is amazing, but sometimes it just won't be possible. Thanks to all of the technologies on offer today, there are lots of ways you can keep in contact with your SO. A sweet Snapchat or text can make all the world of difference on a night filled with reviewing chapters. Then there's Snapchat, emails, Instagram, and good ol' phone calls. Image source: Getty
Create Time When You Don't Talk About SchoolCollege can sometimes be all-consuming. Therefore, the last thing you want is to spend your date night discussing it with bae. Think of it as a time to relax and get away. Obviously, some of your conversation will be dedicated to school, but try to make some time where you and bae talk about things besides school, that jerk prof, and your essay. This will also be benefit to you if your relationship continues after college. Image source: Getty
Do Not Put Extra Pressure On YourselvesCollege has a lot of pressure so don't add even more with your relationship. Even if you and bae are serious about it, and each other, try not to let the mental pressure of this being the relationship get to you. Try to go with the flow and actually enjoy the time together rather than planning for the future and thinking what's going to happen next. Image source: Getty
Ensure You Have Individual College ExperiencesIt's easy when we're in new relationships to want to do everything with the other person. As tempting as it may be, resist the urge to do it. It's important to have your own experiences so you can have your own separate memories. Chances are you and bae don't have totally the same interests. You could check out a club while bae attends a school game or vice versa. The space apart will also allow you to enjoy your time together more. Image source: Getty
Communicate When You're StressedCollege can be stressful AF. Tempting as it may be to internalize all those feelings, don't. If bae is also in school, he/she will understand what you're going through. And your SO can be there to offer assistance or give you some space you need. If you keep quiet, it will likely lead to animosity or you feeling annoyed that you have to do something with bae instead of worrying about your school work. Image source: Getty
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