8 Pieces Of Guy Advice Every Girl Needs To Hear Before Turning 18

If you are a person who identifies as a girl who happens to be attracted to people who identify as boys, my first instinct is to tell you that, well, I’m sorry. It is unfair to generalize, of course, but it is generally true that most of the guys that you will end up liking will end up causing you some sort of headache, heartache, or something in between—especially the ones you like when you are a teenager.

Will this always be the case? No. Of course not. Still, it’s important to be prepared for when it does happen–and the best way to do this, of course, is by crowdsourcing. You could ask your friends or your family, but chances are good that your friends are just as clueless as you are, and you might not want to talk to your mom and dad about the various complications that come from dating (or trying to date) teenage boys.  This is why I like this Reddit thread I found recently on the best guy and dating advice for all girls to know about. It’s super helpful!  So, check out this boy advice that every girl should hear before turning 18: 

 


Don't Put Up With Things You Don't Want To Deal With

Most of us tend to give the people we're interested in a little extra leeway when it comes to their behavior and how they treat us. But try and think about this the way theinfamousj put it: "If you wouldn't put up with a child doing it, don't put up with a potential romantic partner doing it." This type of logic also applies to how you would react if you found out someone your friend was dating was pulling some kind of immature BS. Would you tell them to stick with the guy? Or would you tell them to dump them, stat? Try and follow the advice you'd give your friends.

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Pay Attention To Red Flags

Does something a guy does make you feel uncomfortable or a little unsafe? You definitely don't have to put up with it. Sodabrothel said, "Violating boundaries and not taking 'no' for an answer isn't romantic or cute. It's a red flag for serious, damaging violations down the line. Respect others' wishes and boundaries, and don't put up with people who don't respect yours." Yep! This can be kind of tough, since girls are conditioned to think that having a guy pursue them endlessly is what they should want. But, in most cases, stuff like this is a sign of much worse things to come later on. Don't put up with it!

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Don't Prioritize People Who Won't Prioritize You

Sodabrothel said, "Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option." Again--good advice for everyone, not just people who like guys! But if you're still hung up on that one guy who only texts you every few weeks, drop him . He's not worth it!

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Pay Attention To How You Feel At The Beginning Of A Relationship

It's so, so important to pay attention to how someone treats you in the early stages of a relationship. CaliforniaCat said, "If you don't like how you're being treated when you're dating, it isn't going to get better." In fact, chances are pretty good that the thing they're doing--whatever it is--is only going to get worse over time. If it's something that you think can be changed, try and talk to them about it, but don't wait forever for it to happen.

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Don't Idolize Your Potential Partners

Try not to put anyone on a pedestal. Theinfamousj said, "No matter how hot he is, someone, somewhere is sick of putting up with his shit. (Which means that you need to determine if you are willing to put up with his shit first before anything else about him.)" Basically? No one is perfect, so don't expect anyone to be. This doesn't mean that you should enter a relationship with,  like, zero expectations, but it does mean that you should be discerning with what you choose to put up with and when.

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Don't Commit To One "Type"

Certain that you can only ever be with a certain type of person? Maybe try widening your scope, like, a little bit. Justanotherflower said, "For me, it was to let go of what you think is your 'type' so that you can equally consider more people as potential partners. After I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years, I was bound and determined to find someone that rode motorcycles, had a good singing voice, and had a weird sense of humor. Unsurprisingly, I didn't find anyone until I forgot about the small things that made me like him, and learned to look for different things that I could appreciate about other people." This is good advice! You shouldn't abandon all of your standards, obviously, but it's important to remember that you don't always have to date the same kind of person.

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Don't Commit To Anyone Who Doesn't Care About You As Much As You Care About Them

This is easier said than done, but try to only be with people who seem to genuinely care about you as much as you care about them. Twelvedayslate said, "My mom told me this when I was 19, and it's stuck with me ever since: 'Don't be with a man who you love more than he loves you.'" Basically, if you're pining after someone who seems to get off on the fact that you like them more than they like you, and, as a result, put in a lot more effort than they do, drop them. It's not worth it.

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Remember How To Be Okay On Your Own

Mokita_archetype said, "Always remember how to be alone and know that you can survive on your own if things go badly." This definitely isn't exclusive to people who like guys-- it's pretty good life advice, like, in general--but it's super important to remember if something ends poorly. If you're comfortable being on your own, you know you'll always be okay no matter what.

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