Have you ever been in a relationship and felt like it was going reasonably well overall, but you couldn’t deny a feeling that something wasn’t quite right? Did you sometimes find yourself feeling overwhelmed or thinking back to your days as a single lady? Or, maybe you’re going through it right now. If you feel something is off, but you can’t pinpoint it to something like a lack of ~*spark*~ or you and bae not having enough in common, it could be that you need some space.
I know the phrase, “I need some space” can be a scary one, whether you’re saying it or hearing it. Most of us think that it’s a prelude to breaking up or a way of dumping someone without actually saying, “I want to break up.” If we get that totally negative mentality out of our heads and focus on what we need, we can start to see that sometimes some space can actually save a relationship.
If you’re struggling with the current state of your relationship and you’re not really sure why, check out eight signs you might actually need some space in your relationship.
You Find Yourself Missing Your IndependenceDo you find yourself thinking back to the days when you were single and you could make decisions for yourself? Getting some space away from bae to do your own thing can be good. It will hopefully help you realize that you are still independent and that you can do things just for you. What's more, it can show you whether you miss sometimes having someone there to make decisions with. Image source: Getty
You Find Bae's Getting ClingyIf you were to describe bae, is clingy one of the first words that springs into your mind? If so, you might want to have a discussion with bae about it. After that you can realize whether setting some boundaries and getting some space can benefit the two of you so you can appreciate the time that you share together more. Image source: Getty
You're Relieved When You Have A Girls' Night OutAdmit it: Are you secretly relieved when you have a girls' night because you know bae won't be there? It's great to be happy to be with your friends, but it's a red flag if you are also feeling relief that you don't have to spend the time with bae. If you're confused why you're feeling this way, some space could be the thing to help solve the issue. Image source: Getty
You're Feeling Overwhelmed AFIf you want to set your relationship status to *overwhelmed AF and don't know what to do,* I hear you. If you're feeling overwhelmed about being in a relationship and what goes along with it, it might be time to clear you head with a break. A break can hopefully help you assess what it is you're stressing about, whether it's pressure from your family, pressure from bae, or the pressure you're putting on yourself. Image source: Getty
You're Not Sure What You Want In Your RelationshipHave you gotten to a stage where you're in a long-term relationship, but you're not really sure why you're in it? It might be comfortable, but you're not sure where it should go next and where your SO wants it to go. Rather than constantly talking to bae about it, taking some time to think about it on your own can help. Image source: Getty
You're Envious Of Your Single FriendsDealing with a mild case of jealously with your single friends? First, it's helpful to try and figure out why you're feeling jealous. Is it because you wish you had their freedom, free time, or they don't have someone calling them 50,000 times? It's alright if you can't pinpoint it right away. Getting some space can help you figure it out. And if you can figure out the reason, having some space might help you put things into perspective about whether you should keep your relationship situation the same, or change it. Image source: Getty
You Have Other Issues Going On In Your LifeIs everything piling on top on each other at the moment and you feel like you're getting crushed by it all? It happens to us all at different points. If you find that your relationship has turned into another thing that you have to balance along with school, work, homework, applying for colleges, friends, Instagram, SATs, whatever, communicate with bae. A good SO should be supportive with you taking some time to figure out the other parts of your life. Image source: Getty
You're Not Feeling As Connected To BaeWhen you and bae first got together, did you feel like the two of you were perfectly in tune? Do you feel that somewhere along the way it has changed? If you still have feelings for bae, but you find yourself thinking about the *good old days* of your relationship, a bit of space could help you reevaluate the situation and appreciate what you still have. Plus, there's that thing about how absence will hopefully make the heart grow fonder. Image source: Getty
Have you ever felt that you needed more space in your relationship? Let us know in the comments!
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