7 Little Signs Your BF Is Actually Ruining Your Life

I know that there has been a lot of conversation revolving around abusive relationships recently, and that stuff is definitely serious and intense. This can sometimes make it seem like a relationship is only really bad if it’s abusive… and that’s not true. A relationship doesn’t have to be severely toxic to be ruining your life. Sure, maybe it’s not ACTUALLY ruining your life, but it can be making your life harder or even adding too much stress. It can be hard to notice these things when you’re so in love with someone!

It sucks to realize that you’re not living up to your full potential in a relationship. Yes, relationships can be hard, but they also shouldn’t make you too stressed and overwhelmed. You might not even realize that your BF is doing things that are low-key ruining your life or relationship. It’s important to be aware of these things so that you can take action before it’s too late and you’re miserable with your BF. Check out these little signs that your BF might be ruining your relationship.

You Never Have Time To Yourself

This is such a big sign. Your BF might not be forcing you to hang with him, but you feel the need to spend all your time with him, which leaves you with little to no time on your own. I know it's cheesy, but you really need to be happy on your own before you can be happy with others.

Freaks And Geeks

You Put Their Needs In Front Of Yours

Even if they don't ask you to, you are always putting their needs first. This can be emotionally (and sometimes physically) draining. It's okay to take care of your SO, but you also need to be sure you're taking care of yourself.

Gilmore Girls

You Don't Get Things In Return

If you put all of your time and effort into this relationship and yet don't get anything in return, it's not a balanced or fair relationship. This can be taking a lot out of you! A relationships should be work for both partners, not just one. If you are not getting anything from your bae and yet you keep doing things for them, it's not fair.

Gossip Girl

You Lie To Your Friends

I am guilty of this, honestly. In college, my friends knew how terrible my relationship was, so I would lie to them when I was going to hang out with my boyfriend at the time. I totally regret it now, since they knew what was best for me! If you can't be honest with your friends about your relationship, there is something wrong.

The OC

They Put Too Much Pressure On You

Real talk: if your BF puts too much pressure on you, that can be super manipulative. If they say things like "I don't know what I would do without you" it may seem sweet and innocent, but that can add some unwanted pressure on you.

Pretty Little Lairs

You Don't Know What He's Thinking

If you're always guessing what your BF is thinking, it means he isn't communicating with you correctly. That makes your relationship a lot harder than it should be. Be sure to encourage open and honest communication so you BOTH can ~thrive~!


You Base Your Decisions Around Him

This is a big NOPE. If I learned ANYTHING from The Hills, it's that you should never base your decisions around your boyfriend. Lauren had an opportunity to go to Paris, but she stayed for a boy. Don't do that!


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