When you’re a teenager, you tend to hear a lot of annoying advice from adults in your life. They’re always telling you things like, “Don’t get tied down in a relationship while you’re in high school, get out there and do your own thing!” and “Travel as much as you can! Being an adult sucks!” Then you’re like, “Excuse me, but I’m in LOVE and you don’t understand me” or “Thanks but how about you give me some MONEY to do all this traveling you insist I do?”
I remember being in high school and having that kind of condescending advice thrown at me all the time. I would roll my eyes and ignore whatever they were saying because I was convinced I knew better. But honestly? I know I’m going to sound like a weird, bitter adult when I say this, but I wish I had listened to some of it. Overall, I don’t regret the decisions I made completely, because they made me who I am. But still.. sometimes I wish I had done a few things differently.
So, you might hear annoying advice like the below quite often, and you might want to ignore it and roll your eyes at it and live life on your own terms, but… you should probably pay attention to this stuff. Trust me. Here are a few pieces of life advice you should actually listen to, coming from this Ask Reddit thread.
Don't Date Someone Who Is A Lot Older Than YouOne of the most frustrating things to be told when you're in high school or college is that you shouldn't date people who are a lot older than you. The advice comes off as condescending and insulting. But... take it from someone who dated someone 10 years older than her when she was 18 (me): it's not a good idea. User badum-kshh explains, "Be careful dating with a large age gap. Not a universal 'don't do it,' and the older you get the less significant an age difference may be, but more a warning for when you are 19 and on your own for the first time and feeling like you're doing so awesome and someone a decade your senior is interested in you. At the time it can feel so flattering, like its 'proof' that you're a real adult and ready for an adult relationship, but someone in their late 20s who chooses to date teenagers probably does so for a reason: they are less experienced, don't always know what is 'normal' for a healthy relationship, and can be easier to manipulate and enforce dependency." Source: iStock
Put Yourself FirstIt sounds really selfish to advise someone to always put themselves first, but honestly, it's important advice. Of course, you still want to be kind to people and you want to be there for your loved ones and friends, but at the same time, you have to look out for yourself. User chechechelook says, "First: yourself Second: yourself Third: yourself Fourth: yourself Fifth: others." Again, it might sound selfish, but sometimes you have to be selfish to do what's best for you. You'll find that everyone else is putting themselves first too. That doesn't mean you can't help other people or do things for others. It just means you need to keep your best interests in mind - no one is going to do that for you, and if you don't, you'll be left in the dust. Source: iStock
Go Out and Do Things Instead Of Staying HomeGrowing up, I was shy and introverted, and I liked to do my own thing at home. I spent most of my time with my high school boyfriend and I didn't get out much. My parents always encouraged me to be more social, sometimes forcing me to go out... and I hated it. And I'm sure a lot of you hate this advice too. But listen up: user UrbanCowgirl79 says, "Travel, go to events, see concerts, don't put it off. The years go by and yes it's easier to stay home most of the time and watch Netflix or play video games. Then you wonder where all the time went." Not to sound like a bitter adult, but it's true! Once you get a full-time job and a ton of responsibilities, you don't have as much time to just hang with friends or go on vacation. You don't need to go out every single day, but push yourself to do it when the opportunity comes up. Source: iStock
Don't Ruin Things For Someone You Have A Crush OnOkay, here's probably the most common piece of advice ever: zephyrlily says, "He is not worth ruining your life for. Either is she. The only one who puts you first is you unless you get really, really stupidly lucky." It sounds cliche and annoying, but it's so important. Don't focus your entire life around one person, because chances are good they won't always be there. In high school, I focused my time and energy all on one guy. I wanted to transfer to a different school that probably would have been better for me, but I didn't because of him. It's not worth it! Source: iStock
Stand Up For YourselfAs a teenager, it can be hard to stand up for yourself because older people are constantly doubting you. But you know you best! As user dontakelife4granted says, "Be your own best advocate in every situation--pretend you are your own best friend and follow through on any advise you would give. We often treat others so much better than we treat ourselves." Source: iStock
Don't Wear Makeup If You Don't Want ToRight now, makeup is super popular - but that doesn't mean you have to do it. As corny as it sounds, learn how to be comfortable in your own skin. User itsacalamity says, "Don't spend so much time on hair and makeup unless you want to. If it's the right person they're going to see you in the morning and right out of the shower anyway; it's better to spend the time getting comfortable in your own skin." Source: iStock
Sometimes You Have To Just Deal With Crappy ThingsOkay, this is super important user lulu71013 says, "At work: Sometimes you have to suck it up and deal with the bullshit. It will feel so wrong to smile and nod when shitty things are happening, but if you can hold your tongue and power through, your career will thank you." This is a huge part of growing up: learning that sometimes you just have to suck it up and deal with crappy situations. You have to learn how to pick your battles - it will make the rest of life a little easier. Source: iStock
Don't Let Your Relationship Control Your DecisionsAgain, please don't make big decisions based on your relationship. User Deliriums_antisocial says, "Don't let relationships dictate what you're doing or where you're going in your life." I wanted to go away to college so badly, but I didn't because of my now ex-boyfriend. Everything ended up working out and I love my college experience, but still - I'm so mad that I let him control so many of my important life decisions. Yes, it's possible that you two will end up being together forever, but it's honestly more possible that you won't. Do what's right for YOU. If you're meant to be together, it will work out. Source: iStock
Save Your MoneyThis is what I should have listened to! User GetInHere says, "Put money into my retirement savings. Even if it was only a few dollars a month, I wish I would have started saving earlier." Okay, you don't have to start a retirement savings when you're 14 (unless you are very organized), but you should definitely start a savings account that you put money into often. If you have a part-time job, don't blow all of your cash on stupid things. This is coming from someone who has major money issues. Don't do it! Source: iStock
Take Care Of Your SkinThere's a really big emphasis on skincare in the beauty world right now, which makes me so happy. And there's a reason for that! User AlmostDisappointed says, "Moisturize and sun screen. Skin is an organ that deserves as much care as all the internal ones and you only have one set." Taking care of your skin is incredibly important and not something you want to be lazy about. Wear sunscreen! Moisturize every single day! Wash your makeup off! Use face masks! You'll appreciate this later on! Source: iStock
Talk To Your ParentsI know you're probably fighting with your parents right now, but please make it a point to talk to them. User Sheep_god says, "Seriously, call your parents. My mom passed away late last year and I wish every day I could just talk to her more. Even about inane things like when she would read Facebook memes to me. I can't tell you how much I miss that. I would give up a week of my life for one hour of that." Guys, I was so mean to my parents when I was in high school. We fought constantly and I made everything difficult. Now I love them! I hang out with them all the time and I'm basically obsessed with them. I always feel bad about the time lost when I was younger and felt the need to make everything an argument. Try to stay in touch with them, okay? Source: iStock
Start Over If You Need ToUser findquasar says, "Don't be afraid to start over, even if it's hard. Starting a new career is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life, but it's so much better to be forging this path than wishing I were somewhere else and wondering what could have been." I love this advice. It's easy to feel like every decision you make is final, like you can never change it. But you can! You can change your whole life and start over if you need to. Don't forget that. Source: iStock
Which piece of advice do you dislike? Are you going to listen to any of this? Tell us in the comments.